Wisdom and Advice Required.

LillythePink

It is just a fantasy thing for men as (has already been said) they rely on visual images - hence the reason why they appreciate stocking/sussies etc

Why do you think it's degrading?

Have you ever watched any? You should try it - you will either still think the same thing or will find it a bit of a turn on.

My OH watches !!!!!! online, we have a few dvd's where we will watch it together and I do watch !!!!!! online - must say though - I go for more gay !!!!!!!

If you think that it's degrading to women then think again - they call the shots, they are there of their own free will, they earn more than the men, they don't have to do anything they don't want to - personally, some of the !!!!!! bores me - I start to look at it and think, to they have to moan ALL the time/she looks uncomfortable in that position/I wonder how much lube they had to use as he's been going at it for ages etc etc etc

moodydonkey

Maybe he was just looking for a few tips? Me and oh have a great sex life, we both watch !!!!!!, but we are both happy with each other doing it. Possibly he was looking for something to excite you with? Get some ideas? One of the best things we have found through watching !!!!!! is that it's all ooh and ahh and pretty fake and that we do it better. Watching it doesn't always make you feel like they are amazing at it.

balletshoes

LillythePink wrote: »

some of the !!!!!! bores me - I start to look at it and think, to they have to moan ALL the time/she looks uncomfortable in that position/I wonder how much lube they had to use as he's been going at it for ages etc etc etc

!!!!!! usually makes me laugh - as you say, they are going at it so long that the women who are moaning must be losing their voices and getting dizzy jiggling about :rotfl::rotfl:

CFC

TeamLowe wrote: »

this is going to be a very crass post and no judgement on the OP either way...
I always wonder if the ladies who have an issue with !!!!!! don't ummm....know themselves in an intimate way.
I think if you don't then it's harder to see how a quick shufti for five seconds of pleasure is completely different to a loving and sensual relationship with your partner, especially if doing so involves looking at naked ladies. especially the kind of ladies they have in !!!!!!, although they are usually 'but her face's
I watch !!!!!! for a quick thrill, doesn't mean i enjoy sex with my husband any less/find him any less attractive/want him any less, to me they're two different situations. one's a sex life, one's a hobby lol

Of course, just because he watches doesn't mean you have to know, I can understand if you don't like it you wouldn't want it to pop up on the computer, it is after all the real reason windows have that 'secret browsing thing'. For buying presents my left bumcheek! lol x x

Don't be silly. Some women do not like !!!!!! and find it offensive and degrading. It doesn't mean that they are frigid in any way. That's an offensive and small minded generalisation in itself.

OP If you don't like !!!!!! and it offends you or you find it degrading you are not alone or abnormal and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

There ARE men who don't seek out !!!!!!, or at least not if they are in a relationship. You do need to discuss it with your BF so he understands how you feel.

moodydonkey

LillythePink wrote: »

It is just a fantasy thing for men as (has already been said) they rely on visual images - hence the reason why they appreciate stocking/sussies etc

Why do you think it's degrading?

Have you ever watched any? You should try it - you will either still think the same thing or will find it a bit of a turn on.

My OH watches !!!!!! online, we have a few dvd's where we will watch it together and I do watch !!!!!! online - must say though - I go for more gay !!!!!!!

If you think that it's degrading to women then think again - they call the shots, they are there of their own free will, they earn more than the men, they don't have to do anything they don't want to - personally, some of the !!!!!! bores me - I start to look at it and think, to they have to moan ALL the time/she looks uncomfortable in that position/I wonder how much lube they had to use as he's been going at it for ages etc etc etc

I think watching !!!!!! has helped our sex life in that we can see how fake !!!!!! is. There is some good stuff that gets you off of course but it isn't always a case of 'god look how much fun we're having' more 'oh you're doing that for 45 minutes, that's really interesting.....not' or i'm watching the wrong stuff

martinthebandit

CFC wrote: »

......There ARE men who don't seek out !!!!!!, ............

Oh look there is a pig just flown passed the window. :cool:

lorietta

I think it's up to you weather or not it bothers you, yes men look at !!!!!!, but many women don't like it in a commited relationship. It's probably best if you have an open discusion and set some ground rules for the future if it makes you feel really unhappy. I would also say that if he is using a shared computer to do this be really careful as you can get a lot of malwear/viruses from those kinds of websites.