Brother and SIL splitting up-advice needed! (long)

penguin7

The fact that your SIL is no longer in love with your brother has nothing to do with you. These things happen all the time. Why should she spend her one life being unhappy, it does not make her a bad person! If you want to help them then support them both.Your SIL is still the same person you have been fond of for the past 20 years..

MrsBryan_2

I understand everyone's point about the falling out of love with him, I understand that happens to relationships......my brother even understands that can happen......it's just the whole going out with her workmates (the majority of who are 20-25 and single) and snogging men on the dancefloor of clubs that has really upset me and has made things worse for my brother.

I didn't mention before, but the other man she told my bro she snogged was on my hen weekend in February. She was sharing a room with her friend (who I invited so SIL felt more comfortable than sharing with my friends), and they invited some men back to their room and she told my brother she snogged one of them. I went back to my room early that night (too many tequila's!) so wasn't aware of this until last week when my brother told me she'd confessed this to him!! He asked me if I knew about it! Which made me feel sick. I've since found out that her friend had sex with one of the men that night, so who know's what my SIL did or didn't do. This is what is making me so annoyed about the whole situation.
If you've fallen out of love with someone then fair enough, talk things over, split up, end it. But don't take the p**s out of your loyal husband who is waiting at home for you.
Another time, she left her facebook open and she was talking to one of her work friends about getting a room in a Travelodge when they go out next so they can get 'laid'.

I am not starting a war with her, she's been texting me this week and I haven't replyed, I'm not getting into any sort of slanging match with her at all. All I care about are my brother and the kids. When I wrote my first post in the other thread, I was hurt, angry, had just found out all of the above and more, and had my big strong brother crying on my shoulder over what she'd done.

Now I'm just being there for him and the children, as are our whole family.

Pollycat, we're getting married in Greece so my bro SIL and the kids have already booked to come out there. My SIL was my Maid of Honour, my niece is a bridesmaid. I'm hoping she will be amicable enough to agree to my brother bringing them out. He seems to think she'll be fine, the kids are looking forward to it so much, she wouldn't do that to them. But he obviously has to get her say so, before he takes them out of the country. One good thing, all this drama has taken all the stress away from our wedding!