In it together - or not?

notyet

Hi everyone

Thanks again for your replies, they do make me smile!
Im working a later shift tonight so he'll have to cook for the family while i go, this could be fun!
Anyhoo, big sis is bringing us fish supper tomorrow as a gift, so we'll be munching that while he's doing some overtime. (Gosh, i can be so mean at times! lol)
Have deliberately not bought any butter/spread today. Me & kids like to put sauce/mayo on the bread, really only use it for mashing spuds.
Must say i quite like this £2 per day budget malarky!!

Happy Tuesday to all! :A

DVardysShadow

RAS wrote: »

I think you need to get what little money you have out of the house. Do you have a locker at work?

And I think you seriously need to consdier whether you want to stay in this relationship if he is that abusive. What if you had kids and no food?

I would agree with this. He is taking no responsibility, He is taking rather than sharing in the plight and overcoming it.

the_cat

I hadn't realised you had kids! I retract my previous light hearted post

I find it worrying that you are so laid back that he is prepared to steal from an already overstretched food kittie which is needed to feed your children. Anyone who puts buying cigarettes above feeding their children is showing a great big, red warning flag. The fact that he has done so deliberately and knowingly behind your back shows him to be a thoughtless, selfish pig who has little regard for his partner and children

This is NOT funny and needs properly addressing

ExNicotineQueen

As an ex-smoker myself I remember the urge of the evil nicotine and one of my lowest points was having nothing but £6 to my name and buying a pack of cigs and using the remaining pennies to go to Asda at 3am and buy the reduced bread and 9p noodles. Between myself and my OH, (we were both smokers) we decided to forgo spending the majority on food for the sake of cigs. In our mind, cigarettes were more important than food. It is absolutely ridiculous when I think back on it now, but the reality is when you are addicted to something, whether that be cigs, alcohol or drugs, when faced with the proposition of going without for any length of time can drive you to despair.

If your husband is a smoker, how does he normally pay for his smokes? I’m not trying to make light of what your husband has done, and it’s made worse by the fact you have kids to consider which in my view should come above everything else, but just wanted to give an alternative view from an ex-smoker, I do remember how hard it was and especially if you are in a stressful situation you want to smoke even more than you usually do.

clang_uk

Without sounding rude about your partner he doesnt sound too supportive and hasnt quite grasped the fact that you are struggling to get buy. He needs to cat like a man and help support you and the kids not demand dinner and put the money you do have up in smoke! Do boots do a free nicorette trial might help him stop wasting money?! Good luck - I like the idea of giving him one egg!!

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I expect your GP can give free quit smoking advice including patches.

EssexHebridean

Looking at your posting history OP you're clearly struggling long term - why not post up an SOA so people can make suggestions of where there might be possible savings for the future, rather than just seeing this as a situation to be dealt with until you get paid again?

snookey

He really needs a wake up call. Id feed your children and yourself and let him find his own food.

palaran

Spend all the money on food now so there is no money left for him to steal.

CH27

Ask him what sort of man has his kids going hungry just so he can smoke.