Over Protective Parent?

Violetta_2

Please don't think of me as scaremongering or jumping to conclusions, they bloke may just be a bit of an idiot who misses his kid's but, not sure I'd be comfortable with what has been going on.
There is a scheme in Scotland , not sure about the rest of the UK,its an Offender Community Disclosure Scheme where certain members of the public can request information regarding named individuals who have access to their children where they have some concern. Link with info here perhaps this is available elsewhere.

lazysheep

Just so you know the info for England in relation to the above post Hampshire were one of the Constabularies to trial this scheme and it was so successful that it is being rolled out to all Constabularies in England - thought it is being done in phases so it might not necessarily be in your area yet but your local force should have info.

ali-t

DVardysShadow wrote: »

The best methods of protecting children from peados never actually get to the bottom of whether anyone is a peado.

as above.

As a parent you need to protect your child and equip them with the skills to be wise enough to spot dangerous situations, inappropriate communication and keep them off facebook when they are not old enough to be on it.

OP, if you do want to check this person out then I would totally recommed your local police disclosure service that lets parents know if there is anything to worry about with regards to individuals.

In my area the police will give information to the person who can keep a child safe (i.e. parent or carer) even though this may not be the person who made the original enquiry. There is also a strict confidentiality process that means you can't share info they tell you with other poeple. You have to sign a disclaimer saying this.

helphelphelphelp

I have spoken to the child protection department at the local police department. They listened to my concerns and didnt dismiss them, which I thought they might do. They confirmed that there was nothing on record about this person having any improper contact with any other child, but of course after my call if anyone else calls in there will be a record of my call to substantiate any other claims.

In the meantime I have already 'defriended' this person and blocked him from my daughter's account and made sure that she is aware that she is not to talk to him or be around him. I have also spoken to the parents of the other children my daughter plays with and told them about his actions and voiced my concerns (although not told all of them my actions) so they can take appropriate actions themselves with their children.

The police have offered to speak to this person but I have asked at this time to just record what I have reported and should anything further occur or should he try and make any further contact with my daughter I will be back in contact with them.

Thanks to everyone for letting me know I wasnt over-reacting.

Savvy_Sue

SandC wrote: »

Under 13s are not supposed to be registered on Facebook anyway - there is a reason for this and some might say 13 is still young to deal with the kind of stuff that happens on there.

I have never understood why it's necessary for parents to allow their children to do things which they're not supposed to do.

mum2one

I'm glad you went to the police, its better to be safe than sorry, you've got to protect your children.

I would really consider stopping your child using facebook, yes you say its monitored through your emails, but facebook do say that children under 13 shouldn't use it, and to be fair, its for a reason.

caelshorn

It could be totally harmless. A lot of 30 year old "men" I know are just big kids. BUT. No-one with an ounce of sense would approach kids without befriending their parents first, whatever the motive. Definitely dodgy.

p_joker

I would never allow my kids so go on social networking sites, my niece is on facebook talking about sex and swearing and we have pointed it out to her dad who does little about it, its not good for kids they can stay in touch with their friends in other ways surely? I never had the internet when I was a kid. Take her off it and say this has left you feeling uncomfortable.

CH27

OP I think you have been sensible in your actions since you got suspicious but I do not understand why you allow your daughter to have Facebook at 10 yrs of age in the first place

kingfisherblue

My 11 year old has an occasional strop about not being able to use Facebook - but I am his mum, and I have a responsibility to ensure that he is not exposed to social networking sites before the recommended age. Adult contacts aside, it is too easy for cyber-bullying to take place.

I much prefer my son to see his friends or phone them.