mum has bi polar but is it an excuse for bad behaviour

Blackpool_Saver

She appears to lack insight as she is not compliant with the medication for long enough to realise she needs to meds to realise she needs them, this is why bipolar individuals need carers....

Loulou2010

another bipolar mum here also my mum was bipolar too (not sure which) my mum was very abusive. i grew up in an incrediably abusive environment. both from my mother ans stepfather. alcohol played a huge part in their lives. my siblings blamed the fact that my mother let me suffer the abuse from my stefather, on her illness. something i have never truly believed she had my siblings never endured the abuse i did. so she was obviously able to control herself sometimes. she couls switch her mood to whatever the situation needed. very manipulative and used that to be the centre of attention. just over a year ago i confronted her about all of it. she threatened to kill herself (like she had so many times before when she didnt agree with what was said) except this time she did

i think she had problems but not bipolar. i have bipolar but i am nothing like my mother. i struggle to keep my temper in check sometimes but very rarely do i lose it with anyone but myself. it is usually down to bottling things up and overloading as such. i certainly am not abusive towards my ds.

not sure how i think this will help you but thats how it is for me

1more?

thanks again all

skint -"but when they are manic and have an idea in their head, whoever it is that tries to reason with them will probably get the worse end of it."
this is so true she fell out with her neighbours who have been very good neighbours for over 30 yrs because she decided she didnt like the trees out their garden :o it was awful as the neighbours are elderly & i class them as almost part of the family
skint i dont think your siding with my mother i wouldnt of asked on a public forum if i expected everyone to agree with me
i usually just put up with her antics its usually like water off a ducks back but this time its just got all a bit to much

loulou - i hope your doing well you sound like you have your bi polar under control
so sorry about your mother how awful for you xxx
my mother also can control when she wants too a few weeks ago my aunt rang her to say her grand daughter had badly broken her arm & she was able to go from screaming to concerned in a second
my mother is manipaltive & devious im just thank full we as a family now see through it
lou lou look after your self & thank you again