I feel so !!!!!!.. Having a moan.. :(

patchwork_cat

kaya wrote: »

i'm 42, im 3 stone overweight and unable to exercise due to my medical condition, i cannot work and i am in constant pain which is only alleviated by morphine, which turns me into a sleepy dribbling cabbage, i cannot lift a kettle full of water without pain, the opiates make me constipated and soon i will build up a tolerance to them and they will no longer work, i cannot stand or sit for more than ten mins without the pain increasing, i cannot work any longer, i am on benefits, the dwp are treating everybody like scroungers and the newspapers make anybody with an illness on benefits into a vilan, i have seen two eminent spinal surgeons who assure me that my condition is in-operable, i have many years of pain and no doubt a wheelchair to look forward to in the future, my wife AND I want to have a baby and i honestly dont know if i could cope, most of the time i cannot even drive of pick up a pen from the floor let alone deal with a baby, i find it frustrating reading when people moan and whinge about their lives because they are too idle to get off there big old backsides and deal with the issues they have created and the situations they have got themselves into, if only i had the many life options the op has available to them for myself i would be a happy man indeed, my advice to you is to be grateful for what you have and stop wasting your life away moaning on internet chat forums.

My sympathy, but it doesn't really help the OP. There is always soemone worse off than yourself and yes when reading the OP's post I felt well at least you still have your gran and mum, mine died when I was 28. At least you can work, I can't due to health issues etc., but I am sure I could find someone worse off than you, too, Kaya.

The_Rizler

Was '!!!!!!' a typo or intentional? If it's a combination of 'fat' and 'ugly' I think it's a great word and describes how I feel. Thank you OP for the new expression.

Darlyd

The_Rizler wrote: »

Was '!!!!!!' a typo or intentional? If it's a combination of 'fat' and 'ugly' I think it's a great word and describes how I feel. Thank you OP for the new expression.

It started off with the first letter of a swear word then ugly.

Thanks again for all the advice guys, I am still happy from my reply yesterday. Fingers crossed.

Stressing over my word dilemma though, told present manager today of my plans, she never sounded happy. Not heard from new company yet, perhaps If I don't by end of week then go for another. There is another company advertising with again better pay.

southoftheriver

kaya wrote: »

i'm 42, im 3 stone overweight and unable to exercise due to my medical condition, i cannot work and i am in constant pain which is only alleviated by morphine, which turns me into a sleepy dribbling cabbage, i cannot lift a kettle full of water without pain, the opiates make me constipated and soon i will build up a tolerance to them and they will no longer work, i cannot stand or sit for more than ten mins without the pain increasing, i cannot work any longer, i am on benefits, the dwp are treating everybody like scroungers and the newspapers make anybody with an illness on benefits into a vilan, i have seen two eminent spinal surgeons who assure me that my condition is in-operable, i have many years of pain and no doubt a wheelchair to look forward to in the future, my wife AND I want to have a baby and i honestly dont know if i could cope, most of the time i cannot even drive of pick up a pen from the floor let alone deal with a baby, i find it frustrating reading when people moan and whinge about their lives because they are too idle to get off there big old backsides and deal with the issues they have created and the situations they have got themselves into, if only i had the many life options the op has available to them for myself i would be a happy man indeed, my advice to you is to be grateful for what you have and stop wasting your life away moaning on internet chat forums.

I sympathise with your health problems, it must be incredibly frustrating to be held back from doing what you want. But if you pass judgment on someone elses difficulties then where does it end?

I know someone who is even more overweight and in pain than you and they can't work either. Even worse, they live somewhere with no social security system so they have no money coming in at all. So they are in debt to the tune of £25,000 because they borrow from dodgy lenders who high interests. Oh also their healthcare isn't free at the point of use so they can't get any help for their condition.

Not to be flippant about what you are going through, I hope you find some way to reduce the amount of pain you are in and get your life back. But there is always someone else worse off than you and we all have moments where we feel vulnerable. It's how those are dealt with that makes a difference.

Darlyd

kaya wrote: »

i'm 42, im 3 stone overweight and unable to exercise due to my medical condition, i cannot work and i am in constant pain which is only alleviated by morphine, which turns me into a sleepy dribbling cabbage, i cannot lift a kettle full of water without pain, the opiates make me constipated and soon i will build up a tolerance to them and they will no longer work, i cannot stand or sit for more than ten mins without the pain increasing, i cannot work any longer, i am on benefits, the dwp are treating everybody like scroungers and the newspapers make anybody with an illness on benefits into a vilan, i have seen two eminent spinal surgeons who assure me that my condition is in-operable, i have many years of pain and no doubt a wheelchair to look forward to in the future, my wife AND I want to have a baby and i honestly dont know if i could cope, most of the time i cannot even drive of pick up a pen from the floor let alone deal with a baby, i find it frustrating reading when people moan and whinge about their lives because they are too idle to get off there big old backsides and deal with the issues they have created and the situations they have got themselves into, if only i had the many life options the op has available to them for myself i would be a happy man indeed, my advice to you is to be grateful for what you have and stop wasting your life away moaning on internet chat forums.

AM so sorry to hear of your problems, Am sorry If my post offended you.

I work with people same as yourself, and much worse off, and it breaks my heart to see them suffer like they do. Like many have said, there is always someone worse off then us.
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