Wisdom and Advice Required.

alipops1986

Morning All,

To cut a long story short - it seems my bf has been looking at !!!!!! online. I'm not impressed and feel a little disappointed to be honest, as i feel it's degrading.

Really, I guess i'm just after some advice as to how to react/ if to react. I don't want to make mountains out of mole hills but I can't help how i feel.

What would you do, if anything?

Thanks,
Alipops x

j.e.j.

can you have a heart to heart with him? it's better to get stuff that's bothering you out in the open, if possible.

vax2002

Bromide in his tea !

BitterAndTwisted

Some women are tolerant about their men looking at pornography and some aren't. There is no one way that you "should" feel about this. All that matters is how you actually do feel about it.

carolan78

Most men do look at !!!!!! god knows why but they get pleasure from it. More often than not it is no reflection how they feel about you in the slightest.

I would ask what kind of !!!!!! it though, as long as it is well with in the confines of legality I would simply tell him you saw it and it didn't make you feel too great. So would he please try to be more discreet next time. Then make sure you leave the matter there and move on from it.

Remember !!!!!! is all pure fantasy stuff and it's not likely that it will ever cross over into your reality so let him have his half hour of fun during his alone time. Buy yourself some of the !!!!!! available for females, you never know you might like it and if not at least you can leave it open on some naked buff young man so he has a taste of how it feels to find it

alipops1986

I think it just suprized me really, as I had no idea and will admitt to being a little naive about these things!

Thanks for all your advice, I think I might just have a word with him and ask for him to be a little more discreet, otherwise it'll just be playing on my mind.

Thanks again x

the_cat

Ok massive gender generalisation alert........:D

Men look at !!!!!! as a fantasy world. They seem to prefer to see their fantasy acted out to see rather than to imagine it

Women are more likely to daydream ...... more imagination!;)

Not really much different is it?

VfM4meplse

I think you are taking the right approach.

I can understand how you feel, just bear in mind men don't see things in quite the same way as women. You'll probably find that he can separate !!!!!! (fiction) from real-life (fact) effectively and this is a mild interest rather than an obsession.

mrcow

alipops1986 wrote: »

I think it just suprized me really, as I had no idea and will admitt to being a little naive about these things!

Thanks for all your advice, I think I might just have a word with him and ask for him to be a little more discreet, otherwise it'll just be playing on my mind.

Thanks again x

Tell him to get his own computer - then he can look at all the !!!!!! he wants without you having to see the evidence.

balletshoes

alipops1986 wrote: »

Morning All,

To cut a long story short - it seems my bf has been looking at !!!!!! online. I'm not impressed and feel a little disappointed to be honest, as i feel it's degrading.

Really, I guess i'm just after some advice as to how to react/ if to react. I don't want to make mountains out of mole hills but I can't help how i feel.

What would you do, if anything?

Thanks,
Alipops x

if you feel its degrading, then you should calmly tell your bf how you feel. But you should also accept that to lots of people, !!!!!! isn't degrading, and your bf may see absolutely nothing wrong in watching it.

viktory

If it is a problem for you then talk to him. Personally, I see nothing wrong with both men and women enjoying soft !!!!!! in the form of films, pictures and literature. It can greatly enhance the sexual experience.