Reasonable time for 14 yr old DS to be home in the evening

shellsuit

My kids (15 and 13) hardly ever go out on a week night, but if they do on a rare occasion, they don't have a time to be in by. Saying that though, they have never taken the micky. This is during term time.

When I was 14, I had to be in for 10pm, but I'd come home and go straight to bed.

nikkit72

My 13 yro comes in at 8.30,
my 15 and 16 yro come in at 9pm on sch nights and half hour later sch hols, and thats my 16 yo too.
8.30 is fine for a 14yo

alisong1

If your son is difficult, you can't be soft with him and give up, especially at this age. Establish a reward system, so he also learns that he needs to respect your rules first if he wants to get more.

I like the idea of adding 1 or maybe 2 minutes to his allowed time if he comes home on time. And eventually he will get what he wants because he respected the house rules.

roadiegirl

Up until I was 15 I had to be home by 8pm, same went during GCSE time unless I was at a gig, which either mine or my friends Dad would pick us up from the venue. Then till I was 18 it was about 10/11 depending on what I was doing, then the day I hit 18 all those rules went out of the window as long as I didn't wake anybody up when I stumbled in!

tango

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Hangs around wherever! No refuses to go to sleep up most of the night in his room. Internet switched off, no xbox cable removed at 10pm.refuses to co-operate with us way beyond normal teenager moodiness. He is a very difficult child. He is under the care of Social services and CAMHS for behaviour difficulties(long story and not pleasent). He is extremelly challanging and constantly threatens us when we refuse to give into his demands. Ie being out until whatever time he wants to come home!!

Is his x box off at 10pm ? If so IMO that's to late. I don't know all your situation I have four,three of those boys and it is very hard..

Don't give up ,be consistant and ask for support if you need it. Children need fair rules. Does he do any sport ? challenging some of that negative energy would be a good thing

And 8.30pm is reasonable, especially as his behaviour doesn't warrant any later


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patchwork_cat

TBH I wouldn't be letting him hang around in the village at all, in the evening. A friend's house or I suppose a kick about in the park, OK, but not every evening.