face book threats

wornoutparents

have posted about my daughters split with her patner trying to sort out the morgage etc and have been given great advise.

She is back home and trying to sort out her life. She is seeeing old friends again male and female but her x has been in touch asked her to go around to sort things and then has said he has heard all sorts of things about her seeing people and has started to make threats about the people she is meeting up with:eek:

also have been told by close family he is making threats on face book not naming names but saying someones gonna get it:eek: and other have joined in saying gonna be a fight:eek: i feel he has always been all mouth but this is starting to worry me , what do i do confront him and tell him to back off , wait and see ? police ? really dont know what to do .

Tropez

If he's not naming who's going to "get it" then it makes the police's job a little more difficult but if he is repeatedly making threatening remarks on a public forum such as Facebook then it is worth contacting the police to bring this matter to their attention.

Under no circumstances should you interact with him in any way. A confrontation could easily lead to this issue blowing up.

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel

get your daughter to block him, and mutual friends. Set her privacy levels to the highest so he cant see what shes up to. He's trying to rule her from the sounds of it - dont let him!

wornoutparents

Tropez wrote: »

If he's not naming who's going to "get it" then it makes the police's job a little more difficult but if he is repeatedly making threatening remarks on a public forum such as Facebook then it is worth contacting the police to bring this matter to their attention.

Under no circumstances should you interact with him in any way. A confrontation could easily lead to this issue blowing up.

Thanks for your reply, i dont do face book have never wanted to but lots do ,i have a close family member telling me whats going on .
one question i would ask can like computer you do screen prints of things being written down ???

elliebobs

wornoutparents wrote: »

Thanks for your reply, i dont do face book have never wanted to but lots do ,i have a close family member telling me whats going on .
one question i would ask can like computer you do screen prints of things being written down ???

my bolding; yes you can. Just like any other document on a computer you can do a screen print and save it to a word document. If, and this is in the worst case scenario, the police do get involved they would certainly need this information so it makes sense to save all threats now before he deletes them.

wornoutparents

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel wrote: »

get your daughter to block him, and mutual friends. Set her privacy levels to the highest so he cant see what shes up to. He's trying to rule her from the sounds of it - dont let him!

thanks she has , agree he is trying to rule her . no no no way that will happen. family have been on his face book page to see whats what thats when they saw these threats just wish he would grow up its over:mad:

Tropez

wornoutparents wrote: »

Thanks for your reply, i dont do face book have never wanted to but lots do ,i have a close family member telling me whats going on .
one question i would ask can like computer you do screen prints of things being written down ???

As elliebobs said, yes you can.

You can either print directly from the page by going to File in the browser and then Print, or you can take what is called a screen dump by pressing the Print Screen button and pasting into something like Paint from where you can print and save it as a jpeg or bitmap document.

It might be worth doing both, or at the least ensure that you save any screen dumps that are taken so that they can be referred to again later and if necessary transferred to removable media like a CD/DVD or memory card/stick.

DUTR

wornoutparents wrote: »

have posted about my daughters split with her patner trying to sort out the morgage etc and have been given great advise.

She is back home and trying to sort out her life. She is seeeing old friends again male and female but her x has been in touch asked her to go around to sort things and then has said he has heard all sorts of things about her seeing people and has started to make threats about the people she is meeting up with:eek:

also have been told by close family he is making threats on face book not naming names but saying someones gonna get it:eek: and other have joined in saying gonna be a fight:eek: i feel he has always been all mouth but this is starting to worry me , what do i do confront him and tell him to back off , wait and see ? police ? really dont know what to do .

The best thing to do is for your daughter to stop posting every inch of her life on the internet, obviously the guy is insecure and the police won't really be able to do anything before it is all too late! So I doubt telling him to back off will achieve much to be honest, you only have to look at the weekend news, the next headline could be your daughter, I bet some of the victims didn't think it could happen to them....but it did

JoJoB

The police do take threats of this kind more seriously now, particularly in light of recent high profile cases where ex-boyfriends turned stalker and used violence - there are certain guidelines now in place that they will follow so I think it IS worth contacting them. It is always worth logging initial threats in case of things escalating. It is up to her as to whether she wants the police to go round and have a word, maybe initially she would be reticent to do this as she might be afraid of provoking him, but she could certainly ask their advice on how to handle the situation.

wornoutparents

Dutr , ihave not posted every inch of her life on the internet, we took great care to keep what i posted to the bare facts to get as much advice as poss. yes i am well aware of the news and headlines which is why i made this post.

JoJoB, thanks for your advice, we just want to armed with as much info as poss, we all hope that given a bit of time he will move on with his life. We will contact the police for advice if this continues.

Teddy_KGB

By the sounds of it this bloke is a complete idiot, but I do think your daughter could have handled things better!

They had a house together so they were obviously in a serious relationship, therefore when these things end one or both parties could be feeling some hurt. So if this bloke is hurt and upset, the last thing the ex wants to see is your daughter all over facebook having the time of her life. Also facebook can make something innocent seem something more espicially photos.

Like I say her ex seems a right ****head, but your daughter needs to be far more care what she puts onto facebook.