MONEY MORAL DILEMMA: Should Richard have a ring of truth?

pottybeaver

This reminds me of the situation my father found himself in when his mother died. Both his parents had well respected jobs in the community and amassed silver, china, furs, antique furniture and jewellery. When his father died, his mother continued to live in the house and before she died promised many things to him. Unfortunately this wasn't written down. The day that my grandmother died, his brother completely stripped the house of any thing of value so all my father had was broken or odd sets of china and odd pieces of furniture.:mad:

Anyway, back to the dilemma; whose to say that the other momentos aren't worth anything? Each family member agreed to take something and each had a choice over what artefact they wanted. Would the cousins own up if they had taken the ring? Richard took that ring for his daughter, so really it is up to her in the future what to do with it.

lynedoch

The choice was there as was the fair chance that any other members of the family could have the ring.
Keep it and be thankful. I'd say good luck but I think that would be redundant!

Middlestitch

Keep the ring - it was an innocent keepsake.

Jeanann_2

If the ring was chosen as a keepsake and was chosen for sentiment not value then the daughter should keep it and wear it. Value is irrelevant, sentiment counts for more as far as I'm concerned.

Had similar experience when my daughter was given a ring that she had admired from a young child, by her Grandma (it had been worn by her and her mother all their lives). Grandma thought it to be gold and diamonds but when we took it to have a diamond that was missing replaced it turned out to be cut glass and non precious metal, we had the stone replaced. My daughter still treasures it as it has been worn by her Grandma and great Grandma.

andy_roobarb

I don't think the 'they might be hiding valuable things too, so you should, just in case' argument is particularly, um, moral. But...I'm still going to come down on the side that says this is OK if he passes it on to his daughter, not OK if he sells it & pockets the money. After all, what if something is recognised as valuable a year after the estate is divided, 2 years etc? Is there a statute of limitations for this sort of thing?
I've just argued against myself there, I think. By my logic it's OK to keep it regardless . Really, it just seems OK to me if it's kept for family reasons, not OK if sold for naked greed.

Andy

lamp

The ring is only worth £8,000 if it's sold. If the ring is never sold, then don't say anything. If the ring is ever given away outside of the family or sold, then split the proceeds.

srg123

a good ? i think i would do the right thing and admit how much the ring was worth and ask them what they would like me to do.

JayD

Honesty is the best policy.
He should tell the other's of his discover re the ring's value and ask what they would prefer him to do - and abide by the majority decision.

Happy new year everyone.

bronipel

If he took the ring as a momento for his daughter of her grandmother then I think that he should let her have it. If he decides to sell it then that is a different matter and that the money should be divided. at least he got the chance to choose some jewellery for his daughter as some people don't get the chance!

helenlou_3

This ring was taken as a keepsake for his Daughter in memory of her grandmother. There should only be sentimental value put on it ,as hopefully the ring would never be sold, so no i dont think he should give it back