camping

thegoodlifewannabe

we as a family Me and hub and 2 boys are going camping in 2 WEEKS WITH SIL, BIL, MIL AND FIL and they are going tomake my kids life a hell. The idea was we went with mil and fil and that would have been fine but then they said sil and bil were coming too which my hubby went to them and said i dont like my sister or brother in law and we are not coming. so then mil cried and then we said ok we'll come but as long as she doesn't shout at my kids for being kids. which she has done before.She has upset them on christmas day (which is not on) i hate her and don't want to go, how can i get through this. Plus i want to spend time with my kids not playing child minder to hers who she gets rid of on any oppertunity.

pinksuedeshoes

hi sorry i'm a newbie but all i would say is don't go i know it must be hard being a family thing but why make you and your family upset to make her happy.

thegoodlifewannabe

I am begining to wonder that i am doing it to make everyone else happy but what about us ?

January20

How long are you going for?
Will you be able to escape for excursions as a family, you, your oh and the kids?
You may need to practise saying: "no" when they ask you to look after their kids " and " Please do not shout at my kids" when she does.

And on your return you may need to have a very honest chat with your mil too.

alessev1

Go to another camp:) Say you gone to a wrong place, but like it:)
No need for you to loose your break!Especially if those are cousins, nieces,nephew etc. I would be cousious to go even with my sister and her kids, as the gap too big and don't want extra stress over my holiday.

thegoodlifewannabe

The only trouble is that at christmas my mum in law said what do you want for a present and after some thought we said nothing but lets go camping together for a few days for a holiday and they said fine thats great it will be so much fun but then the sil has been invited and i don't want to sound !!!!!y but i can cope with her for 2-3 hours but 4days i dont know she will correct me and my kids on everything we say, she will put us down in the fact we live in a council house (bought). She puts me down cause i am a housewife and she puts my son down even though we have just found out he has dyslexia she will still go on at him. also he is left handed and she said to me make him write with his right hand which i said no thats never going to happen i hate her !

January20

thegoodlifewannabe wrote: »

The only trouble is that at christmas my mum in law said what do you want for a present and after some thought we said nothing but lets go camping together for a few days for a holiday and they said fine thats great it will be so much fun but then the sil has been invited and i don't want to sound !!!!!y but i can cope with her for 2-3 hours but 4days i dont know she will correct me and my kids on everything we say, she will put us down in the fact we live in a council house (bought). She puts me down cause i am a housewife and she puts my son down even though we have just found out he has dyslexia she will still go on at him. also he is left handed and she said to me make him write with his right hand which i said no thats never going to happen i hate her !

She is a bully and you are obviously too polite to retaliate. The minute she realises that you are not going to put up with her nonsense and you are going to stand up for yourself and your son, she will back down and leave you alone.

thegoodlifewannabe

January 20 you are so right we have told her we can't stand her and she knows what she is like cause before she moved out at16 she couldn't stand her either. But now we are the bad guys and because i say what i think my fil says to my hubby that he tollerates me. well to be quite honest he is a miserable old !!!!!!! and i tollerate him. but Ou can't say anything or else everyone starts crying

bigmuffins

Develop last minute expensive indeterminate car trouble that has to be fixed but don't know how long will take! But only at last minute so they don't have time to suggest alternatives! Preferably when they have arrived at site and is too late for them to come back!

:beer:

babymoo

I would take an hour before you go away and sit down with your OH, SIL and BIL. Tell them you are going away because MIL has made it clear she wants all her family around and that the only way that it will all be done in harmony is that you are all civil to each other but when it comes to the kids, you do not ask for help from each other and you only discipline your own children. If your neice/nephew do something wrong then mention it to your SIL/BIL out of ear shot and let them deal with it and vice versa.

What I would also say is don't let her walk all over you and if she causes a scene then dont shrink down to save an argument, stand up for yourself. If she starts on your children for any reason politely remind her that you will discipline your children and if she's just being a cow then tell her to leave your children alone and then walk away.

Good luck, if all else fails then next year tell your MIL that you won't be holidaying with them again at any cost.

shelley_crow

Life's too short to pander to other people. If you know that SIL will make your kids lives a misery, why put them through it? It's their holiday too. She'll upset them, that will upset you and it will be one ruined holiday with you all wishing you were somewhere else.

Your MIL crying is emotional blackmail at it's best. A grown woman crying because someone would rather not go on holiday with them, what is that about? I cried when I heard about the monumental loss of innocent lives in Norway, crying over a holiday that hasn't happened yet is designed to provoke a response that will comply with her wishes. She's not 2 years old so there's really no excuse for it.

Maybe I'm just too jaded but life's too short to make yourself and your family miserable, do whatever makes your family happy and leave the rest to it.