2ND time around

make_me_wise

I think the 10K you gave him first time round was extremely generous. Dont quite understand why it was you that paid out his ex wifes share of the equity in their house?

Very few newly weds, first or second time round, recieve 40K from their parents. Set up a savings account for him, start him off with a pound. Do they still do those paying in books? Then he can save up monthly and pay you back the 30K

Seriously you have done more than enough. Just give him loads of love and support and look fab on his big day.

jamespir

get them a juicer dont give them any more money

January20

euronorris wrote: »

I'm guessing/assuming that it was in order to keep the house, but I'm not sure why it couldn't have been sold?

Maybe the gf was being difficult, and demanding money quickly, when we all know the current market rarely allows for a quick sale these days!

I know he wouldn't have to bend to that, as the law would be on his side, but......she could've been causing grief in other ways.

I still think it should've been up to the OP's son to sort though, but if my assumption/guess is correct, I can understand why the OP would want to help.

Surely he would be expected to repay this amount though?

Yes, that was pretty much what I was thinking. I do also think that the son should have dealt with it himself in this case and that he should be repaying his parent, if only to learn that there is not always somebody around to bail you out when things go pear shaped, and the value of 30k (I wish that somebody would give me 30K ).

I hope the OP comes back and clarifies it all for us!

euronorris

scheming_gypsy wrote: »

Give them your share of his house.....

it probably could have been sold but why did it have to be sold? if the son wanted to keep the house and carry on paying the mortgage then why should he have to sell it if a parent is willing to pay the girlfriend off.

IMO, as an adult, he should've dealt with the situation himself.

Asking for a small loan from your folks is one thing. But asking (or even accepting when it's been offered) for 30K, when they've already given you 10K to get set up to start with is a bit much.

But, that's just my opinion.

euronorris

January20 wrote: »

(I wish that somebody would give me 30K ).

Ha! Me too! :rotfl:

Unless the person giving it is VERY well off though, I don't think I could accept it.

gillypkk

i would give him a nice card.

you cannot be expected to pay out anymore money for anything you have done way more than you should have!

and he ought to be paying you back for everything unless you actually own the hpouse he lives in himself in that case you will be able to get your money back when you sell it.

Percy1983

You fancy adopting a well mannered, house trained 27 year old male do you?

I plan to get married next year.

make_me_wise

Budge over percy, I think the OP may prefer a daughter. Im married already so no expense either

gillypkk

Percy1983 wrote: »

You fancy adopting a well mannered, house trained 27 year old male do you?

I plan to get married next year.

make_me_wise wrote: »

Budge over percy, I think the OP may prefer a daughter. Im married already so no expense either

nope she can adopt me and gets 2 beautiful grandsons too!

im in the middle of getting divorced and never getting married again. no family home or anything like that!

Percy1983

I am an accountant, always useful to have one in the family.