Can you blame your friends for your debt?

sheraz2

As adults, we should be able to explain the situation and be accepted for who you are not what you are.
I find women bow more to peer pressure than men. Men just need to wear for example something that looks decent. i.e I buy my shirts for £5 they look just the same as the ones going for £35. Whereas women don't feel like they look good unless that tag said £80 or whatever the 'look good rates' are.

climbgirl

sheraz2 wrote:

As adults, we should be able to explain the situation and be accepted for who you are not what you are.
I find women bow more to peer pressure than men. Men just need to wear for example something that looks decent. i.e I buy my shirts for £5 they look just the same as the ones going for £35. Whereas women don't feel like they look good unless that tag said £80 or whatever the 'look good rates' are.

I don't think you can generalise like that, I certainly don't buy things because it's a label or anything like that. I've never been into the idea of "retail therapy" and it annoys me when people tar all women with that same brush. I've got a male friend who's just taken out a loan to buy a £3000 plasma screen tv because "everyone's got them"....

:eek:

ZTD

unixgirluk wrote:

This was for my best friend's son who is 17. Rather than get something he didn't want I thought he'd be able to put it towards a computer game or whatever. My friend didn't speak up in my defence either. Have bought the ungrateful little so and so an adidas gift set from Semi-Chem (£2.99), doubt I'll get a thank you but there you go.

Next time buy him a box of ribbed condoms with a note saying.

1. Now he has no excuse being thoughtless.
2. To bring happiness to someone he needs a little bit of help.
3. They do have an expiry date.

But wrap them up nicely, so they spill out in front of his grandparents when he finally gets through the layers of sellotape.

Bestthingsinlifearefree

The more friends you have the more weddings, birthdays, special nights out etc you get invited to and expense is incurred.

However there is a solution to this issue.

Tell your friends that due to increased demand you have had to introduce a subscription service for your friendship and the free trial period is now over.

For a small monthly fee paid by direct debit to your bank account they can remain your friend.

Maybe offer a choice of 3 packages.

1) Best Friend Gold Package for £50 per month - perks include guaranteeing you will attend their major life events e.g birthdays and you will respond to all e-mails, calls within 24 hours. Plus an exclusive annual invite to your yearly birthday party.

2) Friend Premium Package for £20 per month - You will see them at least once a month and they will get a present at christmas and birthday.

3) Friend basic Package £5 - You will talk to them when you see them but may forget their birthday and not return their calls.

Maybe also include a loyalty scheme where they can gain points to exchange for rewards such as an extra day out with you or signed photo. Plus if they introduce a new friend to you they can get their package upgraded.

This way you will know who your real friends are and who really appreciates your time

Best,

Psykicpup

eventer wrote:

unixgirluk wrote:

smog wrote:

Blimey, you're a better person than me, after that kind of a display of ungratefulness he would have got sweet FA from me in the future! I am clearly well behind the times as I am late twenties and would be chuffed to get that much money from someone! (Whether in the form of folding money or a gift).

& much better than me - I would have snatched it back out his hand & left!

Uniscots97

ZTD wrote:

Next time buy him a box of ribbed condoms with a note saying.

1. Now he has no excuse being thoughtless.
2. To bring happiness to someone he needs a little bit of help.
3. They do have an expiry date.

But wrap them up nicely, so they spill out in front of his grandparents when he finally gets through the layers of sellotape.

You made my morning. I was laughing so hard when I read this everyone was staring in office and I have tears stremaing down my face! :rotfl: