2ND time around

sector12

Already gave son 10k to set up home with 1st girlfriend then had to pay her 30k when the relationship failed (her share of equity on house).
He is getting married soon what sort of wedding present should i get him as I certainly cant afford same again????:( or have i done enough? in a real quandry:(

mountainofdebt

sector12 wrote: »

Already gave son 10k to set up home with 1st girlfriend then had to pay her 30k when the relationship failed (her share of equity on house).
He is getting married soon what sort of wedding present should i get him as I certainly cant afford same again????:( or have i done enough? in a real quandry:(

None - just love and support

donteatthat

I think you have done enough! You sound like a very supportive parent and I'm sure your son knows this.

podperson

Hun, you have done more then enough money-wise. Can't you just get him something small and personal? I'm sure he appreciates all you have done and will be quite happy with you just being there to support him on the big day.

newcook

my friend was telling me about a wedding she was a bridesmaid at - when they had the 'pronounce you husband and wife kiss' she took a picture then nipped upstairs where she had also brought her photo printer thingy and had the picture printed, in a pretty frame and wrapped and got them to open it while having the wedding breakfast!

the bride has always said it was one of the best presents she has received - and it didnt cost a lot but showed a lot of thought.

euronorris

As others have said, you certainly don't need to give him anything other than love and support. Financially, you've already done more than enough.

I'm curious though, why did you pay out the gf's share of the equity for him?

Lozzy88

after the wedding id send my son a repayment plan £40,000 you have parted with bloody hell!

January20

Yes, I was going to ask the same question as Euronorris did. Why did you pay the gf? Did your son keep the house or was it sold?

And to answer your question, you don't have to buy anything but a nice personal present, especially if you don't a lot of money. Does your son expect you to fork out another 30-40K? Or would you not giving such a lavish present make him think you don't think as much of his present gf as you did of the first one?

CH27

euronorris wrote: »

As others have said, you certainly don't need to give him anything other than love and support. Financially, you've already done more than enough.

I'm curious though, why did you pay out the gf's share of the equity for him?

I wondered about that too:D

euronorris

January20 wrote: »

Yes, I was going to ask the same question as Euronorris did. Why did you pay the gf? Did your son keep the house or was it sold?

I'm guessing/assuming that it was in order to keep the house, but I'm not sure why it couldn't have been sold?

Maybe the gf was being difficult, and demanding money quickly, when we all know the current market rarely allows for a quick sale these days!

I know he wouldn't have to bend to that, as the law would be on his side, but......she could've been causing grief in other ways.

I still think it should've been up to the OP's son to sort though, but if my assumption/guess is correct, I can understand why the OP would want to help.

Surely he would be expected to repay this amount though?

scheming_gypsy

Give them your share of his house.....

euronorris wrote: »

I'm guessing/assuming that it was in order to keep the house, but I'm not sure why it couldn't have been sold?

it probably could have been sold but why did it have to be sold? if the son wanted to keep the house and carry on paying the mortgage then why should he have to sell it if a parent is willing to pay the girlfriend off.