Nice people thread part 4 - sugar and spice and all things

neverdespairgirl

zagubov wrote: »

Actually when people were generalising earlier about the NPs I wondered how many feel they live "in the sticks".

I'm a city guy at heart and the country doesn't suit me. Feel that puts me in a minority here or do others live in cities/big towns,

Realise that gbd, ndg and probably wheezy are in the same city as me. :hello:

Yup, I'm bang in the centre of town.

My parents' place is the opposite - you can't actually see another house from any of the windows in theirs. And you need to walk 1.5 miles along the road to the nearest shop, or just under a mile if you don't mind jumping the (small) river and going over the fields.

silvercar

PasturesNew wrote: »

When I step out of my door here and walk 15 paces I can see over some roofs to the beach and waves beyond. When the tide's out I can see a patch of yellow sand - the rest of the time I can see the huge rollers curling over and breaking with the huge white foam on top.

I nearly went out at 1.30am to see if my Nightshot on my camera would capture any night-time beach/wave shots of note.... but then couldn't be 4rsed

You win!

Takes me back to my childhood, where I assumed everyone went from school to beach in the Summer. I think I was in double figures before I realised that not everyone has a nearby beach.

lemonjelly

My hairs blond & straight (ish). It has 1 very wierd wave that develops as it gets longer. Needs a trim at the mo. The wave is developing at the front & I have a very small quiff type thing that looks a bit like tintin.

My hometown became a city in 2000. Does that make me a townie, or a city dweller? That said, very easy to get to nice countryside from where I am & work - can be there within minutes.

Long way to the sea though!

silvercar

LydiaJ wrote: »

You have a point. And yet I've just had a FB message from a friend who still bitterly regrets having been sent to school as a child knowing that Grandma had collapsed but not what was going to happen next.

I have a friend who took her only child with her when the grandmother passed away and she really regrets letting her daughter see the grandmother in her last couple of days. Far too upsetting for her child to see and she wishes she could instead have put up with her daughter being annoyed that she was banished off to school, rather than dealing with the fall out from watching her grandmother fade away.

So you can't win.

LydiaJ

Thanks. It's helpful to know I can't win - makes it not my fault that I don't.

This is where it's so difficult not having a second parent. What I want to do with them is hand them over to their dad to look after them while I focus on my mum. That's what I did when she nearly died in the spring of 2009. Can't do that now.

GDB2222

LydiaJ wrote: »

Thanks. It's helpful to know I can't win - makes it not my fault that I don't.

This is where it's so difficult not having a second parent. What I want to do with them is hand them over to their dad to look after them while I focus on my mum. That's what I did when she nearly died in the spring of 2009. Can't do that now.

Maybe his parents could lend a hand? Or don't the kids see that much of them normally?

michaels

You see, a slight change in the rules and suddenly you win by miles and all our 24 hour supermarkets become just so much glass and concrete...

Being close to Silvercar we have 3 24 hour supermarkets within 10 mins drive, one (Sainsburys) I would call a decent size, the Tesco and Asda I would say were merely acceptable. Within a 10 minute walk is a Morrison but it closes mostly at 10 and I would say was definitely a little small (but probably about twice the size of the two supermarkets in my parents town in Devon).

Like Lydia we are archytipically suburban but close 5 mins walk to the countryside, two small parades of shops within 3 mins walk and two larger but not town centre set of shops, banks etc 10 mins walk away, libary is here too. Main town centre is 40 mins walk 10 mins drive (traffic permitting) but not that great imho unless you are in to posh shopping but it doesn't really matter cos there are 2 good shopping centre towns within 25 mins drive and more retails parks within 20 minutes than you could shake a stick at. Nearest motorway is 10 mins but the motorways round here are not much of a plus during peak hours

Lots of leisure choices including 2 real snow indoor ski slopes (15 mins and 40 mins), 5 mins drive to station with 20 minute trains to London, every 15 mins and lots of bus routes (I think). 3 airports within 40 minutes (traffic permitting), 2 airports 15 mins and 1 hour direct on the train.

But no beach anywhere near and house prices totally unrelated to any normal local jobs.

PasturesNew wrote: »

When I step out of my door here and walk 15 paces I can see over some roofs to the beach and waves beyond. When the tide's out I can see a patch of yellow sand - the rest of the time I can see the huge rollers curling over and breaking with the huge white foam on top.

I nearly went out at 1.30am to see if my Nightshot on my camera would capture any night-time beach/wave shots of note.... but then couldn't be 4rsed

LydiaJ

GDB2222 wrote: »

Maybe his parents could lend a hand? Or don't the kids see that much of them normally?

My parents are an hour away. His parents are 3 hours in the opposite direction. They have never once asked me how I'm coping, let alone offered to help. We see them 4 or 5 times a year.

My relationship with them has always been civil but not close. When he left me, we sent each other birthday/Christmas cards and that was all, for 4 years. Then he died and now I have to facilitate their relationship with my kids. It's all a bit weird.

lemonjelly

michaels wrote: »

and house prices totally unrelated to any normal local jobs.

Isn't that true for everywhere?

Wheezy_2

We live in a village, one Coop, one Budgens, one petrol station, 2 pubs, and lots of charity shops. But train station is only 200 yards away with a train takes 50 minutes to do the 20 miles into Central London.

Doozergirl wrote: »

I think the dog just farted. I don't think it was me,, and there's no one else in the room.

It's good to have a dog.

Mrs.W: "wow, was that you?"
Me: "no, it's the dog"
Mrs.W: "must be the new Wainwright's duck & rice wet food"
Me: "yeah probably :whistle:"