He's just not that into you - real life examples

flutterbyuk25

ska_lover wrote: »

Oh gosh, dontcha just hate it when a new boyfriend goes cold on you, and you aren't given the reason? It sure does screw your mind up

totally screws with your mind, so annoying :mad:

DizzySpell wrote: »

Ah well, onwards and upwards. I'm awesome, his loss!!

You are AWESOME :A

x

RichGold

FBaby wrote: »

I logged on 192 to be sure that he was indeed living on his own!

From a mans point of view, that's quite a sane thing to do. The crazy ones drive past your house at 3am to see how many cars are there or turn up at the bars you go to "by coincidence".

Memory_Girl

RichGold wrote: »

From a mans point of view, that's quite a sane thing to do. The crazy ones drive past your house at 3am to see how many cars are there or turn up at the bars you go to "by coincidence".

Yeah!!!! and you pretended not to know who I was

Kidding BTW - def not RichGold's stalker

MG

marywooyeah

DizzySpell wrote: »

Oh wow, i've got loads of examples of this. The most recent being last night - i finally plucked up the courage to tell the guy i had been "seeing" that I liked him............ he went silent on me and when i text him a couple of hours later he told me he didn't want to talk about it........

Ah well, onwards and upwards. I'm awesome, his loss!!

that's the spirit!

Pee

I think the worst thing is you don't know what you did or didn't do wrong. I've been pretty lucky when dating and usually ended up on speaking terms with the other person with one of us being open about the fact it's not working.

One guy who I knew through friends I wasn't that interested in and my friends kept on at me, basically telling me what a lovely guy he was and how good we'd be together. They were obviously saying the same thing to him, we were both in the same circles, we were both apparently interested in one another. So we sort of get together, by this time I've decided I really do like him, but the next time I see him he says something to my sister which makes me think it's going a bit fast, a bit serious, and then the next thing he's with someone else, literally minutes after talking to me in the bar he's onto someone else - cue shock and horror from friends - but we manage to stay on speaking terms, albeit I no longer think he's a nice guy and I think he has serious communication issues. A lot of time goes by and it turns out he scared himself because he thought I was too good for him and he wasn't ready to get married - hang on, we had a couple of nice chats and a snog, no way am I ready to get married, I liked him but actually our friends were wrong and the two of us together would I think have been very toxic due to both of our personalities. This got back to me through a very good male friend of mine who knew how upset I was about it all.
I still don't understand why he couldn't have said something to me and instead, in my mind, had to make a fool of me...

Spendless

DizzySpell wrote: »

Oh wow, i've got loads of examples of this. The most recent being last night - i finally plucked up the courage to tell the guy i had been "seeing" that I liked him............ he went silent on me and when i text him a couple of hours later he told me he didn't want to talk about it........

Ah well, onwards and upwards. I'm awesome, his loss!!

If it's any consolation they only become slightly less bonkers when you marry them.

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The break-up of 1 such relationship. out of nowhere seriously screwed my mind for a few years. Eventually I discovered he hadn't been seperated with 1 child like he'd told me, he'd still been married and his wife had had child #2 during our relationship :eek: (long distance one, so how he got away with it). He'd even met who was to become his 2nd wife during this time too!

I believe there was also another woman on the scene with my 2 other serious relationships, as both started seeing someone else within weeks.

At least I knew my hubby was telling the truth when I met him, as he's the older brother of a school-friend.

VfM4meplse

FBaby wrote: »

I have found that in almost all such case, there is another woman somewhere in the background

ForumName wrote: »

Sounds like he has moved on to his next conquest.

This was never my concern, I have excellent radar for this sort of thing. He's made minimal - albeit daily - contact since I posted this thread. The problem is that it would seem that at this moment in time he's too busy for me. 3 days is a long time in history of my love-life, and I have found another source of amusement.

You can't keep a good girl down .

zoesmummy_2006

i'm going through this at the min with a guy i know through my ex husband. We were texting non stop for over a month, we're talking 3500 texts in the thread i deleted at the weekend, fb chat too. i moved house recently with my kids, and then not long after had a hospital appointment for abnormal smear, which he knew about and when i got home from the hospital there was the hugest most beautiful bunch of my favourite flowers from him.

He moved away a couple of years back for work, but last week we were arranging to meet, he was coming to see me and we were gonna spend some time together to see if the chemistry we had via text/phone calls etc was there face to face (it was there the last time i saw him but i was married lol). we'd be texting from 8am-10pm most days, but then last friday it suddenly stopped. I sent him a message mon/tue morning just asking if he was ok and nothing. I honestly never thought he was a coward, but the way he's acting now seems to say it all!!!

im almost divorced and bar one brief fling with a very yummy 20 year old last year ive been single for almost 2 years. im not starting to worry that im never gonna meet someone though, cos everyone i meet that i like is already taken (arent they always!!!!!)

VfM4meplse

zoesmummy_2006 wrote: »

I sent him a message mon/tue morning just asking if he was ok and nothing. I honestly never thought he was a coward, but the way he's acting now seems to say it all!!!

Don't rule out the possibility of something untoward having happened - is there anyone you know in common (apart from your ex ) who may know?

zoesmummy_2006 wrote: »

im almost divorced and bar one brief fling with a very yummy 20 year old

You go, girl :T:T:T. I hope you used him up and wore him out.

Empty_pockets

make_me_wise wrote: »

I thought he just couldn't spell and had left out an h and an e

Cheeky !!!!!!. You never even left a tip last time.

Lucky she doesn't read this, you'd feel the weight of her handbag round the bag of your head.