My home is a mess

mcculloch29

Ah, I've found another spiritual home here... I am a mum and Nan of 2 who isn't as bothered by mess as I should be...

My Mum was Estonian, they have cleanliness and tidiness as a second religion. I took after my untidier, more relaxed Latvian Dad.

My adult daughter took after her Nan, perhaps just as well. My adult son is hybrid. My daughter is brilliant at tidying up in a trice for me.

I work from home as an e-tutor which is brilliant - no messy paperwork AT ALL! Unlike my job as a community tutor in English and Maths which generated reams and reams. I am gradually disposing of six years of this.

I am disabled, (mostly arthritis) but this has only become serious in the last 5 years. I have a cleaner who cleans the kitchen and bathroom every Monday. I also have a steam generator iron that I got free to review from Amazon, best thing since sliced bread.

One of my problems is that my son has refused to store clothing in his minimalist room and it is in shelving and storage in my lounge. He buys clothing constantly on Ebay and I've begged him to sort it out. The thing is, if I disposed of ten items a day it would probably take him a month to notice...
He also has all his gym equipment in my dining room. He's had some problems over the years so I don't mind him using this to keep physically and mentally fit. but it is a cowing nuisance when he leaves it scattered over the place rather than tidily stored.

The No Buying Toiletries thread has sorted one problem for me, anyway, most excellent bunch that they are.

I do like buying scarves, shopping bags and coffee / tea mugs. My cleaner chips mugs on a weekly basis, so I can justify that one. Though my nicest ones have been nearly all got at, so I tend not to leave her mugs to do.

For my own clothing, I got ruthless and CS'ed much, but I do like the X Catalogue shop for bargains. Great for trousers and long tops.
Well, looks like I've found another addictive thread with this one, so I'll go and read some more older posts.......

Emm-in-a-pickle

Mcculloch, thanks for your post - the Adult Son bit, I have exactly the same problem here, since he and his partner split several years ago. His clothes are in a shelving system on the landing, while everyone else has their own kit in their own rooms. GRRRR! NOT worth the emotional upheaval to fight over it anymore, but still winds me up. Pathologically untidy he gets from me. Bloody-minded and argumentative he gets from me and my ex.

hart44

Good morning messies

No cleaning here for me today, Im off cleaning Mrs W's today
It's a bit cooler this morning as it's just started raining so it should be easier to do something later

Helen Doc has given me some more happy pills and I have to see him again next month I am feeling a bit better, I think everything just got to me

Trolly it's good to see you back The heat makes everyone grummpy so I hope all is well in your house again earwigs are a pain I need to sort my car out as it is covered in dog hair and rubbish at the mo but it will have to wait for now :rotfl:

MummyEm I know how you feel about cleaning with the kids home, I must have washed up every cup and plate yesterday as my 2 used a clean one every time :mad: soon told them if they didn't help they will not be drinking or eating again :rotfl:

Mcculloch my DD is like your DS I put clean, folded clothes in her room for her to put away and find them dumped in a pile until she creats an avalanche pulling a top out, she has 2 chest of drawers and a wardrobe in her tiny room so there is no need to clutter it she say's I fuss too much

Natlie hope you are not pushing yourself too hard not long now till LO arrives

I had better get dressed now or I will not be going anywhere

Have a great day messies and will try catch up later x

hot.chick

Hello all,

I do wonder what it is in people that makes then TIDY by nature, and those of us like me who look at the mess and think, it's not going anywhere...... and carry on regardless...

I do wish I had the TIDY gene, I'd probably be a bit thinner too as I'd be on the go more

helen_jelly

Morning all

Well it got far too hot in the end yesterday!! Today its raining so the kids are indoors so I doubt I'll get much done today and if I cleared the ironing I'd have another room to put 1 of them in doing something!!! DD is on a misssion [already] to wind up DS so I don't think it will be happy times here

See you all later with a catch up of what I haven't done!!!

Helen x

mcculloch29

Thanks for the welcomes.
With my Mum, tidiness was definitely a national trait, and with my Dad, being more relaxed about mess was the same. I am Estonian in looks and many of my ways, but sadly not the physical trait of tidiness, though I am very organised and efficient in other areas, thankfully.

laurel7172

At the last count, there were five teenagers in the living room.

In a tent.

Don't ask. But I have a feeling that it's my living room that gets used because I'm a Messie. Tidier mums would have hysterics. I, on the other hand, get to meet all my daughter's friends. (And then have hysterics :rotfl:?)

Anyway, I cooked all the food in the fridge that needed cooking, tidied up the kitchen and...now I just need to stay out of the way. So I'm on my bed with cat, netbook and huge mug of tea. It's a sacrifice, obviously, but it's tough being a parent.

candygirl

BARGAINBUNNY don't bother ordering them ties hun, they're about as much use as a chocolate teapot:(:(
Been packing today, and still have tons to do, hate soritng out stuff for hols:mad::mad:OH is working late again soo grrrrrrrr:mad::mad:

rosalie-lavender

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laurel7172 wrote: »

At the last count, there were five teenagers in the living room.

In a tent.

Don't ask. But I have a feeling that it's my living room that gets used because I'm a Messie. Tidier mums would have hysterics. I, on the other hand, get to meet all my daughter's friends. (And then have hysterics :rotfl:?)

Anyway, I cooked all the food in the fridge that needed cooking, tidied up the kitchen and...now I just need to stay out of the way. So I'm on my bed with cat, netbook and huge mug of tea. It's a sacrifice, obviously, but it's tough being a parent.

That made me smile. My largest number to date is 11 not including my three:eek: although I think it was only 8 that stayed the night. There is another evening planned for Saturday night but it is very hit and miss how many if any turn up. It seems the maximum this time is 6.

At least I know where my three are though, even if it makes for a noisy evening. Apparently they like coming here because I don't go in at midnight and tell them all to go to bed. To be fair we do live a long way from town and it saves parents driving out late at night to get their offspring. We do also have no young children and have a bigger (more messy) house than some of their friends have.

It is a good job I am a messy really or I would have a fit at all the sleeping bodies. TBH though, after seeing my eldest through a nasty bout of depression and sitting in a doctors surgery while he told the doctor how he thought about killing himself, there is nothing I like to hear more than the happy sound of teenagers laughter.

How on earth did your lot manage get a tent up in the living room though? I have seen those pop up tents for children but Five teenagers wouldn't have fitted in the ones I have seen.

laurel7172

Rosalie-the end bedrooms sort of peg out rather than lie within the main poles, so they're squishy.

And, it has to be said, there isn't a lot of living room left