why am i such a wimp when it comes to talking to blokes???

zoesmummy_2006

Lets rant together hun, we can share tips n encouragement! Least with cyber space if he blanks me its not like face to face! I think youre really brave to have chatted to the guy you liked-heres me who looks away whenever he looks at me lol! Xx

January20

zoesmummy_2006 wrote: »

Lets rant together hun, we can share tips n encouragement! Least with cyber space if he blanks me its not like face to face! I think youre really brave to have chatted to the guy you liked-heres me who looks away whenever he looks at me lol! Xx

As he added you on FB, he definitely knows who you are and mustn't be adverse to a bit of communication with you, so next time he looks at you, try and smile at him. It's not easy but try and imagine me whispering: "smile, smile smile"

I think your cousin is great

make_me_wise

zoesmummy_2006 wrote: »

I DID IT!!!

Just sent him a private message saying hi, so what do you think the score will be? died!

We just chatted bit bout the footie n general stuff, with it being so late he said he needed to go cos he has his son once a week n he gets up about 6.

zoesmummy_2006 wrote: »

ive been thinking about it, and while theres definately a bit of fear of rejection in there, my main issue now when it comes to guys is that im a single mum with 2 kids whos divorcing her ex husband-who would have me back in a heartbeat if i said yes,

i know there are guys out there that genuinely dont mind a girl having kids but its finding them!! guess i can have fun kissing some toads until i find my real prince lol xxx

Well done you for making the first move :T. Bet you feel great. It makes a bit more sense now why you are feeling so cautious. When you have two little kids to consider it is harder to start a new relationship with someone I imagine.

Sounds to me like he is a dad to a youngster too though. No-one gets up at 6 with teenagers in the house do they! So he has his past and a special little person related to that and you have yours.

Keep it really casual and fun and see where it leads. Even if you two stay good friends and meet up now and then to watch the footie, thats good. It will be a bloke to chat to and build your confidence up with if nothing else. I've a feeling it could go further than that though, good luck and enjoy :beer:

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Hi,

so you going out tonight to watch ManU, could be your night, might be a Messi game though.

There_Goes_Trouble

Well done!!! I'm very pleased for you knowing exactly how hard it is to actually do it!!

Like 'make me wise' said, even if nothing romantic comes of it, you've gained another friend, and friends will introduce you to their friends.... etc etc.

Don't worry about the children, take it as it comes, you'll know if it's going to work or not. Again, stop trying to second guess how he might feel. You'll only get it wrong and make incorrect assumptions, then assume they're correct. Wait and see.

And, now you've made that move once, you know that you can do it, so if you're ever in the same boat again you'll have much more confidence!

Good luck!

zoesmummy_2006

yeah he has a little boy whos a bit younger than my daughter.

it gets better, the last thing i said was to let me know if he ever wants someone to watch the match with, provided he dont mind watching with a girl, but think he'd logged off so it sent as pm. well he replied this morning via pm saying "ok will do, no i dont mind watching with a girl at all lol. thanks x"

my cousin is ever so slightly very much excited lol! im just still not quite believing. sounded him out on the match tonight when we chatted and he's going out with some mates to another town, im babysitting my cousins daughter, her and my kids are having a sleepover.

will keep my fingers crossed see if he messages me later then.....

pigpen

Here's one to make you feel better...

My ex (KH) left me and our 8 children after he had been seeing another woman for 3 months.. I just ignored it and got on with life until he came home with lice *down there .. BLEURGH!* Anyhoo.. the week he left.. she dumped him .. HAHAHAHAHA..

About a month before he left I had been chatting to a guy on FB.. didn't know him just added loads of random people who played a couple of games I did and ended up chatting.. nothing I wouldn't have been ok with KH reading to perfectly day-to-day chat.

Fast forward 2 years, 2 months and.. 5 days.. THAT accurate!

That guy is living here we are expecting our second baby in October and while he is 7.5 years younger than me he is just so lovely.. he is kind and sweet and lovely and wonderful and I wouldn't swap him for all the cats in the world.. he even loves my cats!

He stayed throughout my hideous divorce, KH being a KH. He looked after me when I was ill.. ferries us to appointments and all over.. he feeds the cats and loads the dishwasher and he can even reach the smoke alarms without getting the steps out He tolerates my insane family, inc. my mother. He is an absolute gem and I love him lots.

Kh is a Kh and in a few years time the chidren will hate him and it will all be his own doing and he will have noone to blame but himself! He is on to his third woman since he left.. obviously things in the bedroom and the KH attitude haven't changed...

So.. if someone will take me on with my family and issues and craziness neither of you 2 have anything to worry about.. not a thing.. apart from them all being gay, unavailable or just freaky.. lol...

Think positive... you are taking him on with a little boy.. he is in the same position as you in many ways.. my poor OH had never seen a child a close range before my lot!

Go in head first.. not heart first!

sweetme

January20 wrote: »

There is a guy I like. I got talking to him. A few times. Turns out he is gay! I give up. Honestly I do!
They're all either gay or unavailable or just plain weird... I'm just going to get a cat....

Snap! The one's I like are always gay or unavailable!

sweetme

pigpen wrote: »

Here's one to make you feel better...

My ex (KH) left me and our 8 children after he had been seeing another woman for 3 months.. I just ignored it and got on with life until he came home with lice *down there .. BLEURGH!* Anyhoo.. the week he left.. she dumped him .. HAHAHAHAHA..

About a month before he left I had been chatting to a guy on FB.. didn't know him just added loads of random people who played a couple of games I did and ended up chatting.. nothing I wouldn't have been ok with KH reading to perfectly day-to-day chat.

Fast forward 2 years, 2 months and.. 5 days.. THAT accurate!

That guy is living here we are expecting our second baby in October and while he is 7.5 years younger than me he is just so lovely.. he is kind and sweet and lovely and wonderful and I wouldn't swap him for all the cats in the world.. he even loves my cats!

He stayed throughout my hideous divorce, KH being a KH. He looked after me when I was ill.. ferries us to appointments and all over.. he feeds the cats and loads the dishwasher and he can even reach the smoke alarms without getting the steps out He tolerates my insane family, inc. my mother. He is an absolute gem and I love him lots.

Kh is a Kh and in a few years time the chidren will hate him and it will all be his own doing and he will have noone to blame but himself! He is on to his third woman since he left.. obviously things in the bedroom and the KH attitude haven't changed...

So.. if someone will take me on with my family and issues and craziness neither of you 2 have anything to worry about.. not a thing.. apart from them all being gay, unavailable or just freaky.. lol...

Think positive... you are taking him on with a little boy.. he is in the same position as you in many ways.. my poor OH had never seen a child a close range before my lot!

Go in head first.. not heart first!

I heart this post so much! It give's me hope. Now been on my own for two years with four kids, and to be honest haven't looked but would be nice to have someone for me now

scooby088

It has been a good way of me to introduce me to people in the past i used msn to talk to people, fb chat is just that chat. you dont have to commit anything just a few mins of chat thats all nothing more. All you need to do is treat it as such and dont put the pressure on yourself to chat. When i chat on fb i sometimes leave the conversation and go back to it at a later date. After all they are only words on a screen.