Over Protective Parent?

the_cat

Worst case scenario if you are worrying over nothing - the guy gets asked a few uncomfortable questions by the police/social services. Case closed, job done

Worst case scenario if you do nothing and he turns out to be sinister..................... don't bear thinking about, whether it is your own child or another whose parents are a bit less on the ball

DVardysShadow

The best methods of protecting children from peados never actually get to the bottom of whether anyone is a peado.

melancholly

even if his intentions are innocent, it's very odd to contact your daughter offering her money to take down posters (?!) without going via you. i'd use that approach if you do contact him, rather than suggesting anything more sinister. that on it's own is inappropriate and as a parent himself, he should know better.
(does he not want the cat found? why on earth would he care enough about posters for someone else's cat to pay children to take them down?! it's properly odd!)

daska

melancholly wrote: »

even if his intentions are innocent, it's very odd to contact your daughter offering her money to take down posters (?!) without going via you. i'd use that approach if you do contact him, rather than suggesting anything more sinister. that on it's own is inappropriate and as a parent himself, he should know better.
(does he not want the cat found? why on earth would he care enough about posters for someone else's cat to pay children to take them down?! it's properly odd!)

whatever the 'job' it's because it's very easy then to get kids to come closer in. "oh, I think I must have left my wallet in the kitchen, come in while I find it" then the next time "how about a drink and a biscuit" etc...

puddy

at the very least this person's behaviour is not boundaried and does not take into account the messages that he may be giving children. children are not 'friends' with adults (certainly not a 10 year old and 30 year old), and whilst i know thats the terminology on facebook, the money and sweets will give that message to the child. his drinking may result in him being unable to review his own behaviour and exercise impulse control in a range of situations (not talking sexually necessarily)

at the worst, there is something intended and sinister about his behaviour

Emmzi

10 years old

come to the sweet shop?

any decent adult knows that is not proper behaviour.

Block and alert the police so they know to monitor him if anything comes up - best they have something on file just in case another parent is not watching as close as you are.

moomoomama27

Facebook has a rule that only children of 13 and above are allowed an account. I would deactivate her account immediatley, and perhaps set up msn for her to chat to her friends. Facebook can be a dangerous tool, so I would think the best advice would be t follow the guidelines, and get rid of the account.

curlytop12

the_cat wrote: »

Worst case scenario if you are worrying over nothing - the guy gets asked a few uncomfortable questions by the police/social services. Case closed, job done

Worst case scenario if you do nothing and he turns out to be sinister..................... don't bear thinking about, whether it is your own child or another whose parents are a bit less on the ball

excellant post in my opinion.

curlytop12

puddy wrote: »

at the very least this person's behaviour is not boundaried and does not take into account the messages that he may be giving children. children are not 'friends' with adults (certainly not a 10 year old and 30 year old), and whilst i know thats the terminology on facebook, the money and sweets will give that message to the child. his drinking may result in him being unable to review his own behaviour and exercise impulse control in a range of situations (not talking sexually necessarily)

at the worst, there is something intended and sinister about his behaviour

another very sensible reply,thankyou.hope the OP takes all this on board,what an awful position for them to be in.

ellay864

the_cat wrote: »

Worst case scenario if you are worrying over nothing - the guy gets asked a few uncomfortable questions by the police/social services. Case closed, job done

First I'd say that I agree with all the comments on here about taking action to block what I'd also consider inappropriate access with this man. But I would just say that with regard to 'case closed, job done' that's not strictly true. My friend's brother who was newly separated at the age of 28 found himself the victim of accusations from 3 children. He was interviewed by police and shortly afterwards the children confessed they'd said it for a dare...egged on by somebody who didn't like the man as he'd told them off for messing about and destrying his front garden. The guy was totally cleared of any possible 'charges' but word had spread and he then had to endure all kind of local gossip, even abuse from some people. Sadly mud sticks to innocent people too