Living alone for the first time in my life.

TooSad

Im living alone at the moment - I have found myself filling my time with exercise and our garden has never looked as good

I go swimming twice a week now and zumba once a week. All after work so that fills some evenings, even if/when OH decides he wants to come back I will still continue with this. In total this costs me £10 a week, I have given up drinking as I am embracing a healthier lifestyle so I guess saving money in one area means it can be spent elsewhere.

I enjoy the new found energy I have as I now feel I have the time to do these things, but I have to say I loathe living on my own, it sucks big time!! (sorry) but I guess no two situations are the same.

I also hate the fact that if I am on my own I don't have anyone to talk to even just rubbish chit chat

VestanPance

Toosad - sounds not unlike me. I'm not a drinker either, which I get strange looks as being a single male by all accounts I should be swimming in beer!

I too fill the time with exercise, not so much with Zumba!

suki1964

MrsE wrote: »

Financially its very tight:(
I'm just covering the basics:(
No more shopping at Waitrose:mad:

Good job me and jeannie taught you a bit about skin care on a budget then

Seriously though Mrs E, sorry to hear you find yourself in this situation

Living alone can be lonely, very lonely. esp if so much of your life has been centered around family. You kind of got to get used to your own company and learn to enjoy it, and then once you have found that much, the rest falls into place with finding what it is you need to fill the space

Ive lived alone for much of my life and Im happy enough with my own company. Wasn't always like that, at first the silence and the meals for one were a night mare. I always needed background noise - at first it was the tv, then the radio, now I find Im not so scared of the silence and often go all day till something I want to watch is on before switching on

Im happy going out for meals on my own and I will go cinema etc on my own. First I always had a book, even now I might pull out my iphone but mostly Im getting known for being on my own

Like I say Im more then happy with my own company. It took a while but I got there. I dont feel the need to do OU or volunteer or find groups to join.

Its not a five minute journey but you will get there


Just to add for thos wondering from my other posts, I lived alone all my teens and 20s and since my 40th DH lives and works in London whilst I live in NI - he comes home once every 4- 6 weeks

TooSad

VestanPance wrote: »

Toosad - sounds not unlike me. I'm not a drinker either, which I get strange looks as being a Scottish male on his own by all accounts I should be swimming in beer!

I too fill the time with exercise, not so much with Zumba!

Cool name :rotfl:

Zumba is brill I do it with a load of women I work with, its really hard but really funny. I work with some of the most uncoordinated people walking on this earth!!!

Swimming - I swim 2/3 of a mile twice a week, have dropped 16lb, 1 dress size and my bbies are now the size they were 16 years ago when I was 17 (every cloud I guess) :T

make_me_wise

Hermia wrote: »

think about all those things you can do on your own that may have been difficult when you were married. It can be the little things. E.g. making your bed into a lovely big nest and sleeping in the middle. Having dinner exactly when you want or making yourself an indulgent 3 course meal for no reason (or having a pot noodle 'cause you can't be a**** to cook). Watching whatever you want on TV without having to worry about what other people like.

Then there are the bigger things. Have you not got any hobbies or interests that you have always wanted to explore? This is your opportunity to do something without worrying about disturbing someone else or being anti-social. You can now go to classes or a group in the evening without worrying about having to get home or telling your partner what you are doing. The thing I love about living on my own is that I can just grab every opportunity. If I see a cheap weekend away in the local paper I can just go. If I see that an interesting film is on tonight I can just go to the cinema after work without having to let someone know or worry about whether they are going to be okay getting their dinner.

Your post is making me miss my single days. Has bought back all the positives of being by yourself.

tomstickland

I've lived on my own for 5 years. The ultimate hassle free existance. There are downsides though. A problem shared is a problem halved and all that.

make_me_wise

Errata wrote: »

The key to a happy life is -

Somewhere to live - you've got that
Something to love - get a budgie, they're cheap to board out when you go on holiday
Something to look forward to - people/ things / places
Something to do - job / volunteer / OU / hobby

And after all that lot there's always the housework

:eek::eek::eek::eek::eek:

Keep busy is my advice, and never have time for housework.

lilac_lady

If you are afraid of loneliness, do not marry.
Anton Chekhov

I love living on my own but I know that some people will stuggle with that situaton.

anniewoo

I have been on my own for 12 years since my DH died unexpectedly when I was 50.Our son and daughter had already left home and married,so it had just been him and me,plus a dog.I found it hard for the first few years,mainly because of financial problems,which meant I was stuck doing a series of dead-end jobs which I hated.

Having sorted out my finances,I began to enjoy being on my own and now I absolutely love it and there is no way I could ever live with anyone else again :j

I agree with all the advantages other people have mentioned about living alone and I have always been happy with my own company anyway.I have a few very close friends,both couples and single women my own age whom I socialise with regularly.I have an open invitation to stay with my DS,D-I-L and grandchildren whenever I want and now that I am retired I can do this.Even though I love to go and stay with them,I am always happy to get back to the peace and quiet of my own home.My DD lives in the US so I don't see her so often.

From my point of view,there are no disadvantages to living alone