life is getting me down

sjc3

Is your husband aware of how his approach to diy is making you feel? The only way to turn that situation around is to talk to him and make it clear that their needs to be a compromise decided between the two of you. I couldnt live happily in a place, as you describe your home.

Have been in the same position as you on the job front in the past. The uncertainty of being made redundant, especially in these times, is enough to make anyone depressed. Its annoying when colleagues who give less to their job get promoted. See this as a flashing neon light that if you get made redundant it could be a blessing in disguise. This company you work for obviously dont see your potential and you will get fed up of getting held back by them.

To be honest Id be looking for a new job if I got overlooked for promotion. Make yourself the decider of your potential and apply for a job you really want. You may not get it instantly but just going for it will give you a boost.

I wish you luck

pupsicola

kirstiex wrote: »

he does recognise this is OCD and I have made it visit the doctors. They gave him a leaflet and told him to contact a mental health clinic for some cognitive bevahiour therapy but he says he hasn't got time and it's won't make any difference.

I don't really have any close friends to talk this through with, hence my posting here. My mum is getting on in years and I don't want to cause her stress either

If you were a friend of mine or a work colleague I wouldn't laugh at the situation you are in, if you confided in me what you were having to cope with. It is ridiculous to have to live in the conditions that you are.

Your partner is not a perfectionist. Perfectionists can rarely stand to live in the chaos you do. They see a job needs doing, work out everything to the minutest details and get it done and spot on. It may take a bit of time but it is done.

Your partner thinks its normal to live as you do with no windows, sitting on deckchairs to eat and plumbing up your washing machine outside :eek:

I think you are a saint to stay with him to be honest. Especially when you raise how his approach to things makes you feel and it just ends in arguments and no acknowledgement that he needs help on his behalf. Life is too short, can you really see yourself living like this forever more?

penguin7

Im sorry this sounds so harsh but I think you should leave your husband.He clearly dosent make you happy, We only get one life and its short so best to live it happily!