wedding plus 1!

LEJC

you can almost imagine it being a bit like a train announcement...."the car outside the abbey is the 1051 from the goring hotel"

sammy_wheeler

yeh you defo can!

laurarobby

We have about 10 invites going out without plus 1s.... cousins and friends mainly. they are either single, on and off or ive never met the OH! i dont see why i should be spending £20 a head on people i dont know!

mrbrightside842

We had plus 1's. I didn't actually write plus one on the invite, but we had people there who were plus one's. It was no biggie, I'd rather have paid for the plus one than to have someone who I really wanted to be there to either not come, or for them to spend the day on their own. Family were automatically invoted, despite whether we saw them or not. We could have said 'it's our day; our way' and got away with it for the day, but it wouldn't have been worth a lifetime of bad feeling.

walby1993

OMG feel so glad that I am not the only one that feels this way - other people have been making me feel a total b*tch about this! But the thing is we are completely up to our limit for everything as we both have big families and people who we didn't think would come (people living far away or abroad) have all said yes!

A friend, who is bridesmaid and was engaged when we began organising but split up with him at xmas, text me about 4-6weeks ago (so 7-10 weeks before the wedding) asking if she could have a plus one. I said no as we haven't got the room and that was that. About 10 days later she text me again going "Are you sure I can't have a plus one because I would have thought you would have accounted for XXX and me". My reply was "No you can't as we haven't got the room. And not being funny but we haven't been able to invite people we want to our wedding so why would I want a stranger there". Needless to say I didn't hear from her for a couple of weeks!

Also, sent out a message on Facebook to all single friends & family plus those who have been with partners a year or less who we have never met, saying that unless partners were specifically named on the invite they are not invited. A while after got a message from a family friend (the mum of the family) saying "Oh by the way, the RSVP is for 8 of us as oldest daughters boyfriend now lives with us". Errr, no its not!!! She is 19, only been with him about a year and we have never met him!!!

TC1978

I was going to write down how we'd sorted ours out, but as I got writing it down, it appeared that there was no real logic (although it makes sense to US!). SOME cousins on OH's side have been invited- big family, doesn't see many! I only have 3, one has +1, the other is too career minded to even consider a +1 so haven't bothered, the other is married with child (who is invited too)!

Some of OH's cousins have been invited to day (one's we see AND live at home still), one's we don't see much of get evening only inc. +1 if we know of partner!

Really is a complicated task, working out just where to stop.

I've invited ALL my colleagues and partners to church and evening do- about 70 if they all come (but won't!). Doesn't make much difference to night do as we're having a hog roast (butcher just has to find a bigger piggy!). Just have to make sure we don't exceed 170!

Noctu

My OH's brother has kicked off coz he's not been given a plus one. He wanted to bring his psycho EX girlfriend (who he has a child with). He split up from her in AUGUST.

Not only do we not want her there due to her being an absolute !!!!! - we're talking physical violence and emotional abuse towards BIL2B by his own admission - as well as being horrible to us.... but also, we can't very well give him a plus one and not give any of my single family or friends a plus one either.

His mum is also kicking off coz we're not inviting this woman, and has suggested that she "may not be able to make it to the wedding if OH and his brother fall out over it" as she has 'social anxiety' issues which would therefore 'prevent' her from attending (which doesn't stop her from going out with her friends every week and going to events though of course...)

What is wrong with some people!!!!!!!!!!!! Rant over, sorry you got me on a sore point!!!! lol

Magicboo

clearing_out_my_pockets wrote: »

Might be worth pointing out to MIL2B that if SIL is a bridesmaid, her new boyfriend (imaginary though he may be) would be sitting by himself with people he doesn't know as SIL would be sitting on the top table. Has she no consideration for the man's imaginary feelings???

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:
Made me laugh out loud!!

anmarj

we did not invite plus ones either (other than spouses), one cousin son got left out of the wedding as we did not really like him, and only reluctenly invited him to the evening do, he made it clear he was not happy to OH on the night - OH seemed to think he was on drugs that night:eek: and a few family members did comment that he seem spaced out. one of the other cousins kids had a boyfriend but we took the decision to invite him to the evening do without any prompting from family.

coolcait

sammy_wheeler wrote: »

have you seen the timings for the wedding?-
1015 BST - The groom and Prince Harry arrive at Westminster Abbey
1051 BST - The bride, and her father, leave the Goring Hotel for Westminster Abbey
1100 BST - The marriage service begins
1230 BST - The bride's carriage procession arrives at Buckingham Palace


i love that kate has to arrive at 10.51- what a strange time!

I have no idea why I'm picking up on this point, rather than any of the other difficult family issues which this thread has thrown up. I must be mellowing in my old age... :rotfl:

Kate doesn't have to arrive at 10.51, she has to depart at that time.

Presumably, the powers-that-organise have counted back from the 11.00 start, allowed for a Diana-style attempt to shake the creases out of the dress on arrival, done a test run on timings from hotel to Abbey, and come to the conclusion that the car needs to depart from the hotel at 10.51 in order for the service to start on time.

So Kate has to be ready, downstairs, and safely stowed in the car by departure hour of 10.51.

No pressure then :eek:. Even with all the help she's likely to be getting.