Bass heavy neighbour

RuthnJasper

BottomRung wrote: »

Hehe I do apologise if I come across as a snob, it's not how I intend to sound but I guess I just grew up in a different place to some of my new neighbours. I have nothing against them apart from the noise and truly don't believe myself to be any better than any of them. If I did I wouldn't have bought a flat in a HA block. I really would like to get along with the neighbours as they are polite and the little girl is very sweet. Guess i'll have to learn to be a bit more tolerant of people in future.

BR, I don't think you have anything to apologise for. You sound like a very nice person and are probably a very nice neighbour to have. It is difficult to know how to handle these situations if you've not faced them before, but it sounds like you are going to be doing exactly the right sort of thing with your journal.

I wonder which HA it is? I'm with A2Dominion and they're always tooting about how good they are on anti-social behaviour issues... Thankfully something I've not had to test personally, although a couple of neighbours did (I think) about our guitar-playing friend (though that was more to do with the fact that he would go and shout at little children in the street, telling them to f*** off, etc. REALLY delightful gent and SUCH a loss to our little community...;))

I feel sorry for the little girl in your case though. Poor little mite.

Good luck. Keep smiling!

x

mbga9pgf

You could post dog sh*t through there letter box each time they do it, or key their car. They will start to tow the line once the message gets through.

If any of the neighbours spot you, do you think they would shop you? I dont. Old people dont like confrontation personally, not in them and they are generally fearful. It takes someone younger with the nuts to stand up to these bullies to do something about it. I wonder if anyone has previously called the police? I bet they havent.

Dont worry about the brat. Statistics show that by age 13, she probably will be pregnant, smoking and a dropout anyway. Tis the way of life I am afraid. Nature doesnt have much chance against nurture in these cases.

BottomRung

Thanks for that Ruthnjasper, the HA is Paragon but as we've just moved in in last couple of months i've had little to do with them. The lady downstairs (his direct neighbour and get the majority of the noise) mentioned there was a petition going round last year to get the HA to do something but it seems nothing was done despite 20 people signing.

As for the dog poo or keying the car (which they don't have), I really wouldn't be comfortable with this approach as it would feel like i'm the neighbour from hell then. All I want is for them to be a bit more considerate of their neighbours and we'll all get along fine. If they don't want to do this then i'll have no choice but to approach the relevant people.

zara*elise

BottomRung wrote: »

All I want is for them to be a bit more considerate of their neighbours and we'll all get along fine. If they don't want to do this then i'll have no choice but to approach the relevant people.

Being considerate seems to be waaaaay too much to ask of some people! How have they been since? Are they making any effort to quieten down?

BottomRung

Well since then he is keeping it to more reasonable hours which is a good sign, although he has started tinkering with some mini motorbikes out the back and rides them round his bit of garden. I could be blowing all this out of proportion and maybe it's a rare occurance, but my gut and other neighbours tell me different.

All I can do for now is monitor the situation and have earplugs on standby.

RuthnJasper

BottomRung wrote: »

Well since then he is keeping it to more reasonable hours which is a good sign, although he has started tinkering with some mini motorbikes out the back and rides them round his bit of garden. I could be blowing all this out of proportion and maybe it's a rare occurance, but my gut and other neighbours tell me different.

All I can do for now is monitor the situation and have earplugs on standby.

Hello BottomRung,

I'm glad to hear that the 'music-lover' is endeavouring to be more reasonable with the music - encouraging news, as so many don't even make THAT effort. I think, for me, the motorbike efforts might be more tolerable than 3am jungle music or whatever!

Unless one has experienced the misery of repeated thumping music at unsociable hours, it's sometimes hard to appreciate exactly how distressing an issue it can become over time.

This is a VERY extreme example - but when I was staying with my brother, who was doing his post-graduate degree at Birmingham Uni, for a night en route to an audition further Up North he walked me to the station in the morning. As we went past a small road, a few streets away from where he lived, I noticed some bits of blue and white Police tape fluttering from a tree and asked him what had happened. Apparently, a chap had been so wound-up by his neighbour constantly having the TV on at top volume at every hour that, having had enough of knocking on the door and asking for the television to be turned down, he just went round to his neighbours' house and shot him.


As I said, an extreme example - but endless loud noise, coupled with sleep deprivation, can have very severe effects; that's why it's dealt with by the Environmental Health people.

Whilst I wouldn't hesitate to go to the relevant authorities if I needed to, after all other avenues had failed, sometimes a simple smile, a cheerful greeting or polite enquiry about the mini-bikes/other hobby/family when passing, and a good-natured card at Christmas can accomplish a lot more than threats/warnings/reports to authorities could ever do. After all - there ARE witless people out there who sometimes genuinely don't realise how intrusive and upsetting their behaviour can be.

I'm hoping the poster who suggested putting doggie-dirt through the door was joking (especially as there's a child in the house!) - that's a pretty evil thing to do! There's only ONE place in which Jasper-dog's new-laid dog-eggs are posted - and that's the delightful red bin around the corner (although I won't deny that, with my former bass-guitar-strumming neighbour, the idea of wrapping one of Jasper's "gifts to nature" in a newspaper, setting the newspaper alight and then posting it through his door (the idea being that he stamps-out the small flames, thus liberally spattering himself with... ahem... anyway...) didn't occasionally flit through my mind, hehehe....).

Hope you (and everyone else) have a really lovely bank holiday weekend. xx

P.S. Remaining with the musical theme - did you know that, at any time the temptation to sing 'The Lion Sleeps Tonight' is never more than a whim away...? x

mbga9pgf

I'm hoping the poster who suggested putting doggie-dirt through the door was joking (especially as there's a child in the house!) - that's a pretty evil thing to do!

Its no worse than acting without any consideration of one's neighbours. I would ask a couple of times of course. But I generally have found in these situations that the police refuse to act until someone elses problem becomes THEIR problem.

The only way to deal with bullies is to get the community on side and make it blatantly clear, as a whole, that they simply will not tolerate unkempt chavlike odious behaviour. Would I key someones car for depriving me of sleep? I have done worse for far less. I would start by asking them to act civilly a couple of times. If that doesnt work, I would find out where they worked, then inform their boss of the community issues with their employee. After that, I would involve the police. On the basis they will do very little, I would probably then attempt court action against the individual.

jenie_2

I have complete sympathy with the OP, it happened to us and it nearly drove me insane. We had 2 neighbours who seemed to think everyone wanted to listen to their music, so if it wasn't one of them it was the other. Add to that another 2 neighbours with German Shepherd dogs left in their back yards barking all day, it would drive anyone crazy.
In the end we moved out, everyone is entitled to peace and quiet in their own home, and in our case the authorities weren't very helpful.

googler

OP, rather than you or another neighbour knocking on the music-lover's door alone, get ALL the neighbours together (you said there was a petition around 20 or so folk?), and knock on their door as a group.

Strength in numbers.

Once the miscreant sees the accumulated depth of feeling against him/her, they may well back down.....

dodger1

mbga9pgf wrote: »

Its no worse than acting without any consideration of one's neighbours. I would ask a couple of times of course. But I generally have found in these situations that the police refuse to act until someone elses problem becomes THEIR problem.

Now that is so true.