How to come to terms with an unplanned pregnancy?

marywooyeah

glad to hear you are keeping your baby and feeling good about doing so.
I think being sterilised sounds like a good idea, as although you have described your problems with contraception I think it's good that you recognise that you can't keep having terminations, both from a physical and psychological point of view.

I was very depressed throughout my pregnancy due to a termination against my wshes and without being told what would happen previously so I felt very guilty about being pregnant again.
But he is the absolute life of my life and I could not be without him, he is 3 and I just finished my second year at uni with very good grades - it can be done!!!
congrats and good luck x

Titch41

hiya - sorry for late response - only just came across this thread.

We were in a very familiar situation 8 years ago - we went through all the emotions and options, even to a point of trying to convince myself I wasn't pregnant at all. 8 years on I wouldn't swap my 'bonus baby' for the world. I had just returned to work when I found out I was expecting again so perfectly understand your dilema. You mentioned about a course you had been accepted for and that it is only available full time - Just a thought (and not sure if any one else has suggested it to you) but take a look at the courses at the Open University - the cost if scary when u look - but you can apply for funding - which can cover the whole course, that's the route I ended up taking and am still quite enjoying it. All the best for what ever your future holds and good luck with search for job, further education .

Margaret52129

Poor you OP, my daughter found herself in a similar position just a few weeks ago. She's just returned to work after Mat Leave, only to find herself pregnant with 3rd child even though she has a coil fitted, which has now been removed and she's been warned that that in itself may cause her to miscarry.

Her first was unplanned and she contemplated termination but decided against it. Like everyone says, once they arrive, you cannot imagine life without them. Her BF and her had not been going out very long, but they stayed together, eventually bought a house and chose to have a 2nd child as they were extremely happy with their life.

This baby will be loved when it arrives, even though it will stretch their limited finances to the utmost I know we and inlaws will help out as much as we can.

I'm glad you are now coming to terms with having the baby. I wish you well in your future, and hope that all goes well.