I feel so !!!!!!.. Having a moan.. :(

LolaMadeline

Your description of boils under your arms, boobs, groin area sounds like hydradenitis supporativa. The boils can form tunnels under your skin. But good news--many people are helped by turmeric, a spice used in curry. You can do two things with it--one is to make a paste maybe w a first aid cream like neosporin and turmeric and pat it on. The other thing is to take turmeric orally. You can read up on this on alternative remedies sites. This works within hours, people can feel it. You can buy turmeric capsules at walmart.
I was reading that for boils you can put on Campho Phenique, a drug store salve. Another thing to try is tomato sauce slathered on. Docs usually give antibiotics for hydradenitis supporativa and people say it doesn't help, so you could try these simpler things. Good luck!

Darlyd

Thank you so much for all your kind words, really means a lot.

Hubby and I have spent the day together (apart from when I had to go work this eve), And we have spoken about everything, I feel so much better, we are going to sort things out, I know he loves me, And I love him to bits too as in OP, We do need to work this through, The things I mentioned in OP, well we are working through them as and when we get the funds, I can understand he does not want me to take credit on new furniture, I think I acted a bit like a spoilt brat but still. We will get there.

It's our one year anniversary today (still no sex, he is in bed now, up at 3.30am for work , I think he tried, asking me to go bed with him at 9, But I wanted to stay downstairs as I really got into Britain's got talent tut). ---

I am re starting Weight Watchers as of tomorrow, Can't wait to go shopping for healthy food, No more choclate tray in the fridge (will help kids too), But will fill it with fruit, fruit I have never even tried (such as kiwi, plums etc). I am not a keen fruit lover, I only like cooked fruit and I also will have a banana now and then, so this is a new thing for me, will still buy crisps for the kids and for me to help with my points.

As for my boils, well, I am going to try some tumeric, Nothing lost giving it a go. They are getting beyond now, really are. So can't wait to see if that has an affect on me. (thanks for that tip).

And my rosasia I suppose, As I lose weight and start to feel better about myself, I will give myself more ME time and experiment with make up more, Just wish I had a best friend who is like a sister to me, (never had that ) .

As for my job, I still not made my mind up, urghh, I am sure Manager from new company will be ringing me tomorrow about arranging for shadowing (where I follow carer's to their calls for a few days to get the feel of their way of working), I am still wanting to stay with my present company as I am in love with my clients that I visit. Urgh this is so hard.. I am going into my office in the morning/afternoon and I will tell them I have accepted a new job, So am unable to work weekends alternative anymore, And I think I will do alternative weekends with new company and the day time BUT can only manage 9.30-4 (they usualy work, 7-11am, 12-2pm, 7-10.30pm). But I am sure manager can work around this. (fingers crossed). Only because new company pay more, I mean If I did 20 hours a week with company I would earn £20 more with new company than I would present company, If you get me.. ?

DD1 situation, Well it's just getting worse, Had a mother here from another child today, telling me her child is no angel either, and my DD (who is staying with my parents in Wales for the week) has been texting nasty texts, would of only started today as she never had her phone over the weekend as she was camping with the guides.. I did ring Tesco mobile to cancel her sim (she is on a roling monthly contract for £10 unlimited texts and 500 mins, was fed up of topping up £30 a mnth) BUT they told me they cancelled, but she has still been using it, and my Mother can not get the phone off of her, poor mum don't need the stress, just wait till she gets back here. Hmmm Can't wait to see CAMHS hope they listen and can help.

Thanks again guys.. Feel free to add more tips etc. Always take advice on board..

happierdaystocome

Wow darlyd it sounds like you have really taken the bull by the horns. Well done you,:T I'm glad that you and your OH were able to sort things out.

Although here is still no sex (its only been one night) OH did ask you to go to bed with him and even if it was only to cuddle I think that sometimes it the intimacy we miss.

I discuss the situation regarding hours with the new manager to ensure that they are able to accommodate these hours before telling your current employer about the new job. Although I would like to wish you good luck and hope new employer is able to be flexiable.

Dont know what to say regarding DD, I hope CAHMS are able to offer you some practical advise to help you.

caledonian_princess

darlyd, regarding your weight - just take it slowly, don't rush in and starve yourself, that's the easiest way to fail at losing weight. Instead try to cut out a snack or two, or replace it with some fruit, carrot batons etc, swap for the low fat or full fibre versions of things. Also, a little more exercise when you can fit something in is great and it will help you sleep at night. It doesn't have to be a full on gym session, just a walk or maybe get a yoga dvd and work through it at home.

As for the rosacea and thread veins, I suffer from both. I got electrolysis for the veins and IPL for the raised colour. It takes time and it's expensive but I'm thinking that if your problem is severe then you may be able to get treated on the NHS even if you have a long wait for it, mine wasn't bad enough to warrant even a trip to the Doctor so I don't know what the situation is, but there's no harm in asking. Also, and I bet you already know this, alcohol isn't good for either condition so try to cut that down or out and use something else to help you sleep. Sometimes I have a cup of warm skimmed milk at bedtime, also helps with getting hungry at night, and I have a lavender pillow that I can pop in the microwave, that helps too.

I hope things improve with your daughter - sorry that I can't be any help there and I agree with happierdays to come about your husband, start with hugs and kisses and work up from there. Just showing each other affection is a great start.

Good luck.

patchwork_cat

Look into IPL for your acne rosacea.

Losing weight is hard if it wasn't everyone would be thin -

I get shaky too and cold sweat and feel faint, I call it my hypo. I find that they are much better if I have more protein with my meals and try low GI. When I get bad I have a cup of sweet tea and follow with some carbs, although the urge is just to eat and eat, but I get a lot less hypos when I eat low GI. You can lower the glycaemic load of a meal by going for slower realise carbs and more protein, maybe just vegetable carbs at lunch with protein. Do you have a time of day when you get shaky? mine are 3 -5 and I can stop it by eating a high protein lunch.

Sambucus_Nigra

http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/offer-listing/059306092X/ref=tmm_pap_used_olp_0?ie=UTF8&condition=used

Don't start weightwatchers; or any other diet - it's a waste of time.

Eat properly, don't overeat, take a little more exercise and start to like yourself again. The above book is available for 1p plus £2.80 - so spend £2.81 on yourself and change your approach forever...seriously.

I can't help with your other problems, if you want sex and moan about not getting it but would prefer to watch TV when it's on offer; then you need to look into why exactly you behave like that.

And don't put turmeric on your boils; go see a doctor and get proper advice.

pinkshoes

darlyd wrote: »

I have to have chocolate in my car for work just in case I feel week.

I have exactly the same (get the shakes, feel weak etc...), although I am very underweight, and struggle to put weight on, so look scrawny!

The chocolate thing is a myth, and is actually the worst thing you can eat! It'll give you a sugar high, then leave you feeling even worse later on.

When you get the shakes, you need to eat some protein or carbs i.e. some pasta, wholemeal bread, a small piece of cheese, unsalted nuts etc... It'll take a little longer to stop you feeling weak, but will leave you feeling full and much better for so much longer.

Get a bag of unsalted nuts/raisins to have in your car instead, and either buy the small bags so you can't over eat, or decant them into a small container.

Making small steps like this will see the weight fall off gradually. Good luck!

make_me_wise

darlyd wrote: »

And unhappy

I am so overweight (like 4-5 stone), I am unable to do healthy eating as I just over eat, and can't help it, I am always hungry, and feel week if I don't eat, I have to have chocolate in my car for work just in case I feel week.

I get constant boils, under my boob's, down sides, inner thighs, and now recently my tummy uchy.

I have rosacia terribly on my face (just red face, and many broken veins), I have cover up foundation on prescription from gp, but it takes ages to put on, and I am still yet to find a good powder to go on top of it as it's very pale.

I love my husband to bits I really do, I would not of moved nearly 300 miles away to be with him, but we never have sex, he has such a low libido, I could walk past in stockings he would just smiles and carry on playing his online games drinking his beer.

I can not change our sofa (this one is so uncomfy) without his permission, and he won't let me, I can't decorate living room as I am not allowed. It's all his own house.

I wanted a rescue dog but he getting a puppy, We need to either move to a bigger house or extend as my 12 year old is in tiny room next to us, and he blames that for the reason he don't want sex. Hence me wanting to move out. hmph

My 12 year old is a nightmare child, she disrespects everyone (she is not my husbands), tells teachers where to go, causes trouble in school, out of school, youth club called to not sent her again as she is at it there too, she is racist, untidy, dirty, and is nasty to my husband calling him a c**t, wishes he was dead and buried with his dad (who passed away yr today), she also smashed our front door, where we got police involved to scare her, but it not worked. arghh. We are seeing CAHMS & CAFF for this, can't come quick enough.

I love my job, I love what I do, but pay is so rubbish, and I have to work myself into the ground to even have enough hours to pay for what I need.

Also think I am turning into an alcoholic I am always drinking in the evenings, to aid in sleep, as I just toss and turn, my whole body aches .

God I am so unhappy, and am being horrid to DH, And I just don't want to be here anymore, But don't know if I could cope alone with the kids, I am such a !!!!!.

I miss my Mum she is nearly 300 miles away, and she not to good herself, My nan has start of Dementia. urghh I could not move back there though, nothing down there only my close family, never really had friends. And my and my Mum don't really get on, cat and mouse relationship. Left home as soon as I turnt 16, 15 years ago!

OK I think I feel better now. :eek: you now have my life story lol.. Any advice ?

Im not sure we do have your life story OP. I think there is probably so much more you are coping with and trying to juggle that you haven't mentioned on here.

I get the impression that you try to be all things to all people and get very little help and support yourself. Is there anything in your life hun that makes you happy and brings you some peace? If there isn't there needs to be.

My advice is to start putting yourself first a little more. Take baby steps with everything. Focus on something you would like to achieve and set yourself a realistic timeline and then go for it. You will feel so much better as you gradually work towards being and feeling how you would like to.

kaya

darlyd wrote: »

And unhappy

I am so overweight (like 4-5 stone), I am unable to do healthy eating as I just over eat, and can't help it, I am always hungry, and feel week if I don't eat, I have to have chocolate in my car for work just in case I feel week. (I been tested for diabetes many times, all fine). Only diet I can do to lose weight and not feel hungry on is low carb and meal replacement (such as lipotrim/cambridge). But I get an increase in palpitations, and I have a fear of being rushed to hospital for gall bladder surgery Or something and when in ketosis it's dangerous. urgh

I get constant boils, under my boob's, down sides, inner thighs, and now recently my tummy uchy.

I have rosacia terribly on my face (just red face, and many broken veins), I have cover up foundation on prescription from gp, but it takes ages to put on, and I am still yet to find a good powder to go on top of it as it's very pale. So I been using liquid foundation from boots, been advertised on the tv, lasts a long time, but just covers it does not take the redness away completely.

I love my husband to bits I really do, I would not of moved nearly 300 miles away to be with him, but we never have sex, he has such a low libido, I could walk past in stockings he would just smiles and carry on playing his online games drinking his beer. . I can not change our sofa (this one is so uncomfy) without his permission, and he won't let me, I can't decorate living room as I am not allowed. It's all his own house. I wanted a rescue dog but he getting a puppy, We need to either move to a bigger house or extend as my 12 year old is in tiny room next to us, and he blames that for the reason he don't want sex. Hence me wanting to move out. hmph

My 12 year old is a nightmare child, she disrespects everyone (she is not my husbands), tells teachers where to go, causes trouble in school, out of school, youth club called to not sent her again as she is at it there too, she is racist, untidy, dirty, and is nasty to my husband calling him a c**t, wishes he was dead and buried with his dad (who passed away yr today), she also smashed our front door, where we got police involved to scare her, but it not worked. arghh. We are seeing CAHMS & CAFF for this, can't come quick enough.

I love my job, I love what I do, but pay is so rubbish, and I have to work myself into the ground to even have enough hours to pay for what I need. So I done my training for another company in same field, but I do not have the guts to leave this job as i love everyone and I adore my clients, so been thinking I will tell my present company I will do just 4 calls (2 hours an eve 5-7pm for my regulars i adore) and no weekends, and work alternitive weekends and days with my new company, But I need to find child care for 12.15 (picking little one up from playschool) untill 2pm when I finish day shift. (until DD is in full time school September) As MIL is unreliable as she goes away a lot. Hubby won't help financially with childcare he reckons he does not have it spare.. (liar liar bum is on fire). I won't earn enough to pay for the shift's nursery's offer I would only be working 9.30-11 then 12-2 (would miss from 7am-9.30am as trying to save on child care). I may as wel move out least tax credits would help me, and I could have a career I have always wanted.

Also think I am turning into an alcoholic I am always drinking in the evenings, to aid in sleep, as I just toss and turn, my whole body aches .

God I am so unhappy, and am being horrid to DH, And I just don't want to be here anymore, But don't know if I could cope alone with the kids, I am such a !!!!!. I miss my Mum she is nearly 300 miles away, and she not to good herself, My nan has start of Dementia. urghh I could not move back there though, nothing down there only my close family, never really had friends. And my and my Mum don't really get on, cat and mouse relationship. Left home as soon as I turnt 16, 15 years ago!

OK I think I feel better now. :eek: you now have my life story lol.. Any advice ?

i'm 42, im 3 stone overweight and unable to exercise due to my medical condition, i cannot work and i am in constant pain which is only alleviated by morphine, which turns me into a sleepy dribbling cabbage, i cannot lift a kettle full of water without pain, the opiates make me constipated and soon i will build up a tolerance to them and they will no longer work, i cannot stand or sit for more than ten mins without the pain increasing, i cannot work any longer, i am on benefits, the dwp are treating everybody like scroungers and the newspapers make anybody with an illness on benefits into a vilan, i have seen two eminent spinal surgeons who assure me that my condition is in-operable, i have many years of pain and no doubt a wheelchair to look forward to in the future, my wife AND I want to have a baby and i honestly dont know if i could cope, most of the time i cannot even drive of pick up a pen from the floor let alone deal with a baby, i find it frustrating reading when people moan and whinge about their lives because they are too idle to get off there big old backsides and deal with the issues they have created and the situations they have got themselves into, if only i had the many life options the op has available to them for myself i would be a happy man indeed, my advice to you is to be grateful for what you have and stop wasting your life away moaning on internet chat forums.

penol14

Please don't give up on yourself, start thinking about you the stronger you get the better you will feel about yourself and the issues that you are dealing with. i hope things start getting better for you soon