Had my cat PTS :(

dundeedoll_2

So sorry to hear about Candy. Please don't torture yourself with 'what ifs'...........you gave her a lovely life - remember that!

Lost my girl in January and yes, it still hurts and I miss her terribly, but the raw awful pain will get less.

SophieCat

Thank you all for your kind words I don't have any children, so my pets are like my children (& spoilt rotten). Honestly, I spend more on them, than I do myself (but I wouldn't have it any other way). You get so attached to them & then when they pass away, it's like losing a member of the family. The pain is horrible.

I'm so sorry for all of your losses :grouphug: I read a quote earlier (on MSE) which said: "Better that you suffer the pain of losing them because you care, than they suffer pain because you don't". It helps me to think this way.

x

mutter

Children are only cat substitutes anyway.



Thomas Hardy knew how it felt -

LAST WORDS TO A DUMB FRIEND
Thomas Hardy


Pet was never mourned as you,
Purrer of the spotless hue,
Plumy tail, and wistful gaze,
While you humoured our queer ways,
Or outshrilled your morning call
Up the stairs and through the hall--
Foot suspened in its fall--
While, expectant, you would stand
Arched, to meet the stroking hand;
Till your way you chose to wend
Yonder, to your tragic end.

Never another pet for me!
Let your place all vacant be;
Better blankness day by day
Than companion torn away.
Better bid his memory fade,
Better blot each mark he made,
Selfishly escape distress
By contrived forgetfulness,
Than preserve his prints to make
Every morn and eve an ache.

From the chair whereon he sat
Sweep his fur, nor wince thereat;
Rake his little pathways out
Mid the bushes roundabout;
Smooth away his talons' mark
From the claw-worn pine-tree bark,
Where he climbed as dusk embrowned
Waiting us who loitered round.

Strange it is this speechless thing,
Subject to our mastering,
Subject for his life and food
To our gift, and time, and mood;
Timid pensioner of us Powers,
His existence ruled by ours,
Should--by crossing at a breath
Into safe and shielded death,
By the merely taking hence
Of his insignificance--
Loom as largened to the sense,
Shape as part, above man's will,
Of the Imperturbable.

As a prisoner, flight debarred,
Exercising in a yard,
Still retain I, troubled, shaken,
Mean estate, by him forsaken;
And this home, which scarcely took
Impress from his little look,
By his faring to the Dim,
Grows all eloquent of him.

Housemate, I can think you still
Bounding to the window-sill,
Over which I vaguely see
Your small mound beneath the tree,
Showing in the autumn shade
That you moulder where you played.

rising_from_the_ashes

Big hugs for you - RIP Candy.

It's horrible and never gets easier - however, at least with out 4 legged family we are able to stop/end any suffering and give them a dignified and peaceful end.

Please don't think "what if" or feel guilty - I did that and it tears you apart. I know I let him go at the right time but it I still thought I should've kept going longer - that wouldn't have been for him but for me not wanting to let go.

It will get easier, and you'll be able to look back at the love and affection you shared and the antics she used to get up to with a smile.

Sarah2100

A similar thing happened to my dog somone fed her rotten fish through the fence the following day she fell ill with shivers then the next day she died she was only 5 and had all her standard vac's, devastating

Sarah

SophieCat

Sarah2100 wrote: »

A similar thing happened to my dog somone fed her rotten fish through the fence the following day she fell ill with shivers then the next day she died she was only 5 and had all her standard vac's, devastating

Sarah

So sorry to hear about your dog What was her name?

I think I might plant some Forget-Me-Nots in the garden & get one of those 'Cats leave paw prints on our hearts' stones for the garden too.

wilykit

Sorry to hear about your cat OP, lost my 2 year old cat in March due to somebody poisoning him.

Hope you start to feel better soon, *hugs*

xxx

Sugar_Moon

I know its a different animal but I had my dog PTS last year and the pain was so raw and felt like it would never end. Thankfully, it does. I still miss him but I can think about him now without crying.

It will get better x

spike7451

Sugar_Moon wrote: »

I know its a different animal but I had my dog PTS last year and the pain was so raw and felt like it would never end. Thankfully, it does. I still miss him but I can think about him now without crying.

It will get better x

I was,and still am even now,the same way over Orbit.
SophieCat,as someone explained to me,when Orbit passed away,it gave another homeless cat the chance of a home.And he was correct,I now have Daisy Cat.

In Candy's passing,another cat has the chance at a forever home.I'm sure Candy would approve of this & look down on you all from the Bridge.

Dizzy_Ditzy

i was just moaning to myself about my little feline friend not leaving my side at all this evening and then i read your post. It so put my little whinge in perspective

I am so sorry to read of your loss xx