Feeling really fed up, having regrets

red_devil

gs1967 wrote: »

I met my husband when I was 14, he first asked me to marry him when I was 17. We bought our house when I was 23, got engaged when I was 24 and married (and lived together) when I was 26. First child at 31 and second at 36.

I still look at other people and think "what if", and I'm sure he does too, but, they are only fleeting fantasies. I don't really go out now (because I really can't be bothered) but when I did I used to look around and think " thank god I'm not single".

I suppose I did miss out on the girly holidays, or even one night stands, but really, when it comes down to it, they were just fleeting moments that if had happened you would either regret or forget.

I have no advice, sometimes I think like you, but I only have to look at my (very few) facebook friends to realise how lucky (and in the minority) I am really.

But, yesterday, I hated my husband...because sometimes they really are tw@ts, today, he is tolerable and I can put up with the git.

HTH:o

i dont get why you though you were missing out on one night stands.

lollipopsarah

thankyou red devil for making me laugh, i'm married to a mog but i would never think of straying, even though i'm such a tart with the fellas
a little bit of fun a double entandre and all that
mind you i suppose one of these days i will fall foul of the pc brigade
OP don't beat yourself up, i think your feelings are quite normal in a long relationship, my inlaws have been married for 60 years (agh) and though i've never heard them argue (maybe you just learn to put up with each other) we are dreading the day when one goes, because the other will surely follow
agree with other posters, be kind to yourself, you are not old, learn to love the skin you are in.
btw one good thing about being a certain age is that you can get away with all sorts of stuff without offending anyone and have fun too.
best wishes
xx