Benbenandme's Next Installment ...

pinkladyof66

benbenandme wrote: »

Only saw him in passing today, he said hi and smiled, then said see you later ... that was it ... so still no wiser

Oh are you going to leave it to him to suggest another meet ben ben

benbenandme

I don't know, he doesn't seem the quickest at that ...
I am thinking of just sending a text saying I had a great time, would like to see him again but I get he's v busy at work ... just let me know either way .... that kinda thing, at least then I'll know where we're at

Not sure whether to send it tonight or wait til tomorrow night?? He's not in on wed or fri this week so may not see him much more this week anyway

Kittikins

Benben, please don't send the text, be patient for as long as possible...........let him do the running

Double_Trouble

I am coming out of lurkdom to say the same as kittikins I know its hard but I think it would be for the best to let him chase you and if he doesn't he is not the one - OK I am hiding again now

DTxx

benbenandme

But part of me doesn't think he will, he hasn't done any chasing yet ...

Double_Trouble

benbenandme wrote: »

But part of me doesn't think he will, he hasn't done any chasing yet ...

But if you chase him it will always be there as a niggle that he wasn't really that bothered but if he chases you then you will feel great

I know it is hard and if you want an instant relationship but potentially a short one then go for it but if you fancy a long term relationship then my advice is wait a bit - although don't make him chase too hard :rotfl: these men don't always know what is good for them

DTxx

benbenandme

My worry is that I hardly see him at school, and if I do its literally a fleeting pass in the corridor surrounded by 50 million kids :cool: There isn't a place or the time to chat at school and he's never without another member of staff as he's training. If i wait it could just lose momentum anyway, whereas this way I will at least know if he's interested in meeting up again at some point or whether I'm jsut wasting my time?? Just wish something had been said last night

On the plus side he asked me for a lift home and gave me a peck on the cheek, crouchy says he def wouldn't have done these if he wasn't interested as he wouldn't want to give me the wrong message ...

But then he's not said anything to suggest he wants to see me again either ...

Kittikins

Sweetie, I have this chat with girly chums a lot, with the coming of mobiles etc, it's sped up the whole dating process way too much. In the 'old days', you went on a date on a Saturday and if you didn't hear anything from them by Wednesday night, then you knew they weren't interested. If he doesn't contact you then sadly, no, he won't be interested, but it's only Monday and he may need to have time to ponder and think about how fabulous you are, and where he'd like to take you out for dinner or something

Sit on your hands and wait to see. It may take him a while because of the busyness of his training programme etc, but if he's interested, he will make the effort - and if he doesn't make the effort then he's not worth it! I've dated too many "lovely" men to know that no matter how busy a man's life is, if he wants to see you, he will move heaven and earth to make it happen. They're still cavemanlike in some ways!

benbenandme

See normally I'd get that completely and would wait but I am soooo itching to know with this one and also, based on so far he's very pleased to see me at school, very polite, always tries to chat, but isn't very good at texting

Okay, I won't text him tonight ... will have to go and keep myself busy or its too tempting

benbenandme

Ds dinner is done ... my bath has been had and I'm almost ready for my bed .... I was fine yesterday but today my nose is streaming like a tap, will be an early one for me tonight I think, which will be good and will stop me reaching for my phone