Playing a game ? Or being serious ?

make_me_wise

It seems odd to me that she wants to keep your relationship so quiet. I've heard of having a private life and thats to be respected. Usually though even if colleagues or aquintances dont know too much about us, our friends and family know our boyfriends/girlfriends etc. Its all part of the relationship and socialising together.

If it works out great, if it doesn't it shouldn't be made into a big drama. You dont hide a relationship away incase it doesn't work out. Thats a sure fire way too cause problems from the off in my opinion.

To be completely straight with you, in every post you have written about this girl, what comes across loud and clear above everything else is how anxious and insecure you feel about the relationship. This is meant to be your first love - exciting, passionate, fun and a right laugh. Not leaving you feeling wound up like a clockwork mouse.

You know yourself and her best so whatever way you decide to move forward is your call. I just think if this person was right for you then you wouldn't be tearing yourself apart analysing everything. Good luck.

Hard_up,_not_happy

I could go round the houses sweetening the pill on this one, but in the long run that would do you know favours. Mate face it you are dating the local 'bike'. She wants to keep you secret because she is shagging every other bloke in town. You may even be related to some of them.

Dump her, move on and be grateful you will not be one of those contacted by the CSA come Xmas. Harsh maybe, but I doubt I am too far off the mark.

Ivrytwr3

She may as well be doing this to you:

http://www.break.com/index/tempest-frerunning-academy-nutshot-2072521

Sambucus_Nigra

Tell me what answer you want and I'll post that for you - if it helps.....

caledonian_princess

There could be a couple of reasons why she wants to keep it secret, her parents may not approve or her friends don't - at that age peer pressure can be pretty difficult to resist for some people. Tbh, she just sounds like a kid who is practising her skills on you, harsh but honestly, it's amazing when you first realise that you can keep a guy on a string and toy with him. It's not genuine badness, she's just young and testing her powers. If I were you I'd let her practice on someone else.

Tropez

sarahs999 wrote: »

the guy who 'supports' her? Yeah right. No guy 'supports' a girl whose knickers they aren't interested in getting in to...

What a load of crap.

scooby088

Now this girl is game playing now and you are falling for it, now thing to do is drop her like a bad habit and move on, easier said than done i know delete her number, facebook, stop all contact with her. Next step will be asking for gifts or other things. I have been in this position and i went round the mill for a few weeks playing the ex's games. Trust me this experience will make you more cynical of relationships and spoil you for the rest of your life.

tomatoe_2

I don't think the OP is here reading, he's probably out dancing hand in hand through the barley fields declaring his eternal love for her, as she is looking at her watch thinking she must get back by 5 as her boyfriend is due to call.