looking after friends dog disaster!!

blue_monkey_2

affordmylife wrote: »

she can afford a holiday?

The OP said 'holiday to visit family' - I read that as she went to visit family abroad, it looks like a 'holiday' because it is time away from home but its a free place to stay and they even feed you. Flight may have cost £30 - they might even have paid for it for her as they missed her.

sososilly

holiday was for 2 adults and 3 children. Flights costs them £400+ (although she did put it on the credit card). When she got my txt message, she told my friend that they were out having a meal.

rising_from_the_ashes

sososilly wrote: »

She did get my text message, and the one I sent to her husband just after I sent it she told another friend, but she phoned me the day after because she said her phone went dead after I text her.

sososilly wrote: »

This other friend has also told me that the dog is not properly house trained (she knows the dogs owner much better, and refused to have her dog due to this).

sososilly wrote: »

The kennels are ones we have used for our own dog for 3 years and are very happy with. We It will cost £8.75 per day. After reading the posts, I think I should offer to pay for this now.

I'm struggling with this as I'm divided - I still do not think you did the right thing but swaying this is that:

• she did not phone you back straight away when she should & could have done (even if her phone was dead there were obviously plenty of others around and I'm sure a landline somewhere if she didn't want to use someone else's mobile)
• if she knew the dog wasn't properly house-trained but made out that he was/would be OK, then she's not been honest with you

So... IMVHO, I'd say you're both at fault - you have at least put the dog into a kennels that you've got experience of and have therefore made sure he's as comfortable as possible.

Personally, I think 50/50 split on the kennel costs.

picnic

offer to go halfs? maybe?

sososilly

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meritaten

I think you should offer to pay at least half - after all YOU offered to board her dog. At the same time you didnt know the probs it would cause. I DO sympathise hun 'No good deed goes unpunished'!
I should imagine your friend isnt going to be happy when she gets back - and I understand that too.
but, you had to deal with an incontinent dog - your own dog being aggressive etc.
I hope your friendship survives this.

bagginslover

Do you know your friends mobile number by heart? Very probably not, and I'm sure she doesn't know yours either, so even if she'd had thousands of other phones with full batteries, how do you think she could have texted you back?

In your position I'd have kept the dog in the bathroom or kitchen til I'd at least heard from my friend. Both those rooms (usually) have easy to clean floors, so messes won't be so much of a problem. I would also have made more of a effort to take the dog out to toilet, just 4 times a day for a dog in a strange place isn't enough. I would also have wanted to have the dog stat over for a trial before they went away-this would all have been avoided if you had. My dog is house trained, but will still 'go' in other peoples houses if not watched and told not to-he is a nervous dog, and needs reassuring, and that's without adding another dog and missing owners into the equation, so imagine how your friends poor dog must have been feeling.

In your friends position I'd be pretty angry. You offered to take care of my dog, so I wouldn't have budgeted for kennelling (if you hadn't, I would have done) now I have an rather large bill, which, quite frankly, you have caused-I'd want you to pay it. You made a commitment to care for their dog, you chose to effectively, sub-contract that care to someone else.

sososilly

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chucknorris

There is no way that I would put my dog in a kennel, we did have two holidays in the early years without him when we went to Turkey and Malta (my parents looked after him), but we decided we did not want to be separated from him so we now holiday in the UK and take him with us. Although we did take the ferry to Spain last year and took him with us.

It wouldn't happen to us because we would not holiday without our dog. But if we did and the person I left him with put him in a kennel, it wouldn't just be an end to a friendship it would be the start of a feud. I don't mind buying new carpets etc. for someone but I would be furious if our dog had been left in a kennel.

blue_monkey_2

OP, you are coming over bitter because has her nails done and goes on holiday and went out for a meal on holiday. In your OP you said you OFFERED to look after the dog. Now, much of it is 'she can afford to pay for this, she can afford to pay for that so she should pay' if you really felt like that then you should have said no in the first place so she could have budgeted for it - and maybe you could have told her then not to her nails to be done!! Maybe she feels like she deserves to have something for herself every now and then, that is her choice and maybe they have budgeted for this. People do. However, you offered.....