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crickett1234

tellmeitsfriday wrote: »

Do you think they understand that level of subtlety? I am afraid not...

I think they'd miss the point, even if you hired a plane to skywrite it.

I am afraid that when it comes to matters of the heart (and emotions, and such like) they are dumb, blind and stupid. They need it explained to them, very slowly, quite loudly, and in words of no more than 1 syllable.

:rotfl: Can I use a rolling pin too? For added emphasis at the important points? :rotfl:

tellmeitsfriday

crickett1234 wrote: »

:rotfl: Can I use a rolling pin too? For added emphasis at the important points? :rotfl:

Of course - any tools that you need to help you get your message across are totally acceptable.

Don't leave any bruises and no one can prove it*




* that is not a legal fact, and no responsibility can be taken for any consequences of following the above opinion

robsmum_2

:rotfl:

crickett1234 wrote: »

:rotfl: Can I use a rolling pin too? For added emphasis at the important points? :rotfl:

Crickett: I do feel for you and am sending you hugs. My ex- very husband was a very laid back kind of person (hippy - still is). Nothing would get a response from him:mad:
I tried everything! Towards the end of our marriage I'd tried to get himto go to Relate - he didn't think there was a problem and wouldn't go.
I childishly tried everything I could think of to get a response from him, any response and one night totally lost it and just threw his dinner at him:eek: The response I got? Do you feel better for that?:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:
We divorced not long after and often laugh about that now.

thriftyscotslass

Treats - a bottle of red wine, a tub of Ben & Jerry's Cookie Dough ice-cream, cheesecake ... now I know why I have gained so much weight over the past two years. I am definitely not someone who has lost the lbs while reducing the £s - bit of the opposite I think, I spy comfort eating here .

Hugs to Crickett.

crickett1234

thriftyscotslass wrote: »

Treats - a bottle of red wine, a tub of Ben & Jerry's Cookie Dough ice-cream, cheesecake ... now I know why I have gained so much weight over the past two years. I am definitely not someone who has lost the lbs while reducing the £s - bit of the opposite I think, I spy comfort eating here .

Hugs to Crickett.

Thanks for the hugs Thrifty. And everyone else too. You are all lovely. *sniffle*

Can I just leap onto one of my many soapboxes? I have found, in my vast experience of emotional eating (I have been doing it for 32 years now - hence my size) that it rarely has anything to do with being comforted. I have started to call it punishment eating. I think that is closer to what it actually is. /off soap box.

Lara44

:rotfl: about the man chat that's been going on here!! My ideal qualities in a man? Top of the list is kindness. So much in life can be worked through, endured, celebrated or enjoyed as long as both people in a relationship are being kind to each other. Makes me sound like a slushy old romantic!

All relationships are going to be difficult and bad at times. Is it very negative to think that's a part of life? OH has recently recovered from depression, or as he describes it 'being in a bad mood for a year'. I definitely wanted to bury him under the patio (more than) a few times, but it makes the good times special somehow.

Hugs to everyone, thinking of you Firewalker.

Kittikins

Firewalker - positive vibes and reiki flowing towards you, hope all is going well at the hospital x

Crickett - hugs and olive oil to pour into the cloth ears of your OH so that he listens to you and you can work through your situation x and I'm with you on the punishment eating, I know mine is, but of course I have beggar all to punish myself for in reality, just find it hard to accept that at times....*sigh*

EssexHebridean

Morning all - positive vibes going to FW - healthy it is, but I refuse point BLANK to send ANY sort of vibes for anyone wanting to be a stick insect. You're a woman - curves are meant to be there!

Hugs also to those having problems with OH's at the moment. We've been through a few rough patches but one thing I have learnt is that if they don;t know you're unhappy, they can't either work on changing things, or prove that they don't give a damn. Men definitely do not get subtle so be as blunt (without being cruel) as you can, and spell things out in words of one syllable, followed by the phrase "So, what are we going to do about the situation before it gets to the point where things can't be fixed?" (a) underlines that there is, in your opinion, a problem, b) indicates that you appreciate that both of you need to work on sorting things out together and c) makes it quite clear that the result of doing nothing will not be good. Good luck.

Claire good going there girl and don't YOU sound the positive bunny this morning?

Ooh - treats - for me they fall into categories:
Cheap/free: Posh ice cream, a long, pampering soak in the bath, going to my favourite RSPB reserve for a walk and a sit in the hides with binoculars, tea and cake!
Less Cheap, but still doable occasionally: An indian takeaway (our "high days and holidays" treaty thing!), camping weekends away in the summer, new clothes
Ultimate: Would, at the moment, be having our bathroom replaced. I'm working on that one.....!

Right, so far this morning I've done a 15 minute kitchen blitz involving washing up, sorting washing out, and loading the dishwasher, and a 15 minute bedroom blitz involving tidying clothes and shoes away. Another one needed in there shortly though. Have also showered, epilated my legs and washed and straightened my hair. Just going to have a quick catch up on the boards with a cuppa, then will do a 15 minute blitz on getting Avon orders input - we have a new e-sales suite online so this might take some working out! :eek:

jenid

Firewalker I hope it went well at the hospital and the news was good. Positive vibes flowing your way.

I can understand the comfort/punishment eating ideas. I am currently trying to read Paul Mckenna's "I can make you thin" and, although I haven't read it all properly due to interuptions from BBB, he touches on this quite a bit and it really struck a chord with me. Eating to block out pain/boredom/anxiety.

I also realised that I have barely enjoyed a mouthful of my food in the past couple of years, I've just been shovelling it in and barely tasting it, which was a bit of a shock. I've always enjoyed food, loved cooking, and entertaining so this seems such a shame that I've lost all the joy in it due to rushing it down and feeling guilt about anything I eat.

In the past couple of days I've just slowed down the whole process, and really chewed my food, and thought about the flavours. I've already ended up eating about half of what I normally do and have noticed I am enjoying the food much more.

Also I haven't read the secret yet, but from what I gather from you all, it's best for me not to dwell on how many llbs I want to lose as the universe might just keep giving me more as I'm focusing on them? Instead I am going to visualise myself as slim, and ask the universe for health and happiness in abundance. Any other tips on how I can ask the universe to help me slim down?

OK, so now I have to finish reading 'I Can Make You Thin' and 'The Secret'. My reading list gets longer by the day!

Cheery_Daff

I'm with you on the 'punishment eating' Definitely do a lot of it - and it definitely does NOT bring comfort for more than a few seconds, and invariably makes things worse!

Not sure how to put this, and it will probably come out all wrong, but in the interests of open and honest communication I'm going to have a go anyway

I'm quite aware of language at the minute, as I'm trying to modify mine to be more positive, as some people have shared on here. It's blithering difficult I tell you! (oops, there I go again :rotfl:)

Anyway, what I wanted to say is more about the way men are being talked about on here (ooh, this is a difficult one to write, please bear with me! )

I'm a bit uncomfortable with the way women (and I've been guilty of this myself too) talk about our husbands/partners, and I've noticed a bit of it creeping in here too. This isn't about talking through genuine problems or troubles with a group of friends - which I count us as, and which is absolutely necessary for any healthy functioning relationship. It's more about sweeping generalisations, putting people down in front of other people, bringing up their short comings in public for amusement value etc. There's quite a bit of generalising about men in general too (they never listen etc), which again, I'm sure I've been guilty of, but I really very much wouldn't appreciate it if women were talked about like that!

I suppose I'm very aware of it, because mr daffs has pulled me up on it a couple of times in the past, making fun of something he's done as an 'amusing story' in front of other people, when he actually finds it belittling, demeaning, and disrespectful. He would never do it to me, and now I have realised how much it affects him, I will never again do it to him.

And now I've stopped, I've become really aware of how much other people do it.

Anyway, I don't really know what I'm trying to say here! I absolutely do NOT want people to feel they can't talk about their relationships - absolutely not, their needs to be honest and open communication within and about relationships I think in order for them to work.

I suppose I just wanted to draw attention to the things some of us are saying about our partners, and about men in general, in the spirit of thinking about the universe giving us what we're focusing on... (and no, that is NOT to say that we're in any way responsible for our partners' behaviour, absolutely not, but it's more about talking about people in a respectful way you'd want to be talked about yourself)

Have I rambled enough to offend everyone yet??? :eek: Do hope not, that's absolutely not my intention at all!

Going to shut my eyes and press submit and hope this is just a little something for us all to ponder.

Have a beautiful day lovely ladies xxxx