Reasonable time for 14 yr old DS to be home in the evening

rev229 · 22 May 2011 at 8:09PM

we ask our 14yr DS to be home by 8.30 pm each evening. he says it is too early. But him and his mates are just hanging around the village we live in. It is causing endless arguments and it of couse so unfair and every other kid is allowed out later!! Which is not true.

busiscoming2 · 22 May 2011 at 8:17PM

My ds2 is 14 and has to be home by 8.30pm on a school night. If he was at the skateboard park or playing football at the local centre and wanted to stay later then as long as he didn't have school next day and it was still light I would let him be a little later, probably 9pm.

rachbc · 22 May 2011 at 8:26PM

my 13 yo has to be back by 8.30 on school nights

coco1980 · 22 May 2011 at 8:29PM

my 11 yo has to be in by 8:30 on a school night, but he has to let us know where he is

MarzipanFish · 22 May 2011 at 8:30PM

Tell him that for every week he comes back on time every day without moaning he can stay an extra minute the next week?

It'd be 7 months at least before he could be out til 9

Or wouldn't he fall for that one?

Sequeena · 22 May 2011 at 8:30PM

I was allowed out until 9pm at that age. I think 8:30pm is reasonable.

Spendless · 22 May 2011 at 8:31PM

Which nights? School ones or weekends? Is he doing his homework? Does he go to bed willingly and get a good nights sleep, or does he think sleep is optional? It's light here till turned 9pm, so I think there is every chance his friends are out later, especially if it's not a school night. Is there anything for him to do where you live other than 'hang around'?

rev229 · 22 May 2011 at 8:51PM

Hangs around wherever! No refuses to go to sleep up most of the night in his room. Internet switched off, no xbox cable removed at 10pm.refuses to co-operate with us way beyond normal teenager moodiness. He is a very difficult child. He is under the care of Social services and CAMHS for behaviour difficulties(long story and not pleasent). He is extremelly challanging and constantly threatens us when we refuse to give into his demands. Ie being out until whatever time he wants to come home!!

seafarers_wife · 22 May 2011 at 9:02PM

personally i was the kid that had to be home when all my friends were staying out late, it bothered me occasionally but i think 8.30pm is reasonable with maybe 9 or 9.30 on a non school night, but i would condition it that he improves his behaviour at home and use it as a reward with consequences if he isnt home on time.