School says my 4 yr old kicked Year 6 pupil

jackieglasgow

pigpen wrote: »

My youngest son .... broke a girls nose (which she DID deserve)

My goodness Pigpen, did you read that before you pressed enter?

balletshoes

OP has said the older boy was sitting/lying on the grass in the playground when her son kicked him - so in that scenario its perfectly possible, isn't it?

meritaten

but OP was originally told it happened when they were in lines. now there is a different story - sorry, but I would want to find out exactly what happened. OP is not getting the truth here. I wouldnt punish my child unless I was CERTAIN about what happened and I also thought the school hadnt punished them. If I couldnt get to the truth then I would give my child the benefit of the doubt especially if it was out of character for them.

aloise

For god's sake Can't the schools deal with anything now. They are kids for goodness sake and kids fight all the time. It's bound to be six of one and half a dozen of the other. Such a drama.

soupdragon10

The school must surely have an accident/incident book where all such incidents are recorded and it does sound as though they haven't themselves got their facts straight having given now 2 different versions of the incident. Just to be sure in your own mind you could ask to see the actual log of the incident to satisfy yourself exactly what happened and if the two week grounding is fair.

*doodle*_2

pigpen wrote: »

.. My youngest son attacked teachers several times and even broke a girls nose (which she DID deserve)





staff like to see what they see and not what happens before hand.. and there is no interest in what went on before.. I

Dear God, you sound like a nightmare parent.

*doodle*_2

I personally think that two weeks is too long to punish a four year old child.

Your son has admitted to kicking someone and, even if he was provoked, he mustn't react in that way in school. Just leave things be but ensure that you work with school should he be in bother again (which I doubt very much).

It's not nice knowing that your children have been in bother at school but it happens.

Spendless

DON79 wrote: »

Now I am getting even more confused!! OH has taken son to school this morning as normal and I was expecting a phonecall later in the day to find out what happened. Instead, OH has been taken to see the Head about it.

Now they are saying again that he has hurt a year 6 child... apparently the child was lying in the grass talking with his friends. My son & his friend went up to talk to him and then both ran away behind a tree. Then my son has ran back and jumped and kicked him. Then he was refusing to go for a time out at school after he did it.

I am pretty upset as this is totally out of character for him and I have no idea why he would do it... I feel like someone has influenced him to do this in a way and that probably sounds like am making excuses but it is just not what my son behaves like.

Even when he is arguing with his brother, he doesn't do things like this. If it was my younger ds I could believe it easier as he is much more impulsive.

We have decided to "ground" him from seeing his friend for 2 weeks because we feel it is really serious to stop this early on and we will have to have another chat with him. I want to ask him if someone told him to do this but then I also don't want to lead him into saying that someone did so that he uses it as a get out clause i.e. he told me to do it....

feeling a bit down about the whole thing now

Out of interest. Do you know what they were talking about? At a younger age my son did something similar but at a pre-schools xmas party, and the Dad of the other child witnessed it and came to complain to me. Much, much later did I discover that DS had witnessed this child hurting another, so had decided to give him a taste of his own medicine in seeing what it felt like to be on the receiving end. I tell you this as it took me a long time to get DS to understand he was putting himself in the wrong, by doing this.

dirtysexymonkey

pigpen wrote: »

you misunderstand entirely and your post is completely idiotic.. did you just read the one line or could you manage to read the rest as well?.. Other than highlighting the physical aspect I didn't mention any of my children at all so where you come up with such rubbish is your own little mind.. My youngest son attacked teachers several times and even broke a girls nose (which she DID deserve) so where you get your imaginary ideas from is anyones guess.

Your child sounds vile no wonder giving your attitude. If I were you i would take a long hard look at myself. and read back your post in this thread because either you cant read or your a liar.

DON79

Hi all - just wanted to say, he has only been banned from going around to his friend's house - not grounded completely. Should have made that clearer sorry! We are off swimming today and booked yesterday to go to Drayton Manor next week.

I do think he needs to have some consequence because the school said he was not taking it seriously when they tried to make him have a time-out.

So all in all - he probably won't have a clue that he is meant to be "grounded" lol!