ungrateful rels wanting receipts for present returns

Hay_2

Between hubbies and wives YES honesty is good...BUT sorry I'd MUCH rather keep a small gift that I didn't like than hurt the feelings of a relative giving to my kids!We're talking what?A Fiver?A tenner?Not a 50in 2K plasma here...I would NEVER ask for a receipt back to swap a present over!:o
Maybe that's just me...but the thought of asking a well meaning "giver" for a receipt?Makes me cringe and blush!!:o

Roz_V

bit different with littlies as they usually want something out of Christmas, but I usually just "recycle" unwanted gifts without the gifter ever knowing. There was only 1 present this year that I exchanged, and I did this without the receipt so that the person who gave it to me never needs to know. It was make-up and was unsuitable for me, so I swapped it for something I would use from the same brand...

OP, next year get the kids a set of toy drums or similarly loud present and lose the receipt. That'll teach the ungrateful madam!!

Bambam

liz.. wrote:

mrcow that is a lovely idea but I know she won't like it as I've tried it with other charity things, she reckons they are all a 'rip off'!

Thanks for all the lovely supportive responses, I think I will just grit my teeth and send money from now on, I don't feel like sending them anything really but at the end of the day I don't want to feel negative at such a lovely time of year.

I think if gifts are sent with love and warm feelings and the best of intentions, then it shouldn't matter what it is really.Thanks guys for the postings, its made me feel a lot better.

For goodness sake get a grip. "Gifts sent with warm feelings..... love......best of intentions" Thought gone into the buying. Yet here you are saying you don't feel like sending them anything and asking other people what you can buy as gifts that can't be returned. Hardly given with warm feelings and the best of intentions then. More like spite. If they are so ungrateful don't bother buying them anything. What is the problem with asking if you would mind if a gift was returned? IMO if I bought someone a gift and it wasn't what they wanted I'd have no problem in returning it. The only thing that would concern me is they would know how much I had spent on them. I'd sooner return something and get them a gift they really wanted than find out later its been sitting in a drawer unused. Now that would be a total waste of money. As for sending it off to a charity shop, the shop probably wouldn't sell it for what you bought it for, so just cut out the middle man and send the cash to the charity in the first place. Problem solved!

scheming_gypsy

Bambam.. one thing i noticed in the OP was that she said 'presents' which indicated that they wanted the receipts for everything that was bought and not just Little Timmy wasn't too keen on his Power Rangers toy cos he prefers Postman Pat.

debsue

Tell her that you are a professional shoplifter, therefore you dont have the receipts, but she can take them back to the shops if she likes.:rotfl:

Bambam

Present, presents, its all the same at the end of the day really. Wasted money if its not what they want.

They are obviously a very difficult family to please if she has tried everything else.

squibbs25

Another suggestion would be to ask her to return the gifts to you so that you can take them back to the shops and get your money back.
Ask them what it was they didnt like about your gifts and also what they had in mind instead.
If you dont approve of what your money will be used for, then dont give them anything!

My hubby's nanna is like that! You cant buy her a surprise as she will take it back or moan about it. Her birthday is the day before Christmas Eve and this year my MIL bought her a luxury microfleece dressing gown. Nanna unwrapped it, took one look at it and said to her daughter, "What do i need one of these for?" and tossed it aside. She took it back to the shop the next day (without the receipt) and it had been reduced in the sale. Then moaned that she had to put extra money to the coat that she'd swapped it for. :eek:

Squibbs

Happy New Year.

Sarahsaver

How about the kids have you sneakily asked them ? I would never take one of my kids xmas presents away. DS1 got 2 sonic screwdrivers but he is keeping one in the box so it will be valuable one day ,maybe;)
Mind you, I took back a dress cos it didnt fit, and got the SAME dress in the right size, plus another dress one was £8.50 in the sale and the other £9, the original was £28
If you paid with a card a REFuND will only be made to your card, else they will have to accept a gift voucher or goods to the value.
Have you thought of sending the present direct to the children?
What awkward things some people are :eek:

full-time-mum

Depending on how old the kiddies are and how brave your are, take them shopping for the Christmas presents then they have chosen them. My SIL takes my DD(10) clothes shopping for Xmas and Birthdays, they have a whale of a time and the clothes always fit! My mum also took her shopping this year for craft things (didn't entirely approve of all purchases but DD was happy and so was Grandma). They are good bonding experiences too.

tanith

I have to own up as I asked my daughter if she had the receipt for the book she bought me ...... but as my other daughter also bought me the exact same book I hope I am excused....:rotfl: