17 year old son being bullied by boss

hethmar

If he reports it to the police he can probably kiss goodbye to any jobs in your area as it will get around the industry no doubt.

If it is just him thats getting this treatment then he will just have to stand up for himself and be prepared to pack the job in. Get him to look out for another job. If the bloke is known as a bully locally then other hotels/restaurants will know.

KnightSmile

Whatever you do decide to do, make sure you record the event so if the situation escalates you have the details ready.

Oldernotwiser

KnightSmile wrote: »

Whatever you do decide to do, make sure you record the event so if the situation escalates you have the details ready.

It is not for the OP to decide to do anything!

scheming_gypsy

regardless of

SarEl wrote: »

Any slap across the head is assault, and any slap across the head can cause serious physical damage. Because it doesn't take a lot to cause brain injury or perforation to the ear drums - just "bad luck" that someone may have a weak skull, or you may hit them in just the wrong place. Is there something wrong with saying "Come on, people are waiting"??? I find my staff respond so much better to a verbal communication rather than a slap around the head.

i'm sure you know exactly what i meant.


but it's up to the lad to tell him boss that he doesn't appreciate it. Or maybe he's not bothered about it and the OP has taken it the wrong way; running round telling the police and shouting assault is definitely the wrong way to go about it

3v3

newmrslockwood wrote: »

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My student chef son works in a kitchen of a restaurant part time. he has been there about 3 months and i have just found out that his boss, the head chef and owner, is bullying him.

I understand that a little bullying goes on everywhere but he has been slapping my son round the head! This is NOT acceptable! Only thing is I don't know how to handle this.

I would tell him to give up his job, but jobs for students are not easy to come by, and he really wants to work and earn himself some spending money.

I also think that the incidents should be reported to someone but have know idea who, or how!

:mad:

Crikey, you've waited until your son is 17yo before you educate him on how to deal with bullying? You've waited *this* long before he knows that being slapped around the head is "NOT acceptable"?

And you ask how *you* deal with it???? But, at your age, you do not know who or how to report it?

Oh dear!

Your "child" is not (as one poster refers to him) "a bairn", he is working and a few months shy of being of an age to vote! When he *was* "a bairn", that was the time to teach him what is/not acceptable and how to deal with it.

Do let him grow up! *You* don't deal with it: he does, his way!

SarEl

scheming_gypsy wrote: »

regardless of




i'm sure you know exactly what i meant.


but it's up to the lad to tell him boss that he doesn't appreciate it. Or maybe he's not bothered about it and the OP has taken it the wrong way; running round telling the police and shouting assault is definitely the wrong way to go about it

I agree that it is up to him to decide what he wants to do about it and to do it. But that still doesn't make what he has described right, whether it happened once or a hundred times. And whether he "runs around telling the police or shouting assault" is also his choice - becasue it is assault. Is there another word to describe it?

3v3

SarEl wrote: »

I agree that it is up to him to decide what he wants to do about it and to do it. But that still doesn't make what he has described right, whether it happened once or a hundred times. And whether he "runs around telling the police or shouting assault" is also his choice - becasue it is assault. Is there another word to describe it?

"He" hasn't posted: his mummy has "he" hasn't described, we have his mummy's perception of what he said (third hand).
Common assault is less than ABH which is less than GBH. There are so many variables in this that there is no *one* right answer.

There is another word to describe it; it's called "life"! Not nice stuff happens.

scheming_gypsy

course there is, we don't know how it's being done. It could be done in a playful and friendly way, just a clip round the ear rather than getting a crack round the head.

the definition of assault is: a violent attack. So if it isn't violent / hard / etc then it's hardly assault..

t0rt0ise

scheming_gypsy wrote: »

the definition of assault is: a violent attack. So if it isn't violent / hard / etc then it's hardly assault..

That is not the legal definition of assault.

baybeebug

ask him if he knows who the safety rep is, it will be on the health and safety sign on the premises and report it to them if he feels he is being bullied.
It is a Health and Safety matter and as an under 18 year old he should be encouraged to talk to someone he trusts.
Luckily he has a parent he can talk to not all under 18 have that.