Vendor wont move

KateLiana27

Go back to her and explain your situation honestly (regarding the non-changeable holiday dates). She may not realise what an issue the date is for you, unless you have told her. A reasonable person would try to accommodate you, for example by staying with family or friends for a few days. Maybe you could agree to store a few bulky items for her if she genuinely cannot move to her new place until the 23rd. Unless you are willing to lose the house by taking a hard line, it's all about negotiation.

What your solicitor may have meant is that 5 working days is the MINIMUM standard time between exchange and completion, as this is how long it takes to draw down mortgage funds and so on. (It can be shortened in some circumstances, but a good rule of thumb is 5 working days minimum). The "usual" time is not often the minimum.

geoffky

Same day for us...i dont know why but might it be because it was a cash sale..

RedwoodBrook

geoffky wrote: »

Same day for us...i dont know why but might it be because it was a cash sale..

Same here. We were also desperate to get in after the vendor initially dragged their heels..

Slinky

Exchanged on a Tuesday, completed on the Thursday

clutton_2

moving house is the next most stressful thing to a death in the family - sounds like you have reached stress level and beyond !! have a good rant with a good mate, break a few old bit of china, punch the cushions.. whatever it takes

in 3 weeks time you wont even be able to remember all this ......

FireWyrm

KateLiana27 wrote: »

Go back to her and explain your situation honestly (regarding the non-changeable holiday dates).

I cant as the EA I was working with is currently off on paternity leave and the new one couldnt find her !!! with both hands. On Wednesday, I was being chivvied by the EA to get the paperwork back and get exchange for this Friday. I told him my situation then as I had done the week before. He said the vendor would be 'over the moon' with the additional week and it would all be fine for the 19th. Now, he's disappeared suddenly and I cant get hold of anyone. Last night I got a message from the new EA saying that the vendor couldnt move until 23rd so suck on it, oh, and not to exchange today.

KateLiana27 wrote: »

She may not realise what an issue the date is for you, unless you have told her. A reasonable person would try to accommodate you, for example by staying with family or friends for a few days.

Yes, and that's why I feel a bit agrieved. All the way through this I've bent over backwards to get this through because she was 'desperate to move' etc, I even turned the paperwork and deposit around on Wednesday in anticipation of exchange today so she would have this weekend and next weekend to find somewhere. The EA had told me she has several places in mind and it's just a case of signing papers which she cannot do until after exchange, which is fair enough. I've been trying to be reasonable, but I gave an inch and she's taken a mile.

KateLiana27 wrote: »

Maybe you could agree to store a few bulky items for her if she genuinely cannot move to her new place until the 23rd. Unless you are willing to lose the house by taking a hard line, it's all about negotiation.

Negotiation in fine. I just dont like having my hand forced. I've been told that this is how it is, so stuff you.

KateLiana27 wrote: »

What your solicitor may have meant is that 5 working days is the MINIMUM standard time between exchange and completion, as this is how long it takes to draw down mortgage funds and so on. (It can be shortened in some circumstances, but a good rule of thumb is 5 working days minimum). The "usual" time is not often the minimum.

No, I confirmed with him last night. He only needs 4 days, not 5 to between exchange and complete apparently. I've never heard of this and have no experience, but I cannot see why an electronic transfer would take longer to be frank. He tells me that if we exchange on the 15th, that would be fine for the 23rd. I'm just !!!!ed that all the way through it's been 'hurry hurry' and now it's 'oh, wait....'

theartfullodger

FireWyrm wrote: »

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Negotiation in fine. I just dont like having my hand forced. I've been told that this is how it is, so stuff you.


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Dear petal: I appreciate property purchase may make some people feel stress but surely there are manners to be adhered to?? If this is your style of communication I doubt you chances of success in negotiation with your vendor.. - Seriously, people like dealing with people they like dealing with ...

Cheers!

Artful

Soot2006

theartfullodger wrote: »

Dear petal: I appreciate property purchase may make some people feel stress but surely there are manners to be adhered to?? If this is your style of communication I doubt you chances of success in negotiation with your vendor.. - Seriously, people like dealing with people they like dealing with ...

Cheers!

Artful

I think the punctuation was meant to be:

I've been told that: "this is how it is, so stuff you."

Didn't read that as OP telling anyone to stuff themselves ... just that she'd been told to stuff herself!

FireWyrm

theartfullodger wrote: »

Dear petal: I appreciate property purchase may make some people feel stress but surely there are manners to be adhered to?? If this is your style of communication I doubt you chances of success in negotiation with your vendor.. - Seriously, people like dealing with people they like dealing with ...

Cheers!

Artful

Dear Arful...no, sorry people, I was quoting the tone that they were using with me...not to someone else....sorry for the mixup.

FireWyrm

Soot2006 wrote: »

I think the punctuation was meant to be:

I've been told that: "this is how it is, so stuff you."

Didn't read that as OP telling anyone to stuff themselves ... just that she'd been told to stuff herself!

...and people say that punctuation isn't necessary in English anymore....I'd say that was a perfect case in point.