Moving in with unemployed partner help on benefits

bonehead903028402

I thought that if we lived together we could both still be financially indepent, e.g his half of the rent would be covered by whatever benefits he was entitled to and i would be responsible for the other half.

If 2 friends decided to rent a 2 bedroom house together one wouldn't have to lose benefits because they lived would a friend i don't think(not sure) so just thought it would be the same as we arent married of have children

sunnyone

bonehead903028402 wrote: »

I thought that if we lived together we could both still be financially indepent, e.g his half of the rent would be covered by whatever benefits he was entitled to and i would be responsible for the other half.

If 2 friends decided to rent a 2 bedroom house together one wouldn't have to lose benefits because they lived would a friend i don't think(not sure) so just thought it would be the same as we arent married of have children

Benefits dont work that way, you live together as man and wife you are linked together in the same way so that you are expected to keep each other, friends arnt in a couple but you are.

bonehead903028402

But we aren't man and wife.

HappyMJ

bonehead903028402 wrote: »

But we aren't man and wife.

So if you aren't going to be living as "man and wife" then he's going to be sleeping in one room and you are going to be sleeping in the other. You are going to do your own shopping and cook only for yourself most of the time. Wash an iron only your own clothes. You never go out to dinner together or the pub or anywhere else for that matter. Are you seen by your own friends and family as a couple? You could easily be caught out if you let slip to someone that you claim seperately and that someone wants to call the benefits fraud helpline.

bonehead903028402

I'm not moving in with him so it's not really an issue. Was just replying to another post.

AnxiousMum

I wonder if your boyfriend would feel the same way when he's working and earning £1000 per week - yet, you are only on £450 per month - would he live a lifestyle in accordance with his income and leave you out of it, or would he include you in it? that is what couples do - they share more than just the bed everynight, they support each other through good times and bad. If you're not ready for that commitment, then you've made the right decision in not moving in with him.
On the other hand, if he were working now, and earning good money, and you were still on your income - would you feel that it was wrong for him to support you? When you move in with somebody - you need to look at it as a marriage without the celebration and legal documentation - or.....did you just want to play house?

enabledebra

AnxiousMum wrote: »

I wonder if your boyfriend would feel the same way when he's working and earning £1000 per week - yet, you are only on £450 per month - would he live a lifestyle in accordance with his income and leave you out of it, or would he include you in it? that is what couples do - they share more than just the bed everynight, they support each other through good times and bad. If you're not ready for that commitment, then you've made the right decision in not moving in with him.
On the other hand, if he were working now, and earning good money, and you were still on your income - would you feel that it was wrong for him to support you? When you move in with somebody - you need to look at it as a marriage without the celebration and legal documentation - or.....did you just want to play house?

I agree. If you are going to let the welfare benefit system decide the route of your life that is tragic, you might as well put an earnings threshold on your list of qualities in a partner. I know the numbers don't add up and 2 single prople seem to be better off than couples in the system but thats because when you are a couple you share bills and rent and shopping etc- the costs don't double.

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

bonehead903028402 wrote: »

I'm not moving in with him so it's not really an issue. Was just replying to another post.

You don't have to officially live with someone to be classed as living together as man & wife.

If you regularly stay over at his place, eat together, go out together etc you could already be breaking the law.