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benbenandme

Dishwasher emptied and almost full again, washing machine doing its thing, huge pile in front of it waiting its turn :cool: , my bath done and pj's on , some more underwear ordered (just in case ), lots of rubbish collected, a big pile of ironing stacked on the table, most rooms are looking ready for cleaning except for the lounge and ds bedroom.

So now I have a new dilemma ...

I am calling cutie on tuesday to arrange next weekend but I don't know which was to go with it ...
On friday when we break up about 70 of us always head for a local pub at about 3pm and stay there til midnight However, also this year in the next town the music teacher is playing with her band and has said for staff to head down to support her and join in with some xmas songs and a drink or two ...

Now I don't know whether to suggest meeting him in the pub for drinks and then heading over to see the band and then going for more drinks, but there's the risk of having to spend the evening with lots of colleagues rather than a date ... but then the alcohol and party spirit may help things move on ....

Or whether to suggest meeting up on saturday night somewhere, but then there's the risk of (a) still being knackered from friday night and (b) him suggesting coffee again rather than an evening ...

Aah what to do, what to do!!

I also managed to order the top from Asos this morning which I'm pleased about, but if we do go to see the band (outside in the town centre), I will need a big snuggly jumper ... then again, I could ask for cuddles to keep me warm

benbenandme

I think the drinks and then on to see the band sounds a nice idea, and nice and festive, and he knows the music teacher too as he has worked with her this term for a bit, so that could be a great idea, but i am concerned that it could just end up being a big group thing from work rather than a date and potentially I may not see him again as he will be on a different placement after xmas, so this is my opportunity to make sure things go right

Maybe I suggest drinks and then the band but in the arrangements make sure that I have suggested somewhere for drinks afterwards?? What do you all think? Or would I be better just going for the saturday night when I can have him all to myself somewhere?

chevalier

Look at it another way. Whenever I was first dating we always did things in big groups first, and then when things started to get serious, we started doing things on our own. If you go with the big group thing, there is no pressure ON EITHER OF YOU, to do other than have a good time in each others company....

If he really likes you then it won't make any difference whether he is at a different school or not!

benbenandme

Thankyou Chev, yep I think friday night is the way to go and then if it goes well may be I'll see more of him over the weekend And if it does end up a big group thing and I don't get much time with him then I can say "we need to go for another drink so we can get to chat a bit more" ... just wish it was next weekend already

vasseur

I also agree, Friday night is the way to go. You'll be much more relaxed with loads more people around.

If he really wants to see you again he'll suggest another date anyway

pixiechick99

Me too - Friday sounds a very good idea;) You'll be all jolly and relaxed, full of festive [STRIKE]alcohol[/STRIKE] cheer. On Saturday you might be feeling not so full of beans so go for the evening out option for sure!

Look at us, all excited for you:j:j

benbenandme

Morning all, so its finally the weekend and I have sooo much to get through today its not funny If only I could drag myself out of bed and get started ...

I did get quite a bit of tidying done last night but this morning it needs completing then I need to clean all through before we can begin the tree and decorations. I am also hoping to get some presents wrapped and under the tree (to give out to others) which will create some space under my bed to put other stuff thats cluttering up the place.

That will also help me see what else I need to get. I have made myself a chart to show what I need to do when this week, daft stuff like remembering to exfoliate the day before my spray tan etc.

So, here goes for a busy chais day, but hopefully lots will be achieved and then I can relax tonight with a drink or two and start to feel a bit more Christmassy, at the moment I don't feel it at all, but then again, I can't stop thinking about cutie long enough to feel anything else

benbenandme

Just won £15 on a games offer, have lost the plot with tracking this month, will just try not to go mad and then will do a major end of year sort out of the banking ready for the new year.

The sale shopping fund seems to have been raided with the asos top and the undies, but never mind, just hope its gonna be worth it

Kittikins

Well.......I'm going to go against the grain here and say don't have the "date" on Friday night, go out with your colleagues and have fun, but not too much.....then see him on Saturday. If I was asked out to that event, I would take it that they're not that interested in me and want safety in numbers.

superpup

Kittikins wrote: »

Well.......I'm going to go against the grain here and say don't have the "date" on Friday night, go out with your colleagues and have fun, but not too much.....then see him on Saturday. If I was asked out to that event, I would take it that they're not that interested in me and want safety in numbers.

I am kinda with this one but then again, if I was going out on Friday night, I would spend all day Saturday looking as rough as a badger's nether region and would need surgical work and a make up artist to look good on Saturday night...

So I probably would go for Friday and 'knowing' you (very presumptuous of a lurker, lol!) you wouldn't want to wait an extra day for your date! :rotfl:

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