Pay my csa but ex moved away

DX2

Craftycarper wrote: »

It's a harsh system! Same old story make rich people rich and the poor poorer. I mean I have to pay even if she done a bunk and then have to pay who knows how much to track her down,and then she can do again. So it goes to show not all pwc are hard done by. I feel that she is no better than a thief as wants to take my money and have no contact with kids. And then stealing my kids time not having a father. I am sure I'm not the only 1 and think this system should be scrapped that way the pwc will want nothing more to see nrp if at least to get some cash. I know some fathers do hide and if this is the case why would you want anything to do with them as kids probably won't but can make there own mind up. Or is it alot of pwc get income support and csa payments and think why will I go to work I get paid more at home.

So you will be talking to your local MP in the next few days I assume?

Craftycarper

I quite often get things done through my mp as it does push things along quicker, and gets people to take notice when they think 1 person does not matter.:rotfl:But also I would like to do without getting to look like the heavies are knocking her door down to get access.

nanto3girls

chriszzz wrote: »

I know how hard it can be when you have a difficult ex and how unfair it can be just to gain access to your children, jeez i could write a book on it!

The law really needs to change in circumstances like this but i guess no one really cares only the parent who has no choice and looses out on seeing the children but jeez try and stop csa payments and s..t happens, now they have something in place of the money, and before anyone gets wrong end of stick, i support that all parents pay for their children, but it should be equally important that the parent who no longer lives at the family home and wishes to maintain contact should be free to do so, unless there is a valid reason in place, parents who block contact should also have penalties made against them.

I entirely agree.

EclipsedMind

Craftycarper wrote: »

It's a harsh system!

Trust me you have no idea. I am supposed to have shared residence (by consent order) and have not seen my child for nearly 4 months. In the mean time I have to pay increased maintenace whilst she denies me access. I have PR and have applied for the relevant court orders and now just have to wait and pay the maintenace.

In your case you don't have PR from what you have said and she has done nothing legally wrong. Morality and law do not always go hand in hand. If I were you I would get legal advice on getting PR while you try to find where she is. You should be able to get 30 mins free from a solicitor and then you can use the internet. Also families need fathers can be very helpful.


Best of luck

EM

vitriol

should she not be done for child neglect, depriving a child(ren) of one parent from another without reasonable excuse may warrant this. too many mothers think kids are ok with just mummy, there is a reason why it takes a male and female, as they both compliment each other and both have their own quality's neccasary to bring up a healthy well-balanced child.

its all so sad

PreludeForTimeFeelers

Just to clarify a point here, the CSA *can* give a parent the other parent's contact details, if requested. They will send a letter to the other parent with whatever contact information you want passed on, for example just phone number, just address, or both.

They can't do anything more than that however.

gillypkk

regardless of whether the NRP has contact they still have a responsibility to pay for their child/ren.

the money paid for the kids goes towards rent, gas, leccy, phone, tv and all the other stuff like food and clothes. the money paid is to help raise the child and the includes housing the child! some NRPs forget that.

its a shame that she has taken off with the kids when you seem to be a decent father who cares for his kids. i would in the first instance email her and ask her to meet you somewhere for a handover of the kids for visitation. she may be more likely to agree if she thinks you would not know where she lives. failing that then your only option is to go though the solicitors.

please dont try to punish her by stopping the CSA payments. it only makes you look bad. my ex keeps threatening to stop my CSA payments coz he doesnt see the kids. i offered him contact he refused and will not negociate at all just wants to see them for an hour once a year which is not in the best interest of my kids who havent seen him in over 2 years!! and he cant stop the payments anyway coz the CSA take them from his wages :wall:

kelloggs36

CSA always refused to pass on details - we were told that this was not our remit.

DX2

PreludeForTimeFeelers wrote: »

Just to clarify a point here, the CSA *can* give a parent the other parent's contact details, if requested. They will send a letter to the other parent with whatever contact information you want passed on, for example just phone number, just address, or both.

They can't do anything more than that however.

Really, is this something new?

fannyanna

DX2 wrote: »

Eh, no they can't major breach in data protection for that to happen. The CSA collect money nothing more.

Yes they can if the OP has asked the CSA to assist him in contacting the PWC. In this situation he is basically consenting for them to pass on his details.

Of course in any other context you are correct.