Wisdom and Advice Required.

gingin_2

alipops1986 wrote: »

I think it just suprized me really, as I had no idea and will admitt to being a little naive about these things!

Thanks for all your advice, I think I might just have a word with him and ask for him to be a little more discreet, otherwise it'll just be playing on my mind.

Thanks again x

When I first started dating OH I was 20 and I stayed over one night and he went to work in the morning leaving me there. I saw a pile of fairly mundane !!!!!! magazines on top of his wardrobe and was fuming - to me it was disrespectful, dirty and close to cheating ( I lived a very sheltered life!). I threw all the magazines on his bedroom floor and was very close to putting them in his living room for his housemates to see and I also had a massive strop at him on the phone. 13 years later I still cringe and feel very foolish about it all.

make_me_wise

alipops1986 wrote: »

Morning All,

To cut a long story short - it seems my bf has been looking at !!!!!! online. I'm not impressed and feel a little disappointed to be honest, as i feel it's degrading.

Really, I guess i'm just after some advice as to how to react/ if to react. I don't want to make mountains out of mole hills but I can't help how i feel.

What would you do, if anything?

Thanks,
Alipops x

I'd do nothing at all to be honest. Blokes look at !!!!!!, as do some gals, its no biggy. If this is a huge issue for you I think you may find a long term relationship with anyone a bit tricky.

Emmzi

another vote for "it's only !!!!!!". Is normal.

onlyroz

I wouldn't be concerned unless it was something dodgy like kiddies or animals.

ciderwithrosie_2

viktory wrote: »

If it is a problem for you then talk to him. Personally, I see nothing wrong with both men and women enjoying soft !!!!!! in the form of films, pictures and literature. It can greatly enhance the sexual experience.

I really don't get what the problem is? :huh: unless it's really dodgy stuff. Men are fairly simple creatures (I mean that in a nice way) and are easily stimulated by visual images, minimal effort for a nice result. Lots of women enjoy looking at !!!!!! too or with their partner as mentioned above, it can add a bit of spice. Presumably you enjoy a sex life with him so how is it degrading? Unless you are saying you never do any of the things that happen in a !!!!!! film? Let your hair down and get on and enjoy yourself!

themull1

I love !!!!!! and it wouldn't bother me if husband looked at !!!!!! either.

sexki11en

Hubby & I watch !!!!!! together

I think if you can get over thinking it's a slight on you (because it's really not) then it's not such a big deal.

*Her*

TeamLowe

this is going to be a very crass post and no judgement on the OP either way...
I always wonder if the ladies who have an issue with !!!!!! don't ummm....know themselves in an intimate way.
I think if you don't then it's harder to see how a quick shufti for five seconds of pleasure is completely different to a loving and sensual relationship with your partner, especially if doing so involves looking at naked ladies. especially the kind of ladies they have in !!!!!!, although they are usually 'but her face's
I watch !!!!!! for a quick thrill, doesn't mean i enjoy sex with my husband any less/find him any less attractive/want him any less, to me they're two different situations. one's a sex life, one's a hobby lol

Of course, just because he watches doesn't mean you have to know, I can understand if you don't like it you wouldn't want it to pop up on the computer, it is after all the real reason windows have that 'secret browsing thing'. For buying presents my left bumcheek! lol x x

Jinx

Sounds like hes a normal bloke. If thats your only issue I would be happy and just ask him not to make it obvious in future.

mazy_m

Hey OP as most are saying on here it's completely natural. It isn't a slight on you at all. In what way do you find it degrading? If it really bothers you then just say to him it's your decision if you want to watch !!!!!! but don't involve me or let me know about it as I do find it degrading. I'm sure he won't argue with you on that if he prefers to keep it quiet. Its good to hear some of the stories on here about people changing their minds as I feel that if you sometimes experience watching !!!!!! together as a couple it can be a good experience for both of you to share.

However if you still have objections to it then that's completely normal too we're all built differently and what some see as fine behaviour and pursuits others may find wrong. Obviously there's many things that all normal people would find wrong...
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