childcare from tax credits - is this right??

FBaby

the reason is because many young family wouldn't be able to survive if there were no help with childcare considering the incredulous costs nowadays. When my partner and I separated, I was working full-time. We were able to get some tax credits, but at a push, would probably have just about managed if we didn't received anything. When we separated though, there is no way on earth i could have afford the childcare costs with support from tax credits (almost £1000 a month!!!!!). Tax credits allowed me to continue to work full-time, to see my salary go up so that payments were tappered, to the point where I wasn't elligible to anything any longer. 6 years later, I am a high band tax payer. If tax credits didn't exist, i would have been a single parent on benefits and most likely would have struggle to get 2/3rd of my salary now if I'd been inactive for 5 years. I think it was a pretty good investment on return for the tax payers.

Spring_Time

I don't dispute how valuable it is to be able to access the benefits, I agree that its good there is some sort of monetary support system in place. I just do not agree with the "entitlement" attitude that some seem to have. The disgust of some people that the amount they get is nowhere near what they need/want. Surely, anything is better then nothing, no one forces anyone to have a child. For debates sake I could suggest that if you had waited to have your child until you were earning the amount you are now, where you did not need the extra support, that would be a much better "investment on return for the tax payers"

I am almost positive my posts will be taken wrong but I really am not against welfare payments that help support those trying to support themselves, I agree with them completely. I just get annoyed to read/hear of those that stamp their feet, snort and growl in disgust at the "pitiful" amount of money they are getting to help raise their child.

Kimitatsu

lkmc01 wrote: »

I did realise how important my career is to me before I had a child but didn't realise I could only have one or the other!!

As has been said you can have both but for every parent its a constant act of juggling because there is no such thing as a super man or woman who can really have it all without feeling guilty.

lkmc01 wrote: »

Well then I dont want him

To be honest if I am being blunt that sounds like you have a tantrum, stamping your feet and storming out because you cant get what you want. I find it really sad that your child means so little to you that you would up and leave without a second thought so that you can feel validated by your job. THere are many people on these boards who would sacrifice everything to have a child and will never be able to so perhaps you should count your blessings rather than see them as a pitfall.

Its not the people on this board that you need to be discussing it with its your husband and family. I realise that he works long hours, but he does so to support you and his child, and whilst you have been furthering your career educationally he has been working hard away from all of you. You owe him the respect of telling him how you feel in an adult way, calmly and evenly and trying to work out a comprimise. Patently if you are looking to sign the papers on a new property then he has no idea how you feel.......

Have you looked at other forms of support in your area, such as SureStart or do you have grandparents who could help you out. To me this highlights your lack of support emotionally rather than financially, and no amount of tax credits can help with that.

dreavi

I like this thread, though I think the OP may be a troll owing to the "I dont want my child" comments.

You had a child, your other half works crazy hours to support your studies and your child and you are wittering on about ditching them and flitting across the country to try and get a job as an environmental manager.

Its like the plot of a Tennesee Williams play

Kimitatsu

dreavi - it had crossed my mind several pages back! But.......just in case......however I will close the thread if it descends into flaming and slanging. Thankfully this board seems to be quite good at behaving itself