Chasing the debt free daydream...

Hovel_lady

That's a great daydream list. I can relate to 1,2,3,4,6 & 9!
Your sister sounds impressive - what's her secret? Do find out and let us know
I understand what you mean about "coping mode". I have a long & boring history of depression and it would be so easy to go back to that now. It's "comfortable" in some ways if that makes sense? But I'm determined I won't. I have dreams and they won't happen if I let the depression back in.
Sorry things are tough for you. ((Hugs))

Winnie_in_Pooh

Hovel_lady wrote: »

That's a great daydream list. I can relate to 1,2,3,4,6 & 9!
Your sister sounds impressive - what's her secret? Do find out and let us know
I understand what you mean about "coping mode". I have a long & boring history of depression and it would be so easy to go back to that now. It's "comfortable" in some ways if that makes sense? But I'm determined I won't. I have dreams and they won't happen if I let the depression back in.
Sorry things are tough for you. ((Hugs))

I know she's family but my sister really knocks the socks off just about everyone who crosses her path! Bags of confidence, highly motivated and just so positive about EVERYTHING! She's fab and I love her to bits

"Comfortable coping mode"! Makes perfect sense. Also makes a perfect rut because it makes you think you're coping and doing ok, when in reality you're probably not. It brings to mind the old swan analogy doesn't it?

Its great to hear you sounding so determined to stay out of the rut and focussed on your dreams :T I need to get me a bit of that

nataz

Oh winnie I think you're being too hard on yourself. You've got a lovely DH and the boys with another on the way, just live each day as it is and don't stress too much about the future.

I gave up the day dream cos I realised it was that ideal that was making me depressed. Constantly realising I hadn't achieved was too much.

Now I'm not allowed to plan !! And it makes for a happier heart

Except of course the plan to be debt free, but that was a debt from trying to live the dream when we couldn't afford too

Winnie_in_Pooh

Thanks Natty I probably am being too harsh on myself, I usually am! DH is forever telling me to stop thinking, stop planning and wishing and when I do manage to turn that side of me off I probably am a lot easier to live with - but it never really goes away! I sometimes feel like I spend so much time thinking about how to live my life that I forget to actually live it - IYSWIM?

nataz

I think were all guilty of that

DebtFree2012

I am guilty of that at times too!

You are doing FAB so try to remember that. We're all in this together for the long haul.

xx

Winnie_in_Pooh

Ooo just got all excited!! The bit of computer that DH needs so we can cancel sky has just arrived!! :j:j:j

Just need to work on convincing him to sell one of the cars now... his work is moving to just down the road from us in November so he can walk to work so this is nearly a reality too

Aaaaand have just had a text from my fab little sis saying she wants to take me out for a coffee at the weekend

Oh I love it when positive things happen, it always picks me right up!! Here's to the long haul becoming a bit shorter!!

Hovel_lady

Brillant!

Saving money, someone buying you coffee, it's all going your way today :T

nataz

That's fab!! Enjoy yourself xx

Winnie_in_Pooh

Just goes to show that even the worst day can be brightened up