im devastated

GlynD

michelle67 wrote: »

yes i do want to get better

Then you have to open up. Only you can sort this. There isn't a tablet or magic fix although there may be some kind of medical interventon available to help you. Ultimately though you need to talk to your GP and the counsellors so they can advise you best and if that means you have issues which you're suppressing then you have to tell them. It's time to come clean about why you binge eat. If it's something which has happened in the past and is preying on your mind or if it's something that's happening now. Binge eating can be linked to clinical depression.

Can you see where I'm coming from on this?

jungle_jane

michelle67 wrote: »

yer the doctor has started the ball rolling for councilling in which i waiting to hear but im not really the best person to talk about things as i always bottle things up all the time

in that case you sound as if you are the perfect candidate for counselling - there is clearly something deep-seated that has resulted in you using food as a distraction/crutch/whatever rather than addressing the issue at hand.

A good counsellor (and the right counsellor for you) will be able to help you. That's their job. Your willingness to engage with them is key though.

As i said previously, you realisation of your disorder and willingness to address it are great steps forward. Of course it won't be quick or easy - but i guess you already know that.

michelle67

thanx for ur advice guys i do have depression as well and am on antidrepssion tablets for that

MrsAtobe

Michelle, please accept the councilling. If you don't 'gel' with the first one, don't give it up as a waste of time. Ask to see another one. It took my sister in law to be four or five attempts to find the right one for her, and now she's coming on leaps and bounds.

michelle67

thank you for the advice

Twentiesgirl

Also remember counselling takes time the counsellor won't expect you to trust her immeadiatly but over time that bond will grow and it should become much easier to talk about what you are bottling up and hiding from others.

Rockporkchop

I empathise with you as I have struggled with my weight at times but I don't understand why you are feeling devastated about it now since seeing the doctor. You are in no worse a position now than you were before, the only difference is that the doctor has for some reason put a label on your eating habits. You must have been aware that you binge eat and that is not a normal thing to do, surely?

If you truly do want to sort this out then you will take any help that is offered to you, including counselling. Good luck with it, you know you can do it if you try.

RuthnJasper

Michelle - I'm so sorry for what you are going through. I have depression and I know how devastating it can be.

Please do go to the counselling. I was resistant myself at first but it REALLY made a positive difference. I hope that you will find it helpful.

Another reason why counselling may be helpful is that, often, binge-eating is a symptom of the main problem and counselling can help you to work through to what's at the hidden heart of the matter.

You have been very brave in seeking help from your GP - a diagnosis, the medication and the offer of counselling are the first steps for you on the road to recovery. Please keep going - you are NOT a failure and you have NOT "let anyone down" by being ill. Take things a day at a time, and you may, in time, surprise yourself with how strong you can be.

Good luck to you. Lots of love and hugs. xx

make_me_wise

Have you ever been for counselling before? There is this misconception that you will be quizzed and made to answer all manner of awkward questions. In fact what normally happens is you are encouraged to just 'let it all out' while the other person listens and takes everything in. They then gently probe you toward finding suitable ways forward and you talk through techniques to use to help you cope with your feelings and the emotions you have over what you are facing and going through.

I had counselling a few years back and before going I was convinced it would be a total waste of time. It was an eye-opener for me how helpful I found it. You know yourself best and I wish you luck whatever way you decide to move forward.

One thing that crossed my mind is that you obviously need to talk this through or you wouldn't be on here telling us what is going on.

Vaila

michelle67 wrote: »

I recently found out i have a eating disorder and i dont no where to turn.

I feel devastated and so alone, my doctor suggested going for councilling which i dont really want and i have no support from my husband or kids.

Since finding out I have this i feel so much worse with my eating habits i dont no where to turn

sorry i just needed to have a moan

You don't just "find out" that you have an eating disorder you must have shown traits of it for quite a while. Maybe a better way of wording it would be "I've recently been diagnosed". All I know that it didn't appear overnight and it certainly wont dissapear overnight either. You will need support from your family though, so if possible maybe take your Husband along to your Doctor's/Psychologist appointment?

You talk like you have no control over this and it came out of the blue which is not the right attitude to have. People maybe harsh to you and they may be soft but they do have your best interests at heart and although recovery will take a long time you will get there or at least be able to manage your disorder to an extent.