Should this be happening at school?

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel

I thought i;d give you a little insight to what happened to me last week. DD is 4 this year. Comes home. "Mummy, Do you know that boy's have 'boy bits' and girls have 'girly bits' and we dont pee the same!"

That's all she would say on the matter

So I asked at nursery. Turns out one of the little boys REALLY needed the toilet, so he went there and then in the play ground. In front of all the girls. So the teachers sat down and explained to the class that boys and girls are different but didnt really go in to it and informed parents when they collected the children (I didnt pick DD up - mum forgot to tell me!)

I didnt see it as a problem (ok, peeing - yes thats wrong. but explaining the difference between boys and girls as they didnt go into too much detail) but another mother kicked right off about how disgusting it is and that at 4 they shouldnt know that boys are different to girls. I sat and listened to the teacher make apologies before turning to the mother and saying "but hang on, wasnt it your little darling who told my daughter where babies came from?!" (In detail!)

I think the best thing to do would explain the differences and whats right and wrong and what not to do or say in class! Hopefully they'll listen. Speak to teacher also and ask what they suggest

kimmy112

Zoetoes wrote: »

Of course it's funny! Balls, willies and bums are hilarious when you're 7!!

and its still funny now :rotfl:

Dorastar

Just going back to the original post and from a teacher's point of view (don't shoot me please) it does very much depend on the circumstances ie when they were doing it, how often they were doing it, how many times they had been told not and continued etc etc. The whole 'charge' issue probably relates more to their continuing or ignoring the teacher rather than the actual 'act'.

They do have a natural joy about anything involving body parts, smells, willies, wee, bottoms, toilets in fact the same as most grown men - tbh once they've found their willies at about 2 years old they are never without a friend! If you are still concerned I would go and see the teacher and just check the background to the 'charge but as you have spoken to him about the appropriateness of his actions I would leave it and see how he gets on.

fantasia322

January20 wrote: »

Of course being parent to 1 or 2 or 3 children makes one so much more knowledgeable than a fully trained teacher!

It most certainly does, especially if the teacher is not the parent of a child in the age group. I think you are a bit too prim and proper for a conversation like this lol, either that or are someone who would not let a child explore there own sexuality.
There isnt anything dirty about it. Its normal and natural for kids to behave the way that was described in 1st post.
Just the place that was inappropriate. Or may be just a litle repressed.
Chill out and relax

Savvy_Sue

Is it just me wondering about this:

jodie114 wrote: »

in the hall when they had singing practice, when they all were standing there holding thier socks anyway.

why were they all standing there holding their socks? asking for trouble, IMO ...

But I'm the mother whose child insisted that S was for Sperm in Reception ... who also drew a penis on his alphabet chart, with pee coming out of it. The effect was somewhat spoiled by its similarity to a carrot, but there you go.

His bit brother had just had 'the talk', and we'd been asked to chat about it at home, which we'd done. I thought big brother would find it less awkward if he didn't have to have 'the chat' on his own.

LJM

your childs school seems very harsh to me class exclusions at age 7 im shocked. it is completely normal to make little jokes and laugh etc about it being told off could have repurcussions down the line

January20

Dippypud wrote: »

No, that's not what was said...

Did you have a really sh!tty day at work today?...

mmm no I didn't have a !!!!!! day at work but if you want to be patronising with me you'll have to expect me to be the same with you and say: learn to read - I didn't quote YOUR post!

January20

Zoetoes wrote: »

Is this not the sarcastic post?

Yes it was a sarcastic post but I'm a teacher and I don't have a son but I blooming well know a thing or two about boys!

I'm sick and tired of people always criticising, doubting teachers and being ready to publically flog them for daring to disagree with parents or even simply for following school rules.

And post 15 really implied that if the teacher had no chidren herself then she knew little about children!

FatVonD

Socks down trousers must be the boy equivalent of balloons up jumper to the girls and we've all done that, haven't we? (Or was that just me?!)

January20

FatVonD wrote: »

Socks down trousers must be the boy equivalent of balloons up jumper to the girls and we've all done that, haven't we? (Or was that just me?!)

I don't know how old you are but I think the things that were "acceptable" in the past ie teachers turned a blind eye to, are often now not deemed appropriate anymore. For instance, when I was a girl, boys in my school used to pinch the developping chest of girls for fun. Teachers would routinely do nothing about it, eventhough it wasn't nice for the girls. Today, quite rightly, it would be seen as very, very wrong.