The Matrix - Re-Evolution!!

ClootiesMum

A quick pop on at lunchtime

Callisto - re kindling. Do you have a high scholl near you or any educational thing that does woodwork? we've acquired contacts in the woodwork areas of 2 schools that keep us more than supplied in bits of wood for kindling.

Memory_Girl

Forgive me ladies - for I have sinned.

Definitely NOT a NSD today - passed the local furniture place and they had a neutral wool carpet the perfect size for DS2's bedroom -whenever that happens.

So I am home £25 lighter - £9 from cash in hand (my £1 rail money) and £16 from the kids holiday fund ..... so I will make an effort to pull my budget around asap as they are off on holidays from Friday.

But a carpet would have cost me £100 plus on ebay for same quality - so there's a silver lining I suppose.

Bitsy - my boys are growing up to be quite the foodies - so Italian, Indian, Chinese, Thai are always on the menu here. At least they are growing up to try everything.:D My friends with families look at the stuff they eat with :eek: too. DS2 was making pizza at playgroup and they were using pitta breads - he told the playleader "that's not how you make proper pizza you know?":rotfl:

Off to do some sewing and keep away from spending any more money:o

MG

milann

It's so hard when friends don't understand Thrifty - don't let them get you down.

Home made veg soup sonds good to me - might even go and put some on myself. Have had a horrendous tummy bug - completely knocked me for 6 yesterday. Feeling a little more human today and have managed tea and toast. Soup is sounding like a good idea - might test my strength and go and make some.........

Think I might research the make do and mend threads too.

Horace

Scaredy - I didnt know I could get a promise note from Tesco, am not going back today so will remember for next time.

Callisto - we have tons of neighbourhood offices but I am crafty having already copied my bank statements which I will post (things get lost in Neighbourhood Offices as I know to my cost). The job search continues. Had a letter from the bank today, they didnt pay my rent because I had insufficient funds so they have charged me £25 for the privilege of returning the payment so no rent paid in September and I am currently £56 overdrawn:mad: My rent is £525 a month and my overdraft is £500 as standard. No matter how much I like First Direct, I will have to shift my money to a new account - they know my circumstances but like to pile on the charges which I think are unfair:(

Had a letter from Virgin CC too about my card - they have reduced all my interest to zero and have said that I am not to pay them anything even though I am paying them £1 as I said I would. I am never using the card again anyway and hopefully when I see mum she will let me have some money to pay it off (I do not expect her to pay it all). I hates this situation.

The job hunt is continuing - I looked on Tesco website today but they don't have anything at the mo well not near me and I don't want to go to Welwyn Garden City. I wish I wasnt in such a pickle - I wasnt aware of Income Support but now I should be getting JSA, I cannot apply for that.

Firewalker

thriftyscotslass wrote: »

Could do with a few soothing Matrix vibes please. Some friends are arranging a trip to celebrate one of their 50th birthdays, the cost of which would be in the region of £500. I have made my apologies but it has been an awkward morning all round. Feeling a bit frustrated - they can't seem to get that my life has changed , we won't / can't go back to where we were before ds was diagnosed ... and breathe Thrifty.

I think a nice homemade veggie soup is called for. Later y'all.

Thrifty, this is The Boot...Please do not feel frustrated - spending £500 on celebrating someone else's birthday (not your loved one's and again I would consider even that as extreem hedonism) is plain silly. Feeling deprived and frustrated because of that is not worth it.

My feeling is that you still have a bit of the 'discipline' and 'external' element in you. Aim to move to 'motivation' and 'internal' elements. What I mean is: you have a bigger goal and you can even make sacrifices for it (spending this £500 I do not consider a sacrifice, mind); you are so certain about it, it feels so right that you have the animal focus on it - yep, the one where either you eat or you get eaten.

And sorry about typos - I'll deal with this one day.

Firewalker

Firewalker

And I have something to add - yeah, friends and other people may not understand. It doesn't have to be hard - it is about your life, your life-style, what you want and ultimately about your choices.

It took me a long time to get this one; still sometimes revert to worrying about what people think.

Firewalker

scaredy_cat

Horace, as you are unemployed and renting, have you claimed housing benefit from your local council?

robsmum_2

Firewalker wrote: »

And I have something to add - yeah, friends and other people may not understand. It doesn't have to be hard - it is about your life, your life-style, what you want and ultimately about your choices.

It took me a long time to get this one; still sometimes revert to worrying about what people think.

Firewalker

Couldn't agree more and once you have grasped this you find out who your real friends are!

robsmum_2

Have had a succesfull morning. Turned the lappy off and have managed to: Clean kitchen including the windows and floor,living room and hall. Pruned an apple tree and cleared the other half of flower bed and done another half hour of ironing.(Don't know where it's all come from)
Just had homemade pheasant soupfor lunch and now half hour chill time before doing alternate sessions in the garden and house.

Triciaxx

Firewalker wrote: »

And I have something to add - yeah, friends and other people may not understand. It doesn't have to be hard - it is about your life, your life-style, what you want and ultimately about your choices.

It took me a long time to get this one; still sometimes revert to worrying about what people think. Firewalker

It took me a long while as well and every time I think it will never happen again, it does! But sometimes something comes up and you wonder. My SIL, a lovely lady but so conventional and conservative (small 'c' - we don't discuss politics), once let out that she sometimes envies the fact that I've had a varied life. She lives in the town she was born in and, even though they are now retired, she still does the cleaning, washing etc., to a timetable and mealtimes are absolutely fixed. She said it was too late to change now. I tried to persuade her that it's not too late but . . . for her, it seems to be.

Thrifty, I take my (metaphorical) hat off to you. You've chosen a hard road and things like this are going to come up from time to time. I wish they weren't. A friend of mine who had rather a lot of serious problems all piling up once said to me that she had worked out that she shouldn't envy people who seemed to have a charmed life because it just meant they hadn't had any serious problems - yet.

£500 on a birthday celebration in the current economic climate is just heedless IMHO. They may feel immune but are they?