He's just not that into you - real life examples

Little_Leita

WTVF? And she is cool with that is she?
What is the point of spending 2 to 3 years with someone in that way?
What a waste of time, and you sound like you've got a really healthy attitude to relationships! What a lucky girl eh!

Speaking as a fellow Geordie, I suspect Empty was being a little tongue in cheek petal...

Geordie men are not known for flowery words or grand gestures but most of em have hearts of gold..... Oh, em, Apart from the ones I meet!

Naide

Before I met DH, I always seemed to pick 'em - the ones who didn't ring, etc. After a while I got fed up and when they did eventually ring I would pretend I didn't know who they were! It was sweet revenge! I got one who was persistent and it was because I became unavailable and he enjoyed the chase, I think. I met DH and this man was still chasing me but he got the message eventually. Thank god. I suppose when it didn't matter anymore, I stopped getting messed around.

DizzySpell

Oh wow, i've got loads of examples of this. The most recent being last night - i finally plucked up the courage to tell the guy i had been "seeing" that I liked him............ he went silent on me and when i text him a couple of hours later he told me he didn't want to talk about it........

Ah well, onwards and upwards. I'm awesome, his loss!!

scooby088

I used to when single just tell em i dont want anything serious, lets just keep it casual. If your not upfront from the beginning then you get loads of mixed messages and signals. Thankfully i met someone i wanted to be serious with.

BugglyB

A friend of mine went on two dates with a guy and really really liked him, she didn't hear from him for two weeks and was so upset, it turned out he'd been in a car crash and was in hospital with two broken legs! She visited him every day and they are now married!

make_me_wise

DizzySpell wrote: »

Oh wow, i've got loads of examples of this. The most recent being last night - i finally plucked up the courage to tell the guy i had been "seeing" that I liked him............ he went silent on me and when i text him a couple of hours later he told me he didn't want to talk about it........

Ah well, onwards and upwards. I'm awesome, his loss!!

:T :beer: :T

Superb post, made me chuckle. You go girl, his loss!

VfM4meplse

Thank you, ladies!

mandi wrote: »

Speaking from experience VfM4meplse Don't send any more text .

I may be wrong but " treat them mean to keep them keen " is my motto

GlasweJen wrote: »

Clingyness is definitely off putting.

I subscribe to the same theories - but it felt a bit one-sided. From 15 txt a day (from him), and after we had spent a good 4hrs together the previous evening and loads of chasing on his part, suddenly nothing.

BugglyB wrote: »

it turned out he'd been in a car crash and was in hospital with two broken legs!

Was starting to get worried about him (knowing he had a potentially physically dangerous day ahead) and sent 2 txts 6hrs apart - how hard is it to txt back "I'm ok"??!

I was sort of getting to like him, that's all. He has been in touch since but I shall be moving on. Life is too short, and I'm just too old to have to worry about teenage game playing.

But never again will I compromise and downgrade!!!

euronorris

abacus73 wrote: »

Hate to say it but maybe their other g/f, fiance or wife found out!

Or they just decided for whatever reason that it wasn't quite the relationship for them. To be honest ive been in relationships that just didn't do it for me and just cut contact. Maybe not the best way to deal with things but what good would telling someone why you dont want to go out with them anymore really do. To messy.

Chalk him down to experience and move on is my advice.

It's not difficult to say 'I'm sorry, but I don't see this going anywhere as I don't think we're a good match.', is it?

Never understood why so many guys are such wimps about this.

January20

Little_Leita wrote: »

Speaking as a fellow Geordie, I suspect Empty was being a little tongue in cheek petal...

Geordie men are not known for flowery words or grand gestures but most of em have hearts of gold..... Oh, em, Apart from the ones I meet!

yeah and the ones I meet, and my ex too (or should I say first and foremost )

FBaby

I have found that in almost all such case, there is another woman somewhere in the background... I had a couple of times the long distance girlfriend, the girlfriend who dumped him but he is not yet over with and can't contemplate a relationship at this stage, the hated ex wife who suddenly comes back in the picture... I had such 'bad luck' this way that when I met my now partner, I thought he was way to perfect to be single and after meeting him twice, logged on 192 to be sure that he was indeed living on his own!