Advise please, property for Son.

nearlyrich

poppysarah wrote: »

Stop cleaning his room. Don't clear up after him. Put him on the washing up and cooking rota.

I stopped cleaning up after my two when they were secondary school age, they also joined the cooking rota ( one meal each at first) at the same time, I showed them simple dishes and looked forward to one or two nights off coooking each week.

He needs to buck up his ideas if he's to stay so point this out to him.

Do not iron his shirts either!

I didn't iron for anyone they learned at ATC how to iron shirts better than I can.
Tough love is needed.

Might be a bit late but worth a try

Just think how sick you'll feel if he was in a house you bought slowly turning it into a tip!

Would you evict him for not paying the rent?

Agree with the idea of closing the door and letting him live in his tip as long as it doesn't affect the rest of the house ( smells and lack of cups spring to mind)

Sues48

I absolutely don't clean his room, he's had the same sheets on his bed now for at least 3 months,(yuck), I only do his washing if he puts it in the wash basket, I don't iron any of his clothes other than the odd work shirt, however, it gets a bit much when there isn't a clean spoon to be found in the drawer.

Wickedkitten

HAMISH_MCTAVISH wrote: »

Better to look at a joint mortgage, dependents mortgage, or one of the parental "lend a hand" schemes where your son can get a 95% mortgage if you deposit the balance as savings with the bank as a guarantee. (although the rates aren't the best)

Good god no, if he's that irresponsible, the last thing that they should do is put their house and retirement on the line.

BitterAndTwisted

I'm sorry to have to say this but you need to get that young man trained properly and soon. For the sake of your future daughter-in-law. If you don't no sensible woman will be willing to take him off your hands and you'll be saddled with him and his filthy sheets.

Are you planning a bonfire when he finally changes his bed-linen? The mucky pup!.

Brallaqueen

I agree with B&T. If he is treating you and your home this poorly for the hilariously low sum of £50 per week, then you have a spoilt little sod on your hands. I would not be giving him a home, paid for by you, for him to do the same.

geoffky

Does he smoke weed? This sounds like someone who smokes weed and i think the lack of get up and go attitude comes from smoking the crap... it is the most antisocial drug going.