Memorygirls - The Matrix Re-inspired

robsmum_2

TMIF: I can't advise you on how you bring it up because from my experience every time I tried, which ever way " I don't feel we're very close"etc he seemed to get defensive and it pushed him further away. I came to the conclusion it was a male mid life crisis.:mad: Try to follow Cheery's advice and try to spend more quality time together but if you manage more time don't use it to talk about how you feel.

One thing I did realize after was that we were both guilty of taking each other for granted.

greenbee

tellmeitsfriday wrote: »

I wonder if you're right Robsmum.... (Glad you're sorted!) How you bring that up in general conversation though....

Oh I don't want to be a grown up anymore! xx

New undies... low lighting... offer he can't refuse

... or a change of scenery... book yourselves a romantic break. It doesn't have to be expensive. OH and I went walking in Wales last October, stayed in a lovely B&B and just had time with each other.

ETA - OH had the same problem with his ex and relate (still does...). She's fine, he's the one with the problem, when he's fixed it'll all be fine again...

tellmeitsfriday

greenbee wrote: »

... or a change of scenery... book yourselves a romantic break. It doesn't have to be expensive. OH and I went walking in Wales last October, stayed in a lovely B&B and just had time with each other..

Tried that! (Bless 'em!) infact, that is why I think i am so hurt about it all today.. back from Brighton yesterday, after a lovely weekend... not a glimmer...

Now, I'm a touch embarrased, so I am going to hide in the corner

robsmum_2

TMIF: I sympathize because been there done /tried that one and it didn't work either.
Be proud that you were brave enough to bring it up - I wish I'd had here when we went through it - I bet it's much more common than we think.

Triciaxx

I know what Cheery Daffs means but it can also be the opposite - too much routine. We 'routinely' do a crossword together after lunch since we retired and a few weeks ago I just didn't want to do it any more but it sounded so petty that I just carried on instead of saying anything. By the time I'd got to the point of wanting to scream when DH produced the paper, I was annoyed at even the way he flourished it. :mad:

So stupid!

He eventually picked up on my mood (did take a few weeks) and asked if I was fed up with the crossword. It turned out that he thought I would be upset if we didn't do it every day. :rotfl::rotfl:

Now we don't always do it or one of us does it separately and everything is OK again. :cool:

Crafty : The arthritis is a real nuisance and, although keeping moving is important, I've had to cut down on lots of things.

Memory_Girl

Hello Ladies

My Dragon is getting tamer - I have managed to rattle out the two articles for a friends blog. It did help that these had already been written out longhand though.

No advice on the man stuff though - although hands up to being someone else who misses the intimacy. Sometimes I feel like the "Jerry Maguire" quote " gave up looking for a man because I spend all my time raising a man"

Off to email my articles then start on the next set.

MG

natsplatnat

Men stuff - Been there too. Did weekends (and weeks away) together and to be honest, I was in such a grump (so sensitive to every little thing he did / didn't do) by the time we went, those days were pretty much pointless. Our saving grace? Me going to America last year for 10 days to visit my best friend; the longest time OH and I had spent apart in almost 7 years. Sometimes it is the amount of time you DO spend together that can be the problem. After my holiday, we both appreciated each other more - almost like those 10 days were a taster of what we would be missing if we weren't together (and by the end of the 10 days I just wanted to get home to be with him!!)

Memory_Girl

So have we heard about babies and presentations yet???

MG

SunFlower

14.39....soooooo much work left to do, so little time, and still a portfolio to create. :eek:

Tell me to get on with it, ladies!

Triciaxx

SunFlower wrote: »

14.39....soooooo much work left to do, so little time, and still a portfolio to create. :eek:

Tell me to get on with it, ladies!

In the nicest possible way - Get on with it! :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

You can do it!:T:T