would you stay in a job you pasionately hate?

sweetilemon

Are you allowed to 'personalise' the office slightley if its only you that's in? What about headphones? Just to make you feel a bit more comfortable in your surroundings. If the people are nice that's a huge plus, many great jobs are ruined by horrible people. If you have expressed your lack of training and feelings to your boss and nothing has been done then try not to worry about things too much as there isn't as much comeback on you if something isn't right as you have already expressed concerns. However, if you feel all these things won't make you any better then if I were you I'd leave- its not worth making yourself upset and ill over.Although I would say concider your situation before you leave, is your finiancial situation going to make you more stressed than the job did? Or will you feel calmer?I've put up with bad jobs but never so much they make me cry daily, if that was the case I'd be out of there, maybe just not the job for you. Happiness doesn't have a price. Goodluck with your future.

DCFC79

My last job hated but never made me sick/ill. I just stuck it out being in the knowledge that I was in a job and being payed accordingly. Why let it get to you though, leave work stuff at work is what i did. For me I hated the job and some of the people there. I was in the job just over 2 years when luckily i was made redundant.

SarEl

It does also strike me that this isn't the job from hell - to be honest it sounds like a pretty typical job in a small firm. I can appreciate that you feel somewhat at sea - but to some extent or another everyone does in a new job, and to be honest, well your employers seem more than happy that you are doing well, which isn't exactly "normal" around these boards! We get more people who think their employers are horrible, don't value them, criuticise their work, and their colleagues are spiteful. It might just be worth reading a few other threads to put things in perspective? I would also suggest that you get some medical advice before resigning too, because I also think that your reaction is somewhat extreme to what is not, in actual fact, all that bad from the sounds of it - It is entirely possible that depression set in whilst you were unemployed, or even before that, and is simply getting worse. With help you may find that work isn't quite so intolerable! In my experience people like you do actually pick it up as you go along and get to be very good at what they do. That isn't really an excuse for the employer not supporting your training better, and you should be a little more firm about your training needs - but after years of hearing "have you tried re-booting the computer" (yes I bloody have!) to be shortly followed by "not a clue what is wrong", I have found that it is the ones like you who want to give a great service that are the most helpful and the most experienced. Perhaps your expectations of you are too high just now?

Sambucus_Nigra

I worked in construction for 14 years. Now, that was a job to hate. On site for 7am - usually leaving at 9pm or when the sun went down - summer getting ridiculously dehydrated and winter so cold I used to put bubble wrap in my boots. Didn't feel my fingers from getting there to getting home. Didn't stop from the time the concrete came to the time you collapsed when you got home. Walking for back and forward with heavy bags of soil, or concrete cubes that needed making or taking apart, moving about or testing, using compactors to prepare soil [by hand] for testing, driving round taking samples [30kg minimum] which had to be carried back to the truck. Add to that innane sexism and boys and their tomfoolery and idiocy, the fumes, the dirt, the black snot, the missing the summer fun as you were too exhausted to go out, the weekend working when roads could be closed, the paperwork, water direct from the hose and when it rained, the offices getting flooded and it smelling of damp for weeks on end; I could go on. And I haven't even talked about the tw.@t bosses that couldn't cope with a female staff member, or the tw.@t technicians who couldn't cope with having a female tell them what to do.

But, I stayed because I was the one paying the rent.

Out of the 14 years, I hated 12 of them.

Mistral001

trudiuk wrote: »

Hi

I was made redundant last september and finally got a job in March. My friends and family warned me not to take the job just for the sake of having a job, but I did anyway.
T

Why did your family and friends advise you not to take this job?

wessvick

I, for example, don't like my current job either that much but the thing that mostly keeps me from resigning is that I have to have money to pay the bills.

And I have to agree with anniselle go talk to your GP and get checked up.

FBaby

I agree that it doesn't sound like a dreadful job, I expected accounts of bullying, being critisized unfairly, having to work long hours with unrealistic deadlines etc... from my experience, what you are experiencing is normal day to day work life. The commute, yep not great, but no different to what millions do every day. The quiet in the office, not great, but again, not the end of the world. You seem to be talking on the phone a lot, so you do have interaction. The unpleasant phone calls, again, welcome to real life... you have to build yourself a bone, don't take it personally, that's how it is. The stress of not being able to help? Do your best, and if you don't know, just say that you can't help at this second but will get back to them right away. Write the question down, ask your boss right away, build a list of questions/answers etc... To be able to feel better about your job, you need to gain some ownership of it, and to do this, you will need to show some proactive skills.

Of course you can pack it in and look for something else, but to be honest, you will have to accept that you could very much find yourself in a similar position in your future with other jobs. I would definitely keep it, make the best of it, which you can do, and continue to look for something else in the meantime.

an9i77

leave if you must but for god's sake don't do what I did when I was younger and jump from frying pan to fire to fire, mainly in contract roles, hating each one before realising the next one was pretty similar until I eventually worked out that most jobs are a bit rubbish, and you just have to accept that it's work. There are very few people who actually like their jobs, and they're probably the ones who won't be leaving them any time soon. So if you do decide to leave make sure it's for the right reasons and to a job which is different to the one you're in now, or else you could find it's a case of same sh*t different desk

32rclint95

I left a job I felt under appreciated at and did not like a few months ago to help run a company with my family. Turns out, we don't see eye to eye on business matters and I probably should have stayed with my old job. Unemployment and job search is stressful and each day I get more and more stressed. However, Doing what you feel is right is always the best course of action. If you decide leaving is best, find something you will enjoy that pays enough to cover bills for the time being until you find your next big thing. Like others have said though, make sure to A) have another job lined up and make sure you are leaving because of this specific job, not a hatred of office work or another factor. Trust what you feel and go with it.

michaelvintner

Doesn't sound like a job from hell to me. I think you are getting stressed for no reason. I think very few people actually like their jobs. My work place is a chaotic disorganised mess of total bedlam and chaos where something getting done properly is the exception not the norm. I could get stressed about it but I don't because I am not paid enough to give a sh*t. Maybe if they doubled my salary I might be paid enough to care but I find the only way I can get through the day without going nuts is to let it all go over my head.

However the most important thing is

-I get paid
-It is 1000000000 better than the Jobcentre
-At the end of the day I go home.