face book threats

wornoutparents

Teddy_KGB wrote: »

By the sounds of it this bloke is a complete idiot, but I do think your daughter could have handled things better!

They had a house together so they were obviously in a serious relationship, therefore when these things end one or both parties could be feeling some hurt. So if this bloke is hurt and upset, the last thing the ex wants to see is your daughter all over facebook having the time of her life. Also facebook can make something innocent seem something more espicially photos.

Like I say her ex seems a right ****head, but your daughter needs to be far more care what she puts onto facebook.

she has not put anything on face book and has not had an account for ages , grew out of it i think. It is ex who has been posting.This started as ex was told she was out with a guy in a pub garden ,she was but also with loads more people from work all work mates.

scooby088

I have always thought facebook is the cowards way to make threats, like others have said i would report to police just to put it on file that threats have been made.

DUTR

wornoutparents wrote: »

Dutr , ihave not posted every inch of her life on the internet, we took great care to keep what i posted to the bare facts to get as much advice as poss. yes i am well aware of the news and headlines which is why i made this post.

JoJoB, thanks for your advice, we just want to armed with as much info as poss, we all hope that given a bit of time he will move on with his life. We will contact the police for advice if this continues.

Not every inch, but I'm sure you get the idea, the world does not need to know via facebook, who your daughter is seeing etc, remember the guy is probably not thinking rationally, the less on the profile for him to read (ie prevent him being able to read the profile) the less to fuel his anger, not saying you should give in to that, but cases like the RM saga, I just cannot have more than 20% sympathy for the wounded girl

JoJoB

DUTR - the OP has already said that nothing was posted on fb by her or her daughter, she has just posted the barest facts on this forum to get some advice. It is the ex boyfriend that has been posting on fb, vile threats by the sound of it, meant to intimidate.

Do you blame rape victims for wearing their skirts too short and asking for it by any chance?

DUTR

JoJoB wrote: »

DUTR - the OP has already said that nothing was posted on fb by her or her daughter, she has just posted the barest facts on this forum to get some advice. It is the ex boyfriend that has been posting on fb, vile threats by the sound of it, meant to intimidate.

Do you blame rape victims for wearing their skirts too short and asking for it by any chance?

Sorry the way I 1st read it suggested they were both 'taunting' each other via FB.
And indeed rape victims were not asking for it, I would never suggest they were.

JoJoB

No? But you're doing exactly the same thing by making the victim in this case culpable for the extreme reactions of her ex. Whether or not she put details of her new life on the internet she doesn't deserve to be threatened with violence.

mum2one

i would contact the police, as he his making threats, and that is illegal as under the telecommunications act think it 1982, - do what the others have suggested, is print off the threats, save a copy and copy to cd, memory stick, and keep it just for the incidents.
Any further communication ie texts, any contact he makes then this all needs to be reported,
x

DUTR

JoJoB wrote: »

No? But you're doing exactly the same thing by making the victim in this case culpable for the extreme reactions of her ex. Whether or not she put details of her new life on the internet she doesn't deserve to be threatened with violence.

As said, I have misread what I thought the OP was saying, I was reading it as the OP's daughter was adding insult to injury and taunting the guy, whether it is normal behaviour to tolerate it or not, is simply not worth the risk of whether the guy's threats are real or not, a telling off from the police is going to do little, he only needs to splash acid in her face or whatever, she won't look pretty again, whether the ex goes to prison or not won't remove the physical scars, I bet RMs ex won't stand naked infront of anyone ever again :eek:

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel

In fairness to DUTR - I read it that OP's DD had posted things on her status about her ife, ex had seen (hence my suggestion to block)

I think the comment about DUTR suggesting rape victims deserved it was very below the belt

wornoutparents

Sorry if my first post was not very clear.
She is not putting anything on face book has not used it for ages.

Ex is putting up threats on face book, only found out when a trusted family member saw it , i have no face book account.
family member was worried and contacted us.

Both need to rebuild there lives, and her on a summer evening having drinks in a pub garden with people of both sexes from work is not flaunting it.

I have only ever had great help from this site and as her parents we are worried and thought we would ask for advice/ help from people in same situation and who have been through this. we want to be prepared for any situation that may happen, and yes we do read newspapers and watch the news which is one reason i posted on here. thank you we have had some good advice